Gender Discussion #41

[ScarlettOHaha]

I’ve googled. The pi symbol is on there in the pictures on the bookstore. No photoshop. Unbelievable.

When I first saw that bloke doing DQSH a couple of years ago I was offended by his name
Aida H Dee. I worked with lots of kids with autism and thought it was bad taste. I obviously also thought DQSH was very bad for us gays, bad for kids etc etc
Then last Autumn I discovered he was crowdfunding for his dead friend who was a convicted pedophile.
Now I see his children’s book is actively advertising PIE on the front cover.

I used to worry that telling people that DQSH was a form of grooming would make me sound like a mad woman. But this man is the perfect example of grooming. I hope a journalist gets hold of this and makes it a huge story, because as you can see, it’s in plain sight.
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So Corbyn did a whole thread of tweets for IWD including the suffragettes, South African women who fought for their rights during apartheid and indigenous women, and the only one that Owen Jones has decided to RT is the one about TIMs . Tell me you despise females without telling me you despise us!

eta apparently both of the dudes in the picture identify as gay men anyway
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Also STAR turned out to be more of a drug den than a shelter. I watched a documentary about early gay rights stuff recently and STAR didn’t last long. Why would anyone retweet something they so obviously know so little about? Corbyn is such a wanker. Owen Jones seems to get odder every day. He’s been posting pics of his muscles recently. I suspect he’s been dumped.

 

[NorthernValkyrie]

Happy International Women's Day to all my fellow XX Chromosome-havers

KJK talks about the state of gender ideology in Australia. What in the actual...

 

[Cocobaby09]

Fully agree with Miriam Cates here.

 

[Jessica Fletcher]

I’m not sure why I’m writing this, but I just need to get it off my chest. I’ve always been a little bit of a tomboy growing up, and when I was 15/16 up until I was around 18 or so, I had extremely short hair and I dressed androgynous and I loved it. I even wondered what it’d be like to be a boy. Essentially, I hated my femininity. However, now that has completely flipped. I’m in my early twenties now, and I love nail varnish (never quite got on board with the whole makeup thing sadly haha), and I love wearing skirts and I love wearing dresses. It somehow still feels a bit weird that I’ve become comfortable with my femininity, but I love it. I’m even growing my hair out for the first time since I was about 14. However, the only thing I don’t like are my periods because mine are very heavy and can be very painful sometimes. Unfortunately it’s different each month in terms of how painful/heavy my period is. When I was in my teens, the pain would be so bad I’d have to lie down or else I’d faint. Thankfully the pain is mostly just mild discomfort nowadays, but on rare occasions it can be very bad. I have no idea why I’m writing this, but I just wanted to put my thoughts out there. Essentially, I’m feeling very empowered by finding my femininity and my style. In fact, I now don’t like looking androgynous, which is a bit hard in this cold weather as a lot of my jumpers are quite loose fitting

We've all been failed by the medical system and society in relation to our bodies. To feel that there's something wrong with the female body, that pregnancy and birth should be medicalized (yes in some cases, but mostly not as it's a natural physiological process that doesn't need intervention, just support). We've been made to think that painful periods are normal and to just get on with it. Or to spend years or even decades taking hormonal contraceptives to "control" our fertility instead of being taught how to monitor our bodies and choose the right time to avoid/achieve pregnancy. The medical world has conveniently ignore women's health and put less research into understanding conditions like endometriosis, fibromyalgia etc, because they are complex and female.
Something as simple as a Vitamin D deficiency can cause heavy painful periods, easily detected by a blood test and fixed with supplements and dietary changes, and a bit more Time outside in the sun.

We have lived in an unbalanced world for so long know, women have been ignore, fobbed off, taught to expect pain and discomfort is normal, not allowed to trust our bodies and our femininity. I suspect a lot of teen girls as you described end up feeling super uncomfortable in their bodies when they are surrounded by an unbalanced, masculine focused world.
We need to celebrate our amazing bodies and genetics, be given the education to know and understand how they work and how to be healthy and comfortable in a woman's body, and more science should be funded and devoted to women's health. It's great you're finding happiness in your own skin and being more comfortable in your femininity!

