As I said earlier on this thread I had a non English surname before I got married. When I was young everytime I told someone my name I would have to spell it for them and they would say 'Where's that from? Or 'where are you from?.' I would then explain that my dad's family were from X.
The inference was always that I must be a foreigner. As long as people were pleasant about it there was no problem, but I did get a lot of piss taking when I was at school. The most annoying thing was people deliberately mispronouncing my name and thinking it was funny. I learned to be resilient and tell people to fuck off if they were being deliberately rude.
Now we seem to live in a culture where everyone has a chip on their shoulder instead of being proud of their roots/heritage. I don't see this as a step forward.
It took me and one of my closest friends a few days to decide her then-unborn daughter's name. Friend belongs to a very traditional and religious family but is settled in the US, with a surname that was involved in a political scandal (totally unrelated). The name had to be easy to spell and pronounce, with no negative connotations in the most common languages, sound as universal as possible while maintaining connection to the roots, and couldn't be distorted into something rude.
Though I personally know how cruel kids and older people can find something to make fun of when they really want to. If they could do it to my first name and surname, both not that uncommon especially in my region, shared by celebrities etc..
![Person shrugging :person_shrugging: 🤷](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f937.png)
But then these were people who thought the character George from Enid Blyton's Famous Five was my boyfriend (I was reading a book in front of them
![Face screaming in fear :scream: 😱](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f631.png)
![Face screaming in fear :scream: 😱](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f631.png)
![Face with rolling eyes :rolling_eyes: 🙄](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f644.png)
![Face with rolling eyes :rolling_eyes: 🙄](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f644.png)
![Face with rolling eyes :rolling_eyes: 🙄](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/gh/joypixels/emoji-assets@5.0/png/64/1f644.png)
). Took a while to get it, but that was some life lesson
For the little one we finally went with the name suggested by her grandmother, fingers now permanently crossed, and her mum and aunt very ready to teach her to snap back
The rude comments could be explained away as kids being kids or people just being annoying for entertainment. Unfortunately though, the world really has become so much more intolerant of any perceivable differences. And there is a definite lack of sense of humour. No wonder that so many shoulders are sagging under the weight of those proverbial chips.
But then that's an explanation, not an excuse to deliberately create even more of a divide.