Grackle #2

[RobinsNest]

It is very different from non-religious / less strictly religious people dating in my opinion. I have dated many people in my life with zero intention of having a long-lasting relationship let alone marrying. Those as well, but not all of them. I think a lot of us can relate to that right? Some people you just start dating to see where it goes. I think it's different for them, which is fine. I just know i'm not surprised if she suddenly announces her engagement. She's been talking about pregnancy for quite a long time, too, and how excited she is for that. To be honest, despite her being quite immature and inexperienced, I do think getting married and maybe starting a family in the (near/later) future will be good for her. I think she'll be a good partner and a very good mom. She already shows a lot of it by making lunches and organizing fun stuff for her family. I am sure she will be able to create a very good, loving household. She can continue to work... youtube or at a bakery or anything else she sets her eyes on. I am not worried about all of this in the slightest. She has many flaws and I'm often very critical of her and her behaviour and I stand by that, but I also think she has many skills.

My family are mega-CoE, so all my family and friends got married at 18. My parents met and married within 6 months, my sister was married within 4 (because she got pregnant!). Some of my cousins were married at 16, because all their friends were dating and having sex and we weren't supposed to, so they just got married to join in. At least Grace is mature enough to wait until her 20s to even begin dating if she's aware that this is how it goes. My family would continue to set me up with guys from the local churches so it's nice to see her parents have never forced this on her like many religious families do, and I was always spoken about like I was some sort of bubonic plague-carrying witch.

 

[Doc]

I know it’s not the modern girl boss way but good for her. Family is clearly her priority in life, she’s in her 20s which imho physically and socially is the best time to start a family (I think we infantilise adults where starting a family is concerned). She’s travelled, set up her own business, has good support and social life. Nice one Grace. I wish I’d done the same in all honesty.

 

[sephylily]

I wonder if she feels she's regressed a bit with the pandemic? I feel like she was really taking off and making progress with her content and homesickness just before/right as it hit and it's hit her quite hard in terms of getting back out there. I can relate, I do feel a lot of my social skills have been affected by lockdowns and the pandemic in general. Before, she at least had her brother and Chloe to bounce off when she was in the supermarket just chatting, but it feels she went out a lot more to London and other places even just casually than nowadays. I suppose there's a fine line since if she does go out more it's risking more with covid and things are still shut down, but it makes her content look very samey and not that original anymore.

i do feel a bit sorry for her in that she seemed really close to her siblings and it's never easy to be the youngest and the one that gets 'left behind' when everyone else has started moving out.

 

[CalatheaLater]

I love Grace. I do. But I’m finding unless it’s an ‘eating like....’ video etc - I’m just switching off. It’s repetitive as f. Macha something, bake something, Honor something, sanny pads honouree mention for the second time in a month (never mentioned it. Ever. Before then) as an excuse for going to the supermarket.

I really, really love Grace. Since day 1. But I feel the bigger she’s getting- the more she’s struggling with content. I know it’s lockdown etc.But. Yeah.

I'm not sure if she is struggling for content, but I think the issue is that her content has always been somewhat repetitive because she's just filming her life, which mainly includes cooking or running errands. Personally I like repetitive content becuase I mainly watch while doing other stuff, but I can see how it won't be good in the longrun for viewer retainment

 

[oshare]

Then surely you just put it on the table/in your bag.. the things she worries about are very immature

I think it's both wrong of her and her parents. At some point you parents have to teach you to leave your stuffed animals and comfort blankets at home and that you can ~survive the world~ without it, that you HAVE to. It's clear they always let her be the little baby of the family and never told her to start taking steps into becoming more mature. She herself also clearly has never realized that maybe her behavior isn't suitable and okay anymore for her age. Like I said, having a plush is okay for any age and if it's brings comfort that's totally fine. I have a big dog plush at home (I can't have a real dog) but it's just there on a shelf to look at, I never grab it or anything. For her it represents something (comfort/home). I understand she has fear of leaving home and stuff, but it's something she needs to work on. Leaving her teddy home would help her immencely i think.

 

[caterday28]

She can still be viral.

Anyway, what do you think about Honor? They have been friends for years, but she started appearing in Grace's videos when she (Grace) got more publicity..

Honor is not popular on this forum - I think a lot of people find her irritating! I was personally quite taken aback at how... posey her Instagram is (she loves an eye f*ck!)... she's a beautiful girl but it makes me cringe.

 

[pbjellie]

I used to watch Grace's videos all the time, they were so refreshing and different to the perfect aesthetic youtuber videos but now I barely watch anymore as it's just the same thing over and over again! I love Grace as a person, she seems like such a sweetheart but I can't help feeling that she's got a bit lost and followed the money instead of her passion. I think she would do really well to try and get into some kind of food development role or work in a foodie business, a 'real job' would do her a lot of good and I think she'd enjoy it, she seems very much a people person.

 

[CabalofBolorneaise]

I don't personally get any controlling vibes from their family at all. I'm not religious so I'll admit, the faith thing is a bit weird to me, but just from personal preference, I don't think they come across as weird in the sense that they are an opressive household with dangerous attitudes towards food. Probably the opposite to be honest, lots of homemade meals and desserts using real foods. Sure they snack alot, but most of us do even if we know we maybe shouldn't. I think as a society we often have a misinformed idea of how big portion sizes should be, just look up the size of your stomach and you'll realise most of us are eating way more than we actually need.