 

[lizziebrooks1235]

We've all been failed by the medical system and society in relation to our bodies. To feel that there's something wrong with the female body, that pregnancy and birth should be medicalized (yes in some cases, but mostly not as it's a natural physiological process that doesn't need intervention, just support). We've been made to think that painful periods are normal and to just get on with it. Or to spend years or even decades taking hormonal contraceptives to "control" our fertility instead of being taught how to monitor our bodies and choose the right time to avoid/achieve pregnancy. The medical world has conveniently ignore women's health and put less research into understanding conditions like endometriosis, fibromyalgia etc, because they are complex and female.
Something as simple as a Vitamin D deficiency can cause heavy painful periods, easily detected by a blood test and fixed with supplements and dietary changes, and a bit more Time outside in the sun.

We have lived in an unbalanced world for so long know, women have been ignore, fobbed off, taught to expect pain and discomfort is normal, not allowed to trust our bodies and our femininity. I suspect a lot of teen girls as you described end up feeling super uncomfortable in their bodies when they are surrounded by an unbalanced, masculine focused world.
We need to celebrate our amazing bodies and genetics, be given the education to know and understand how they work and how to be healthy and comfortable in a woman's body, and more science should be funded and devoted to women's health. It's great you're finding happiness in your own skin and being more comfortable in your femininity!

I take iron supplements daily as I’m anemic and it really helps. I wish it was more commonly known that most teenagers feel uncomfortable during puberty! It really would be helpful.

 

[Django]

For all of the idiotic India Willoughby posts this one did make me laugh, you've got flipping big man feet!
But yes, some of these men are really getting off on IWD.

 

[wafflesnwings]

We've all been failed by the medical system and society in relation to our bodies. To feel that there's something wrong with the female body, that pregnancy and birth should be medicalized (yes in some cases, but mostly not as it's a natural physiological process that doesn't need intervention, just support). We've been made to think that painful periods are normal and to just get on with it. Or to spend years or even decades taking hormonal contraceptives to "control" our fertility instead of being taught how to monitor our bodies and choose the right time to avoid/achieve pregnancy. The medical world has conveniently ignore women's health and put less research into understanding conditions like endometriosis, fibromyalgia etc, because they are complex and female.
Something as simple as a Vitamin D deficiency can cause heavy painful periods, easily detected by a blood test and fixed with supplements and dietary changes, and a bit more Time outside in the sun.

We have lived in an unbalanced world for so long know, women have been ignore, fobbed off, taught to expect pain and discomfort is normal, not allowed to trust our bodies and our femininity. I suspect a lot of teen girls as you described end up feeling super uncomfortable in their bodies when they are surrounded by an unbalanced, masculine focused world.
We need to celebrate our amazing bodies and genetics, be given the education to know and understand how they work and how to be healthy and comfortable in a woman's body, and more science should be funded and devoted to women's health. It's great you're finding happiness in your own skin and being more comfortable in your femininity!

YES TO ALL OF THIS!! You'd be surprised at how much of an impact Magnesium can have on a woman's body/health (from sleep and stress management to help alleviate period pain etc.). I had sleep issues for years, an irregular period and eventually developed fibromyalgia. I kept being ignored by doctors who told me to go onto hormonal birth control, stock up on pain killers and none of it worked. Instead it messed up my hormones, sent me down a spiral of depression and extreme mood swings, hating my body and feeling hopeless. Thankfully I'm not in that space but I still have issues with my hormones. I noticed a huge change - for the better - when I took Magnesium tables and joined the woman's group I mentioned in an earlier post, drew on their advice and started using remedies from the older women in my family. I recently read a book called the Period Repair manual and realised how much I'd been told to distrust my body. It made such a big difference in helping me to better understand my body, my menstrual cycle and simple things doctors don't tell us - I've been recommending it to every single one woman I'm friends with. The female body is just incredible. I was never told this as a teenage girl, but it's only now as an adult I realise the magnificence of it all. It's wonderful to see more of us be comfortable with who we are as women - long may it continue!
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For all of the idiotic India Willoughby posts this one did make me laugh, you've got flipping big man feet!
But yes, some of these men are really getting off on IWD.
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Lol well maybe India should realise that TiMs have not been invited because they aren't women. How is it that they've managed to try turn IWD - which generally has a very international sisterhood "we" vibe - into an unwanted and highly sexualised me-me-me circus? It's just another day for them to be clout chasers, seek attention and be validated by strangers on the Internet. They lead such a truly sad and empty existence, but choose to blame that on women instead of getting help

 

[emmer_moans]

Look which "women" (they wish) comes top billing / first place on this IWD post. Fuuuuuuck off.

