Gemma Atkinson

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I'm all for discipline and agree with you, although I've never trapped any of my children in a room.

I think the poster that messaged her has a point and was possibly suggesting that Gemma practices cruelty free and kindness (aside from ITS and when she promoted P&G products) and that holding a door is cruel.
There are plenty of other ways of teaching your child to sleep in their own bed, even when they're having a temper.
She said she had Gorks with her so they could have taken turns getting up and down with her until she settled.

She then dug herself in deeper by saying she locked her puppies up for having an accident. Why punish them because you as a human didn't let them out in time?

I really like her, but she can sound very high and mighty at times
BIB - it's not always about not letting them out in time. When we were training our pup, she would pee in the house literally a few mins after being put out. She simply didn't understand. By doing this, it trains the dog to understand when it is right to pee/poop and when not. And lots of positive reinforcement when they get it right by going outside (our treat for this was half a Babybel.... Don't ask! 🤣 It worked though!).
 
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She doesn’t take kindly to anyone questioning her. I learned the hard way after sending her a very polite DM when she posted something I thought was ‘off-brand’. Her response was surprisingly heavy-handed to my polite & qualified comment. Needless to say I no longer follow & I’m definitely not a fan!
 
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Don’t worry, my daughter is nearly 6 and only just beginning to regularly sleep in her own bed 🤣🤣
This makes me feel better my almost 4 year old has been in my bed since 10 months.
when she said she was holding onto the door handle and mia was screaming on the other side that’s so tight
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I'm all for discipline and agree with you, although I've never trapped any of my children in a room.

I think the poster that messaged her has a point and was possibly suggesting that Gemma practices cruelty free and kindness (aside from ITS and when she promoted P&G products) and that holding a door is cruel.
There are plenty of other ways of teaching your child to sleep in their own bed, even when they're having a temper.
She said she had Gorks with her so they could have taken turns getting up and down with her until she settled.

She then dug herself in deeper by saying she locked her puppies up for having an accident. Why punish them because you as a human didn't let them out in time?

I really like her, but she can sound very high and mighty at times
She’s said before that gorka is very strict and will shout at Mia for wanting to come in their bed. I mean each to their own but night time can be scary for little ones so I don’t think shouting at her is nice. She’s once said before something along the lines of when the Spaniard goes off he goes off and that Mia was worried she was gonna tell daddy when she had a tantrum in the middle of the night. ( I think what she was on about the other day)
 
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BIB - it's not always about not letting them out in time. When we were training our pup, she would pee in the house literally a few mins after being put out. She simply didn't understand. By doing this, it trains the dog to understand when it is right to pee/poop and when not. And lots of positive reinforcement when they get it right by going outside (our treat for this was half a Babybel.... Don't ask! 🤣 It worked though!).
Absolutely, and whatever works! That's much better than locking the poor thing up
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She doesn’t take kindly to anyone questioning her. I learned the hard way after sending her a very polite DM when she posted something I thought was ‘off-brand’. Her response was surprisingly heavy-handed to my polite & qualified comment. Needless to say I no longer follow & I’m definitely not a fan!
Can I ask what she was advertising/ doing? I've only ever noticed the clothing and dishwasher tabs (that would have been tested on animals)
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She’s said before that gorka is very strict and will shout at Mia for wanting to come in their bed. I mean each to their own but night time can be scary for little ones so I don’t think shouting at her is nice. She’s once said before something along the lines of when the Spaniard goes off he goes off and that Mia was worried she was gonna tell daddy when she had a tantrum in the middle of the night. ( I think what she was on about the other day)
I've Italian in me and have the very short fuse, and both sides of my family are very blunt, which I've also inherited, but I'm also an adult and and curb my behaviour amd attitude appropriately.
Thats made me sad to think that Mia may be afraid of him. That's not teaching respect or boundaries, that's just teaching fear, lying, not getting caught and not trusting a parent... been there done that with one of my parents. I loved them, but I always covered my tracks and never quite knew where I stood
 
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Absolutely, and whatever works! That's much better than locking the poor thing up
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Can I ask what she was advertising/ doing? I've only ever noticed the clothing and dishwasher tabs (that would have been tested on animals)
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I've Italian in me and have the very short fuse, and both sides of my family are very blunt, which I've also inherited, but I'm also an adult and and curb my behaviour amd attitude appropriately.
Thats made me sad to think that Mia may be afraid of him. That's not teaching respect or boundaries, that's just teaching fear, lying, not getting caught and not trusting a parent... been there done that with one of my parents. I loved them, but I always covered my tracks and never quite knew where I stood
I’m the same. My mum is a teacher my dad is a cop so they were soooo strict when growing up. Me and my brother used to lie to them so much as teens. I used to keep things from them as well cos I knew they’d kick off. My dad used to suffer from migraines. He had an accident at work and banged his head and had horrible migraines but he used to be so grumpy with them and shout at us so much and it used to scare me.

