Gender Discussion #66

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I know someone who has five children to four different fathers. Sadly, these now adult children haven't had lasting relationships of their own and the pattern has repeated.
 
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I stress my point about introducing new partners to children was aimed equally at men and women.
 
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I stress my point about introducing new partners to children was aimed equally at men and women.
I realised that, but the ones who end up with more children than they can care for are almost always the women. Men can just walk away, and many do, most women can't /don't.

I agree that neither parent should be pushing their new partner onto their children before they are sure the relationship has a good chance, and even then the introduction should be a gradual one - nothing should be rushed. And when it's one new girlfriend/boyfriend after another, children don't know if they're coming or going. It's particularly hurtful if a child has started to bond with mum or dad's new partner and then that person is suddenly out of their lives. Most children get a chance to keep in touch with their birth/adoptive parents, but it's different with a step-parent. Even if the adult would like to continue the relationship with the step-child, they have no legal rights whatsoever, no matter how good and stabilising an influence they are on the child, or how desperately the child needs such a person in their lives..
 
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It's hard being a parent of young children.
I remember taking my daughter shopping when she was a toddler and she ran off in a clothes shop and hid in the middle of one of those circular clothes rails. Then she started having a melt down tantrum. I was telling her off and I got looks of disapproval from those who thought I was being mean and those that disapproved of her behaviour. You can’t win sometimes.
Personally I prefer to see parents telling their children off than allowing bad behaviour but the world seems to be full of people now who think that if you raise your voice you should be reported to social services
 
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I'm tempted to go to it and wear my Terf tshirt.
Imagine if the entire audience was just TERFs with TERF t-shirts on They’d go through with it no less but they’d be shaking inside. “What I thought this play was for TERFs?”

The audience is made up of entirely women with faces like this who never react and there’s no applause at the end.
 
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Just seen
 
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That’s amazing and wouldn’t have been ‘permitted’ by any branch of Waterstones a year ago. I was going to buy the book online, but when I walked past my local branch and they had copies of Grandad’s Pride and other TRA shite in their window display, I felt duty bound to go in and counteract it by purchasing The Women who Wouldn’t Wheesht from there.
 
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Ugh, our Green Party candidate in the election is a “trans woman”. Pronouns she/her, i/se

hope he comes round canvassing so I can give him a piece of my mind
 
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Totally agree! I’ve carried my screaming toddler out of a clothes shop with her kicking and screaming, but I’d rather that and me tell her off than the parents that just ignore their kid or allow them to run around shops or restaurants like hooligans because they don’t want to tell their kid off or actually parent them. I am sick of the gentle parent parents too sorry I am derailing talking about parenting on a gender thread!
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I so need to purchase this book! Has anyone on here read it yet?
 
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I recall a little shit kid in my son's primary school class who was an absolute nightmare. He destroyed other children's work, screamed and cried if he didn't get his own way, had to have the toys he wanted when he wanted them - wouldn't take turns etc - I used to chat to his mother. She never checked him because she didn't want to "stifle his creativity" (or summat).

He had no friends because none of the other children wanted to play with him.
 
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Anyone been following Bromley Met’s gaslighting of the public? They are being schooled in the comments.





 
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Just be aware that some autistic kids need screens to regulate. I know you're not talking about kids with medical needs, but sometimes when you judge out in public, it's really hard to tell and for parents of ASD kids, it really is hard enough without judgy comments.


For the uninitiated, some kids on the spectrum need a screen while out to regulate their mood - it saves them distress. You can't force them to engage or teach them otherwise because that's quite cruel and insensitive. Behaviour modification (ABA) is not okay for people with autism.
 
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I find it deeply worrying that there are years long waits for autism/adhd, psychological, psychiatric services YET if you say your trans you can easily access drugs and major irreversible surgery when you probably need to escalate significant psychiatric/psychological issues first
 
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I think we should work on making this happen
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Higher risk of fire.

Is it bad that I laughed?
 

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Higher risk of self combusting in narcissistic indignation when faced with reality - they mean
 
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