I know that homophobia is still a big thing despite rainbows being shoved down our throats at all times, but I’ve never once in my entire life felt the need to tell anyone I am bi. Some people have their sexuality as their entire identity, as much as some trans people have that as their main ‘thing’. Why the sudden change? Is it more likely to be gay men than lesbians? Or is it just because they seem to be the most represented in MSM?
I had a brief relationship with a woman a few years ago. Since then, it’s been back to men and I probably won’t go out with another woman. I would say this makes me bi but I’ve never talked about it to anyone. I don’t feel the need to add a rainbow to my name on social media or even feel part of the LGBT community as it was just a part of my whole love life, not a defining thing. I just said to my friends, ‘oh by the way, I’ve started talking to...’ as I would with a new man. I’ve never talked about ‘what I am’ with friends/family let alone anyone I first meet. I’m as likely to say, ‘hi, I’m so and so, I’m bisexual’ as I am ‘hi I’m so and so, I use she/her pronouns.’ If the LGB community was forcing everyone to use that in our email signatures, there would be outrage. Why not go the whole hog and code us by age, sex, race, sexuality... while we’re at it, stick our religion and political leaning.