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bull. I’d bet money this is just a piece of MRA fiction trying to turn the tables on the “deadbeat dad” stereotype. There are deadbeat mothers who abandon their babies at birth, guys!

No way would a woman go through pregnancy and birth with a premeditated plan to abandon when abortion exists. It’s balls. MN is full of similar threads by men telling stories about evil and abusive women. They love basking in the reflected glory of being good guys, even if it’s all made up. Reddit is just as bad - the TIFU sub is all complete fiction, and usually gross/sexual in nature.

Anyway, I love the line “she’s never met him” because presumably she saw the baby when he exited her body.
The story wasn't even thought out at all :ROFLMAO:
 
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bull. I’d bet money this is just a piece of MRA fiction trying to turn the tables on the “deadbeat dad” stereotype. There are deadbeat mothers who abandon their babies at birth, guys!

No way would a woman go through pregnancy and birth with a premeditated plan to abandon when abortion exists. It’s balls. MN is full of similar threads by men telling stories about evil and abusive women. They love basking in the reflected glory of being good guys, even if it’s all made up. Reddit is just as bad - the TIFU sub is all complete fiction, and usually gross/sexual in nature.

Anyway, I love the line “she’s never met him” because presumably she saw the baby when he exited her body.
She did not want the baby but gave birth to the baby because he wanted it. She pays more than needed in child support. But now she’s getting on with her life, he’s furious. He used that baby as a way to control her and it’s backfired spectacularly on him.
 
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bull. I’d bet money this is just a piece of MRA fiction trying to turn the tables on the “deadbeat dad” stereotype. There are deadbeat mothers who abandon their babies at birth, guys!

No way would a woman go through pregnancy and birth with a premeditated plan to abandon when abortion exists. It’s balls. MN is full of similar threads by men telling stories about evil and abusive women. They love basking in the reflected glory of being good guys, even if it’s all made up. Reddit is just as bad - the TIFU sub is all complete fiction, and usually gross/sexual in nature.

Anyway, I love the line “she’s never met him” because presumably she saw the baby when he exited her body.
Yes it doesn't ring true but that twit has nothing to complain about if the woman really is paying maintenance for the child over and above what the court ordered 🤔
A real dead beat mom wouldn't pay anything at all.
 
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People are still trying to cancel Chimamanda over her essay.


Anil Padavatan, programmes manager at Gender Dynamix, said that in the context of the surge in violence against the LGBTQ+ community, UCT should consider the implications this might have.

“We would prefer a platform like this to be given to someone who respects the human rights of all people, and who could speak to the need for an inclusive feminist response to gender-based violence,” said Padavatan.
On the other hand I play a mobile game called Covet Fashion and they've just done a series on inspiring speeches by women throughout history and Chimamanda got picked as one of them ❤
 
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Some interesting points about surrogacy on this reddit post (reddit is awful no doubt, but this sub is one of the few women-only spaces and definitely leans towards radfem)

I agree with most of this although I'm wary of some of the arguments used on there - things like "children have the right not to be separated from their mothers!" and "all women will love and want to keep a child they gave birth to!" are so easily co-opted by those wanting to ban abortion

And it does make me roll my eyes when I come across - not on that site, but I've encountered a few and in the real world - people that defend prostitution as "it's a CHOICE! people should be allowed to do what they want with their own bodies!" yet understand why surrogacy is exploitative, even if someone would ostensibly choose to do it
 
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I remember attending antenatal appointments with my husband many years ago. NHS run, about 5 sessions in total. One was about breastfeeding and it was made clear that men didn't need to attend. Only one husband came. Five years later I saw the family again, because our children ended up in the same primary school. They got divorced. Turned out the guy was a total control freak, beat his wife, etc., etc.
There are many reasons why female healthcare excludes men from certain spaces. One is to give women a chance to speak up. Sadly, many don't but even if only some do, it's worth keeping that practice. Woke bros will never understand this.
 
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I remember attending antenatal appointments with my husband many years ago. NHS run, about 5 sessions in total. One was about breastfeeding and it was made clear that men didn't need to attend. Only one husband came. Five years later I saw the family again, because our children ended up in the same primary school. They got divorced. Turned out the guy was a total control freak, beat his wife, etc., etc.
There are many reasons why female healthcare excludes men from certain spaces. One is to give women a chance to speak up. Sadly, many don't but even if only some do, it's worth keeping that practice. Woke bros will never understand this.
Exactly, I dread to think of the consequences of this for women who are being abused
 
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One of the times I really nearly lost it with my husband was when he was a bit narked with the midwife at our antenatal appointments for not giving him the time of day. “I’m the father, she could say hello’
He was trying to be nice and friendly but felt ignored so it was between clenched teeth I informed him that his part was done until child is born and these appointments are for me and my healthcare and that of baby. He got it after that, but really wasn’t used to not being acknowledged. Two girls now so he has to get it.
 
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Just read that Colin Pitchfork won't be put on the sex offender register because it isn't allowed to include anyone who was only convicted before 1997. I can't imagine the hell the families of his victims are going through right now.
 
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Just read that Colin Pitchfork won't be put on the sex offender register because it isn't allowed to include anyone who was only convicted before 1997. I can't imagine the hell the families of his victims are going through right now.
How is that possible?! God that is so unfair , those poor families
 
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How is that possible?! God that is so unfair , those poor families
I read about it here - that's the way that the law was written at the time it was implemented so it can't be retroactively changed.


This part of the article is just chilling

After his arrest he confessed to his crimes and when asked why he is said to have shrugged to detectives and said: 'Opportunity. She was there and I was there'.
 
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The letter inviting women to a breast screening specifically states that it is undertaken by a female technician. I'm glad they didn't let him in the waiting room. Personally, I wouldn't even be happy about a man loitering in the corridoor beyond.

Such male enitlement. Clearly the NHS is preventing him from bragging rights about supporting a friend at a breast screening!!!! /s

He doesn't care about sexism. I know faux outrage and humble bragging when I see it.
 
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In the women’s health space there is definitely a place for men, but there also has to be patient choice. My first IUD fitting - lady GP couldn’t make it work, so I had to go to the gynaecology consultant at the hospital. It was a man, I was told beforehand to check if I objected. He was completely professional and all went well, as you should expect. I don’t have an objection to a male doctor but I know that for some women it could be traumatic, it could be incompatible with their beliefs etc. To be unsure when you ask for a woman doctor if you are going to see a woman or a person who was once a man and might still be male bodied, is far too much stress for people already feeling vulnerable. Anything with a speculum and you are vulnerable.
 
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In the country where Malala was shot for advocating women's education rights.

Obviously safe attendance at school is a right, but its frustrating to see that Baby Doll's rights are being looked after in a country where the plight of women is so desperate.
 
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In the country where Malala was shot for advocating women's education rights.

Obviously safe attendance at school is a right, but its frustrating to see that Baby Doll's rights are being looked after in a country where the plight of women is so desperate.
Is this situation similar to Iran, where being gay is so abhorrent that it's better to be a trans woman?
 
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I read about it here - that's the way that the law was written at the time it was implemented so it can't be retroactively changed.


This part of the article is just chilling
jesus I felt shivers reading that, this is my number one fear tbh, soooo many crimes (especially against women) it is just the woman is just wrong place wrong time. God I feel sick thinking about it
 
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