I do occasionally get weird vibes but I think it’s the faith thing (which is totally alien to me so likely a me issue rather than them) plus the contrast between her dad who clearly loves being on camera and her mum who is obviously really uncomfortable and often comes across as quite snappy/negative.

I don’t reckon her mum is probably like that in real life, i think it’s just how her discomfort with the camera comes out.

 

[Deeznutslol]

I don't really understand why people think a divorce is so difficult. Me and my partner have very intertwined finances, sorting that out would be difficult whether we were married or not. A divorce is just a legal thing, all of the finances is the bit that's difficult and that needs to be sorted either way


The divorce is just the legal bit, the other stuff involved is difficult to sort out, which needs sorting either way

What? There are so many reasons why a divorce is often difficult, for a start you have to have been married for over a year to even be allowed to get divorced, secondly both parties have to agree to it, if one refuses then it instantly becomes much more complicated, solicitors have to get involved (which will cost you) and you could even end up having to go to court if it cannot be resolved.
It’s often not easy at all lmao.

 

[judgingyourlife]

Nah I think it's perfectly reasonable to read here if there's threads about you!! Who the hell wouldn't lol, the temptation to look must be crazy

 

[Kit123]

I don't watch Grackle anymore because sadly I found her videos boring! However, that one just came up and had to watch.
Really happy for her, wish her all the best.
I think that's just how church folk do it which if it works the great! No shame from me, I'm a single parent

 

[poollounger]

I don’t really see the issue with her not talking about the potential boyfriend tbh. Her channel has never had a focus on dating, she’s only mentioned it in passing. I reckon she’s just worried to publicly say anything in case they break up because then she’d have to address it. I can’t see her properly talking about/showing a relationship on her channel until they’re ready to get engaged

 

[CoffeeMamma]

I’m a practicing Church of England (Protestant). We have gay members of our church who attend regularly with their adopted children, we had a child before our marriage and had our union blessed in the church, and our Sunday school teacher is divorced. Times have absolutely moved on.

 

[oshare]

Yes this is it, to me it feels like she is still living in lockdown 1 tbh.
99% of her videos are filmed inside her house and every single one is the same

To be honest, filming inside someone's home is not the problem here. I follow many creators who only film from their home, but I think it's the way she does it and the repetitiveness that's so extremely boring. Even she seems fed up a lot of times and it shows. She clearly has no direction anymore now that she's done most of the ideas she had in her head. I would love to see her explore new things, and that can be both inside the house or outside, really doesn't matter. There are many things she could do or take on indoors that are good content to watch, as long as she puts in the actual effort. These days she's boring and fed up OR she's screaming around like a small child with (an almost) fake enthusiasm, which definitely got worse when her siblings moved out. I feel like she's stuck between wanting to be the young, small child of the family (which she heavily displays when her family is around) and an adult (which is obviously is).

 

[pbjellie]

It’s so weird how being a homemaker is vilified, like the woman has a lobotomy and is chained to the kitchen sink in a subservient role.

I don't think anyone is trying to vilify being a housewife but the fact is that Grace is very young to be settling down and would be moving straight out of her parent's house into a house she shares with her partner and then her children when the time comes. She hasn't really had the chance to live on her own, travel or build a career so it just seems a shame but ultimately it is her life and her choice !

I don't want to speak for your experience but you might not feel the same way if you hadn't experienced the professional career and had gone straight into life as a homemaker in your early 20s... plus the ultra competitive job will have given you many skills and a network which probably have helped you in your life now, I think for young women especially the financial independence and experiences granted by having a career are not to be overlooked, and being able to later show your children that women can have successful working lives too : )

 

[caterday28]

They just want to marry because they don't agree with sleeping together before marriage.

 

[jaboga510]

Boring NYC videos skipper through a lot of the supermarket one maybe they will get better, but hey she still gets a lot of views so why try to hard.

 

[oshare]

Both her parents are teachers, right? So I can imagine they have pretty stressful jobs and life outside of their house. Honestly if I had a long day at work and my child had cooking a whole dinner and a half and narrated EVERY single piece of information about it I would not have a good reaction either probably. Though I do think they appreciate all her delicious meals, but I understand that you can sometimes snap a bit when you know Grace is not giving the full or correct information after a long and stressful day. After all, Grace hasn't had much to do all day apart from cooking, filming and editing. I'm not saying she doesn't work hard but she can set her own pace whereas the rest of the family doesn't have that luxury.

It's hard to break out of certain roles even as people age/change. For example, the child will always be treated as a child, even when said child may end up caring for the parent. I don't think that's a bad thing really, as long as you give each other space to grow and develop. I do think her parents give her that space but that Grace is not willing to. She really seems to enjoy being the youngest child.

 

[Westeryonder21]

I wish she leaned more into "Grace Tries", maybe make it more of a production. Go to different little bakeries or cafe's, little restaurants and "try" to cook their menu and work there for a day. Advertise small business's and learn new things.
Would be much more interesting than cooking in the kitchen.

 

[actuallyashley]

She’s hinting at oral b in her stories now to send her a new toothbrush

I really like Grace but I feel like I’ll be unsubbing/unfollowing in the next few months. Every YouTuber hits a point where they lose integrity because it becomes a job and they care about earning money more than making good content. I feel Grace is becoming more like this every day

as if i’ve just made an account to agree with this? a massive eye roll from me when i saw it on the stories. now we will have a shocked unpacking in a video where she didn’t expect it to be sent out.