Yes it is nuts and ridiculous - people can refer to each other in an informal situation however they want to - I haven't lived in a cave for the last 40yrs and I understand some black people call each other 'n*****' - but to say it is acceptable to produce a song with the word 'n*****' but it is not ok to sing along is ridiculous!!
How black do you have to be to make it ok? I have a friend who is light skinned, light brown hair and blue-green eyes - she's mixed race and lighter than me - is it ok for her to sing along? How many generations back make it ok to sing along to a song with offensive lyrics?

Racism is never ok, and to use offensive language to others is completely unacceptable - but the allegations that Torode used racist language to others on a number of occasions came after the initial 'singing along N word' allegation - which was the initial reason given for Torode being sacked or not having his contract renewed and this is what I was actually talking about.