Female Dating Strategy did an excellent podcast on this. They discuss the notion that we need to stop separating a person's character from their kink. A person who gets off on choking you is not a good person, irrespective of safe words etc.Maybe I'm "boring"/not a very sexual person, maybe I'm just a "kink shamer", maybe it's because I have Ptsd from SA, but I just don't see why it's considered sexy or normal to hit/choke women during sex.
I disagree. Kink is completely different from person to person. I like degradation and being choked (with proper safe words + ton of aftercare). No abuse in my childhood or family. My fiance comes from a stable family too. Yes, there are bad actors in the BDSM space but I personally think it's wrong to think a person is abusive based on their kinks. But there are notable exceptions where some guys act like pieces of shit like James Gunn here.Female Dating Strategy did an excellent podcast on this. They discuss the notion that we need to stop separating a person's character from their kink. A person who gets off on choking you is not a good person, irrespective of safe words etc.
I will never understand it either, and I will never understand women who claim they love to be choked and it’s their idea to do it in bed, not their partners.Maybe I'm "boring"/not a very sexual person, maybe I'm just a "kink shamer", maybe it's because I have Ptsd from SA, but I just don't see why it's considered sexy or normal to hit/choke women during sex.
They don't just believe they are owed sex, they think they are owed it from "hot" women. They also hate those "hot" women for only going for Alpha's or Chad's. They also claim that "ugly" women will also not have sex with them because they would rather be used by "Chad's/alphas".Ah yes incels, men who deep down believe they are owed sex(for the most part) from women and when they don't get it they get violent. None of them think that maybe they need to work on themselves or have any introspection at all.
I find the choking thing disgusting. What does it say about men who get off on being violent to women?! Luckily I’m old enough to say sod off. I worry that teenagers will see this as normal, sex will be awful for them and people will get badly injured. From working in a&e years ago, so many women were in with strangling injuries which were ‘accidental’. GrimI will never understand it either, and I will never understand women who claim they love to be choked and it’s their idea to do it in bed, not their partners.
I think there’s a book to be written somewhere about porn and the way it influences what women want to have done to them, sexually. I don’t believe any woman inherently, naturally wants to be choked and beaten during sex. It’s fucked up.
Clearly, it’s a new “thing” to go mainstream. Every generation seems to embrace a new risqué sexual act, more risqué than the last. I’m old enough to remember the idea of anal being something that no woman really did. I certainly didn’t read about it in 90s teen magazines. Now we have Teen Vogue advising girls about how to do it.
As a person that has umm lets say extended tastes it is never normal for that to occur........its assault. There are aspects of intimacy which should be straight forward like normal intercourse.....anything beyond that needs detailed discussion and agreement. Even then its a fine line, choking ffs is tantamount to attempted murder. I get some or very few people may get off on that......however it should never ever be considered the normal or permissable."I realised I shouldn't" erm, wtaf... I get people liking rough sex, I do myself, but that just sounds like (either by accident or on purpose) it is going ot end in tragedy
making someone pass out unconscious and ignoring their barriers is not "kink", it is things like this that give kink a bad name, kink isn't one party doing what they want to the detriment of the other person, it is something both have agreed they like, vile
I think as well it's very difficult BEING choked as it's all the science behind blocking oxygen etc blah blah blah, but what man gets off on choking someone else? What's in it for them?? Other than pure power?Female Dating Strategy did an excellent podcast on this. They discuss the notion that we need to stop separating a person's character from their kink. A person who gets off on choking you is not a good person, irrespective of safe words etc.
The fact that it’s called ‘breath play’ just makes me feel ill. It’s choking and it’s dangerous. I find it genuinely terrifying, women have literally died from this act.I find the choking thing disgusting. What does it say about men who get off on being violent to women?! Luckily I’m old enough to say sod off. I worry that teenagers will see this as normal, sex will be awful for them and people will get badly injured. From working in a&e years ago, so many women were in with strangling injuries which were ‘accidental’. Grim
There's a lot to break down here.I will never understand it either, and I will never understand women who claim they love to be choked and it’s their idea to do it in bed, not their partners.