I understand where she’s coming from with not letting them in your bed as it can be annoying but as parents isn’t it our job to make sure they’re safe and comfortable. Look how she said she let Mia in the bed when gorka isn’t there. She kept repeatingit saying when gorka is there she’s not allowed in their bed. Poor Mia😞
 
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I'm with you on this. There's far too many entitled brats in this world and I admire her stance on discipline.
Totally get her concerns over raising a spoilt brat, but Mia is still very young and locking her in her room by holding the door shut and labeling her as naughty just isn't the way,

No health care professional or Early years practitioner would support what shes advocating trust me but you know Gemma she can school anyone in any thing she's the authority 🙄
 
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Totally get her concerns over raising a spoilt brat, but Mia is still very young and locking her in her room by holding the door shut and labeling her as naughty just isn't the way,

No health care professional or Early years practitioner would support what shes advocating trust me but you know Gemma she can school anyone in any thing she's the authority 🙄
I agree. If it’s at the point you’re locking a little kid in her room as she’s screaming, then control has been lost and it’s not right IMO. As is the mixed messages of when Gorka is there Mia isn’t allowed in the bed but when it’s just Gemma she is. I’d be mortified if my kid was begging me not to tell their dad they’d had a temper tantrum. Or if my partner was shouting at them not to be in our bed. Go on about discipline all you like but IMO that’s not what this is.
 
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I’m 100% with Gemma on sleep. I think you have to teach children to sleep well in a way. We’ve always been very firm but kind with our kids around bedtime & where they sleep. I’ve never left my kids crying but I agree with Gemma, I know what’s fake screeching & what’s genuine upset. I think we’ve taught our kids healthy sleep habits & as such, I have two kids who 95% of the time sleep through the night in their own rooms & consequently, we get a solid 8 hours sleep and are cheerful parents! I hate sharing a bed, I can’t sleep with anyone remotely near me. Even with my husband, who I love to death, we have a super king so we are nowhere near each other for actual sleeping 😂

I think you do you, if you enjoy sleeping with your kids then great! But it’s not for everyone. Nice to hear from someone who isn’t harping on about attachment parenting to be honest. Gemma’s parenting is refreshingly normal! Mia’s a lovely kid, she’s clearly doing something right!
 
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I agree. If it’s at the point you’re locking a little kid in her room as she’s screaming, then control has been lost and it’s not right IMO. As is the mixed messages of when Gorka is there Mia isn’t allowed in the bed but when it’s just Gemma she is. I’d be mortified if my kid was begging me not to tell their dad they’d had a temper tantrum. Or if my partner was shouting at them not to be in our bed. Go on about discipline all you like but IMO that’s not what this is.
No I don’t think it’s disciple either. It’s hardly like she’s throwing tables across the room is it she’s only wanting to come in their bed. She even said it’s only every now and then.
but mia seems so cute bless her. I don’t mind Gemma most of the time but she does make out she Knows best.Everyone has a different way of parenting I get that But to say she’s just showing discipline it sounds like she can be a bit mean. But I’m so soft 🤣.
 
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I’m 100% with Gemma on sleep. I think you have to teach children to sleep well in a way. We’ve always been very firm but kind with our kids around bedtime & where they sleep. I’ve never left my kids crying but I agree with Gemma, I know what’s fake screeching & what’s genuine upset. I think we’ve taught our kids healthy sleep habits & as such, I have two kids who 95% of the time sleep through the night in their own rooms & consequently, we get a solid 8 hours sleep and are cheerful parents! I hate sharing a bed, I can’t sleep with anyone remotely near me. Even with my husband, who I love to death, we have a super king so we are nowhere near each other for actual sleeping 😂

I think you do you, if you enjoy sleeping with your kids then great! But it’s not for everyone. Nice to hear from someone who isn’t harping on about attachment parenting to be honest. Gemma’s parenting is refreshingly normal! Mia’s a lovely kid, she’s clearly doing something right!
I'm the same, i love my space! One of mine took 3yrs to sleep at all, never mind just in their bed.. God knows how I did it looking back!
One was a dream and never once moved from their bed and the other would do what it seems Mia does and wander in every now and then.
The rule was you go back to your bed and I'll cuddle you there, but unless you were ill or ridiculously upset then you went back to your own bed.
You can tell the difference between them trying it on and being truly upset, but you don't hold the door closed on them.
I don't think anyone here or anywhere cares if Mia has to sleep in her bed, it's how she described her locking her in her room that people have objected to, and rightly so
 
