Gender inequality raises fundamentally with the birth of a second child. If she is struggling now with her role, it's going to get worse. It's a systematic problem, she is not really prepared to handle it on an individual level. I still think she is really lost with her life direction and that's why she is so focussed on conceiving again.
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Her new video... wow.... I got as far as her saying "duck you, you don't know me" and closed it and unsubscribed. She'd maybe be getting less "judgey" comments about how she disliked being a parent if she didn't continuously make videos about how much she dislikes being a parent 
That part of the video made me feel sad, like when she said something along the lines of 'I need a break from my kid'. Is her kid one day going to see that and wonder 'was I so awful'. Of course she's going to get questioning comments when her whole online presence is deeply coded that she had her kid and ruined her life, despite how much she protests that she loves it. Maybe she just doesn't realise how negative it appears from the viewer's side.Her new video... wow.... I got as far as her saying "duck you, you don't know me" and closed it and unsubscribed. She'd maybe be getting less "judgey" comments about how she disliked being a parent if she didn't continuously make videos about how much she dislikes being a parent
I love the way she starts with "I'm a content creator and also a mum but I don't really show my kid online". No, you don't show his face but his back has made into several videos, I've heard him babbling in several videos, you've told us about every time he's sick and what he eats and what he likes and he appears in at least three thumbnails over the last year or so. You've done at least five videos in the last year with "as a mum" in the title, two with "motherhood" and at least another eight that are about having a child in some way ("with my two-year-old", "with a baby", "motherhood" or "mum" in the thumbnail etc). You're this close to being a mommy vlogger but you think you're "better than that" because you used to be organised and have a work ethic.
Exactly, showing a picture is much less invasive (albeit I still don't think content creators should) than the personal details she does share
For someone that very clearly doesn’t find motherhood fulfilling in any way it’s shocking that she is trying for a second. Does she think it’ll change anything?
I saw a tiktok from a dad that said that one-child parenting is hobby parenting and that the tit hits the fan at two kids lol. I don't think she necessarily finds motherhood unfulfilling, more like she is struggling with how she would like things to be and the reality of her situation (re: housing, career, parenting). I don't agree with all her parenting choices (no sleep training?) but she obviously loves her kid and I see why she would want a second despite the difficulties, especially because she has a clock literally ticking due to her medical stuff.The lady doth protest too much
Yeah - it is a super odd choice, they could easily stop at one (especially living in a small 2bed flat) … but she’s hell bent on a second.
It’s going to knock her sideways when it happens. My brother put it well when he said ‘one kid is one kid, two is like ten’.
Also I would assume she feels quite lonely and she's been vocal about that and the fact that not many of her OG friends have kids or they don't live in close proximity. In some ways it sounds like she'd be much happier in Manchester and I don't understand the obsession with staying in London apart from maybe Dan's work.
I watched through most of Hannah's video about working without childcare... It felt very unfair to call that "without childcare," I think. She quite literally had her parents watching her son so she could sleep in, scroll on tiktok, etc.! She 1000% had childcare! I often feel like I can be a bit dramatic with my hate towards influencers sometimes, but this felt just weird. Sure her son kept poking into the room she was working in or whatever, but I imagine that happens a lot if you work from home. It certainly wasn't enough to consider that "working without childcare" when her father would barge in after and say "sorry!" and pull him out of the room!
I know it’s a good thing that people recognise the amount of work it takes to raise a child but i can’t explain why it still makes me cringe sometimes how people like Hannah and Melanie speak about it nowadays. I can’t imagine my mam (and that generation) in the 80s/90s talking about her day “as doing a full day of *parenting* without childcare” when it was just a normal day.
Admittedly I wont be watching the video but does she actually have an assistant? For what?! She works 20 hours a week at a push and by her own admission.
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It made sense when she was making two videos and a podcast every week. Now she's scraping the barrel to monetise her hobbies, it really doesn't require three people anymore.
I feel really bad about harping on about her hormones all the time. But I’m genuinely in disbelief about her fertility woes. She’s either very ill informed or pretending to be.
She said her menstrual cycle length is something like 80 days. Obviously nature is wonderful and miracles happen but the odds of a natural pregnancy are close to nil with hormones that out of whack - even when she does menstruate it’s unlikely that the prior ovulation was successful/viable.
I have severe PCOS and have spent years figuring this all out and getting my hormones back on track. Mainly I managed through diet, exercise and supplementation which all came from my own research into the huge amount of evidence out there. I went from cycle lengths similar to hers, to a regular 30ish day cycle and semi-regular ovulation. This was mainly through blood sugar management with diet and exercise. Slouching around all day eating 10 ham sandwiches is not exactly conducive to fixing her insulin resistance, even if she’s prescribed metformin.