I think there’s a book to be written somewhere about porn and the way it influences what women want to have done to them, sexually. I don’t believe any woman inherently, naturally wants to be choked and beaten during sex. It’s fucked up.
Clearly, it’s a new “thing” to go mainstream. Every generation seems to embrace a new risqué sexual act, more risqué than the last. I’m old enough to remember the idea of anal being something that no woman really did. I certainly didn’t read about it in 90s teen magazines. Now we have Teen Vogue advising girls about how to do it.
I don’t get why James Gunn is supported a lot in HW, especially after MeToo? I swear there was an instance where he was fired from Guardians or the Galaxy 2 but Chris Pratt and the Dave guy complained and he got reinstated or maybe I’m remembering wrong.I disagree. Kink is completely different from person to person. I like degradation and being choked (with proper safe words + ton of aftercare). No abuse in my childhood or family. My fiance comes from a stable family too. Yes, there are bad actors in the BDSM space but I personally think it's wrong to think a person is abusive based on their kinks. But there are notable exceptions where some guys act like pieces of shit like James Gunn here.
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You are right. https://www.cnn.com/2018/07/23/entertainment/james-gunn-celebs-support/index.htmlI don’t get why James Gunn is supported a lot in HW, especially after MeToo? I swear there was an instance where he was fired from Guardians or the Galaxy 2 but Chris Pratt and the Dave guy complained and he got reinstated or maybe I’m remembering wrong.
To be honest, I’m starting to doubt your intentions in this thread, such is your tendency to bring your sex life into it. This thread isn’t to display your kinks and frankly I’m starting to find it all very weird. If you’re trying to convert a bunch of kink-shaming radfems it isn’t working.I understand some of you have valid reasons for not liking choking or breath play but constantly shaming people for liking it or enjoying it isn't cool either. I can assure you, whenever choking is involved, we have proper protocol with hand signs, body language and a TON of aftercare too with lots of reassurance, love and care. Whenever there are bruises or welts or soreness involved, we take a break for some time, apply some soothing salve and check in on each other I have never felt threatened, unloved or felt like just a cum receptacle to my fiancé.
What. The. Everloving. Fuck.Do you think it was vital for Ted Bundy or Jeffrey Dahmer to explore their fantasies. I'm not saying you're anything like that, but just illustrating that a line has to be drawn somewhere.
Many would say that line should be drawn at the point that your hurting and/or endangering the life of someone else.
My intention was not to actively convert people but it was a rebuttal to the kinkshaming. Am I not allowed to have a different opinion or speak from my own experience?To be honest, I’m starting to doubt your intentions in this thread, such is your tendency to bring your sex life into it. This thread isn’t to display your kinks and frankly I’m starting to find it all very weird. If you’re trying to convert a bunch of kink-shaming radfems it isn’t working.
Any sex that requires aftercare and “soothing salves” (such strange, flowery language) is harmful to women.
I’m going to step away from this thread until the vibe gets back to normal.
Queer is straight people trying to be edgy.I read an article yesterday about some actress who I forget the name of now but she played Princess Diana I think. Anyway they now go by she/they pronouns and in the article talked about being queer. Just didn’t get the point of it tbh, what does being ‘queer’ even mean these days? What’s the point in going by they AND she?
But choking is enacting murder, Bundy and Darhmers crimes were sexually motivated. Which is my point. Where do we draw the line between "kink" and unacceptable perversion. As I said my line would be drawn at the point that you're hurting or endangering others. People draw their own personal lines, but it seems that the acceptable line drawn by society in general is getting closer and closer to what was traditionally considered a crime.What. The. Everloving. Fuck.
What Ted Bundy and Dahmer was NOT consenting and murder is not a kink. It's not even a kink in practice. If your kink involves grievous bodily harm, it's not a kink, it's just malice.
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