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Also, duck off, so men are "sisters" but actual women are "cis-ters" ?! NO!!

 

[lizziebrooks1235]

Essentially, I’m feeling very empowered by finding my femininity and my style.

Also just to add that I’m quite thankful that I’ve had a relatively good relationship with my body. Despite my discomfort in my teen years, I believe that’s due to just my discomfort of being feminine. Whilst I’m still not a complete girly girl, I’m a lot more ‘feminine’ now than I was in my teens.
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more science should be funded and devoted to women's health.

I 100% agree with this (and the rest of your post). It’s an absolute travesty that women’s health issues such as endometriosis take longer to diagnose. Women shouldn’t have to put up with pain just because it’s expected! Also, nurses should be paid more than they are! They are the backbone of the NHS, and have been a godsend to patients and their families. It’s all extremely unfair and the government needs to get their act together.

 

[katyazamo]

Saw something earlier about celebrating women AND non binary people today on international women's day.

You just have to laugh. Non binary people? Would that be the same non binary people who throw a tantrum unless referred to as they/them? The ones who categorically are not women? Ah, right, got it.

Piss off

 

[exhausted_mother]

Do we also celebrate and make space for non binary folk on international men’s day? Oh no we don’t.

 

[sylviepie]

On the local news (BBC North East) there's been a piece about an exhibition opening called "Missing Women". At Auckland Castle there's a permanent exhibition of Jacob (of the bible) and his sons and brothers. Presenter says "i.e. they're all male". So far so good. Then the curator, dressed in suffragette colours, says it's a great exhibition because they made sure the artists who did the fresh paintings of the women were all "non male identifying". Didn't even use the word women to describe the artists even though it was kind. Of. The. Whole. bleeping. Point.

 

[Ilovemusic]

Do we also celebrate and make space for non binary folk on international men’s day? Oh no we don’t.

Why do we have an "International Men's Day" when EVERY bloody day is a men's day!

 

[Icing _on_ the_cake]

As it’s International Women’s Day, who are some of your favourite female authors/books you love by women? My favourite authors include Jacqueline Wilson, Cathy Cassidy, Holly Bourne, Shirley Jackson, Diana Wynne Jones, and J.K. Rowling. My favourite book is We Have Always Lived In The Castle by Shirley Jackson

Elinor M Brent Dyer, Evelyn Smith, Mrs George de Horne Vaizey, Charlotte Yonge, Judy Blume, JKR, Enid Nesbit, Sharon Creech.

I also recommend the diary of Aya Kito.

 

[Vanelope]

As it’s International Women’s Day, who are some of your favourite female authors/books you love by women? My favourite authors include Jacqueline Wilson, Cathy Cassidy, Holly Bourne, Shirley Jackson, Diana Wynne Jones, and J.K. Rowling. My favourite book is We Have Always Lived In The Castle by Shirley Jackson

Diana Wynn Jones, Jackie Collins, Judith Kerr, Julia Donaldson, Malorie Blackman, Mary Oliver, Anne McCaffrey, Rebecca Roanhorse, N K Jemisin, Jane Austen, George Eliot, Edith Wharton, Helen Fielding, Hilary Mantel…

 

[ElektraWintour]

A small business I was looking to visit soon posted for IWD mentioning trans women it’s quite a niche shop so not sure if they’ve got any local competitors, will have to look elsewhere.

 

[maytoseptember]

I’m surprised there isn’t an International Non-Binary People’s Day to be honest. Surely only a matter of time?

Oh wait, they’d probably want at least a week…

 

[smellyfootballboots]

The UK public does not believe TWAW.

86% don’t want TW in Womens’ changing rooms.
83% don’t want TW in Women’s toilets.
79% don’t want TW in grape Crisis centres.
89% don’t want TW in Women’s sports
84%+ don’t want TW in Women’s’ prisons.

This is stark and unambiguous.

 

[Cocobaby09]

For all of the idiotic India Willoughby posts this one did make me laugh, you've got flipping big man feet!
But yes, some of these men are really getting off on IWD.
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Showing off his shapeless manly body. Well done Himdia Stillaboy

 

[DoraMaar]

Happy IWD Tattlers