She admitted herself that when she conceived Rowan she was in the best physical shape she’s ever been in, noted that it wasn’t a coincidence, then talked herself out of it because she didn’t want to fixate on exercise. As somebody who also recovered from a major eating disorder I’m fairly impatient with non-disordered women like Hannah pretending they’re somehow vulnerable to disordered behaviours when they’re simply not. It’s an insulting misunderstanding of a mental health issue she doesn’t have - most people are able to change their diet and become more active without any issue.
Anyway. I’m just annoyed because her infertility is both severe yet very manageable if she was motivated to improve it, but she’s talking about it as if it’s a big mystery she’s passively waiting to be solved. At this point I’m pretty sure she’s just hanging out until she qualifies for NHS fertility support.
But if she wanted it to desperately, she could just pay - an IUI would be cheap(ish) and almost definitely successful if PCOS is her only barrier. It’s basically chemically induced ovulation, followed by insemination directly into the uterus. Would be under a couple of thousand and she could be pregnant before August. I don’t get her at all.
She said her menstrual cycle length is something like 80 days. Obviously nature is wonderful and miracles happen but the odds of a natural pregnancy are close to nil with hormones that out of whack - even when she does menstruate it’s unlikely that the prior ovulation was successful/viable.
I have severe PCOS and have spent years figuring this all out and getting my hormones back on track. Mainly I managed through diet, exercise and supplementation which all came from my own research into the huge amount of evidence out there. I went from cycle lengths similar to hers, to a regular 30ish day cycle and semi-regular ovulation. This was mainly through blood sugar management with diet and exercise. Slouching around all day eating 10 ham sandwiches is not exactly conducive to fixing her insulin resistance, even if she’s prescribed metformin.
She admitted herself that when she conceived Rowan she was in the best physical shape she’s ever been in, noted that it wasn’t a coincidence, then talked herself out of it because she didn’t want to fixate on exercise. As somebody who also recovered from a major eating disorder I’m fairly impatient with non-disordered women like Hannah pretending they’re somehow vulnerable to disordered behaviours when they’re simply not. It’s an insulting misunderstanding of a mental health issue she doesn’t have - most people are able to change their diet and become more active without any issue.
Anyway. I’m just annoyed because her infertility is both severe yet very manageable if she was motivated to improve it, but she’s talking about it as if it’s a big mystery she’s passively waiting to be solved. At this point I’m pretty sure she’s just hanging out until she qualifies for NHS fertility support.
But if she wanted it to desperately, she could just pay - an IUI would be cheap(ish) and almost definitely successful if PCOS is her only barrier. It’s basically chemically induced ovulation, followed by insemination directly into the uterus. Would be under a couple of thousand and she could be pregnant before August. I don’t get her at all.
She’s just posted a video on Instagram in her underwear (for no reason)… weirdo
I feel very similarly. My cycle is around 43-45 days, and I've been slowly regulating it through diet, exercise, etc., and it's NOT EASY. I've learned a LOT about this because my partner and I are interested in having a baby in the semi-distant future, and we've had to take fertility and hormonal health into our own hands because we could NEVER afford any of the healthcare options (we live in the USA lol).
I think it's frustrating to see someone in a position where she could very, very easily help herself if she put the effort into it because she has the time (god, does she have the time!!!), money, resources, etc., especially as someone who doesn't have any of that and has had to do all of this around working lots of jobs, not having much money, etc.!
She needs her bra fitted better than this.
Kind of related to your comment, I found it really frustrating to listen to her comments about that book she read for that award, A Better Second Half. She kept saying she wasn't the target audience because she wasn't interested in "optimising every aspect of her health" and "only thinking about what an individual can do for their health, and not the failings of the system as a whole" and how Liz Earle didn't mention how things like chronic illness or disability or poverty can affect someone's ability to do all those things, and how expensive it would be to follow every recommendation in the book.
I don't know why it rubbed me the wrong way so much I just felt like Hannah must have some really black and white thinking, like if you try to better your health you must be going over and optimising every tiny thing. Or if you read a book like that you have to do every single thing in it, and you can't just take what works for you.
I think Hannah just doesn't want to acknowledge that she could probably make some better choices with regard to her health, she seems to think that any effort to do so would be putting her on a pathway to overdoing it, getting an eating disorder and becoming fatphobic. You can be actively trying to improve your health and your weight without it becoming a negative thing in your life!
At the beginning of her recent video about the to-do list bingo card, she says that her channel is about 'finding joy and play in adulthood and parenthood'. I don't think anyone would describe her content that way?
no way... all i get from her channel is someone who doesn't know what their job is anymore and has no clear purpose or direction, and is also sorely missing the village she COULD have in manchester. she doesn't even seem to enjoy parenting that much.
I cheekily opened instagram at work and that was the first post