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Mia not wanting Gorka to know she’s had a tantrum doesn’t mean she’s afraid of him.
My son has asked more than a few times that I don’t tell his Dad if he’s been a wee tit. He’s certainly not afraid - just doesn’t want him to be told so he doesn’t get another row or is disappointed in him etc.
Being strict doesn’t necessarily equate to being scary.
For what it’s worth I’m 100% with her on the sleep thing. Couldn’t think of anything worse than my kids wriggling about my bed all night. This is coming from someone who co-slept with her Mum waaaay longer than I should’ve 🤣
 
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I was uncomfortable with the holding of the door to keep Mia in her room. I can’t imagine Gorka shouting.
Being firm with a child is not being cruel. Part of the reason that there’s a lack of general respect these days could be as a result of parents who don’t apply boundaries for fear of upsetting their children.
 
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I’m 100% with Gemma on sleep. I think you have to teach children to sleep well in a way. We’ve always been very firm but kind with our kids around bedtime & where they sleep. I’ve never left my kids crying but I agree with Gemma, I know what’s fake screeching & what’s genuine upset. I think we’ve taught our kids healthy sleep habits & as such, I have two kids who 95% of the time sleep through the night in their own rooms & consequently, we get a solid 8 hours sleep and are cheerful parents! I hate sharing a bed, I can’t sleep with anyone remotely near me. Even with my husband, who I love to death, we have a super king so we are nowhere near each other for actual sleeping 😂

I think you do you, if you enjoy sleeping with your kids then great! But it’s not for everyone. Nice to hear from someone who isn’t harping on about attachment parenting to be honest. Gemma’s parenting is refreshingly normal! Mia’s a lovely kid, she’s clearly doing something right!
No one cares about where some one elses child sleeps i doubt that's the issue at all.

If Mia is fake screaming the house down to get her own way and Gemma asked for advice no one in their right mind would say call her naughty and lock her in her room !

Id love to see her DM's right now from all the social workers who follow her 👀
 
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I can see from both sides. I was soft with my first (hubbie away overnight) so often came in to bed. Number two straight off didn't. But they came into bed when older when dad away. So what? Pros and cons but I preferred the second 😆
 
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I seem to remember Supernanny Jo Frost doing the door shutting technique on tv, sooo..... 🤷‍♀️
When my son was a toddler there were times when I had to hold the door shut if I put him in a time out. He was an incredibly strong willed toddler with a terrible temper and he would push every boundary going, kick, scream etc. I certainly wasn’t cruel, I just did what I had to do to give him time to cool down. I don’t think Gemma or Gorka are cruel either. Not all children are the same and parents do things differently. You do what you think works best for your child.
I’m also with Gemma on the bed situation. I think it’s best if children can sleep in their own bed and I’m like some others on here and simply couldn’t share a bed with a wriggly child - I’m a very light sleeper! She’s right that kids will try it on sometimes and boundaries are important. I think it’s very personal and depends on the child and the parents. It’s clearly stirred up a lot of strong feeling on here and among Gemma’s followers I imagine!
 
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I don't have kids so can't comment on that side of things but I don't see her being any different to any of the other influencers who show/flaunt their child on IG which is her choice of course and she does appear to always think she's right about stuff. She's a little sickly sweet nice for my liking but I'm a grumpy antisocial old cow at times 🤣
 
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She doesn’t take kindly to anyone questioning her. I learned the hard way after sending her a very polite DM when she posted something I thought was ‘off-brand’. Her response was surprisingly heavy-handed to my polite & qualified comment. Needless to say I no longer follow & I’m definitely not a fan!
You see, I'm of the belief that it's rude to send messages commenting on things they do. You say it was polite but I don't think there is a way to say "the thing you posted wasn't on brand for you" -it's essentially saying I only want you to show me what I believe you to be.

They aren't commodities or characters on a TV show. They're human beings.
 
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I'm all for discipline and agree with you, although I've never trapped any of my children in a room.

I think the poster that messaged her has a point and was possibly suggesting that Gemma practices cruelty free and kindness (aside from ITS and when she promoted P&G products) and that holding a door is cruel.
There are plenty of other ways of teaching your child to sleep in their own bed, even when they're having a temper.
She said she had Gorks with her so they could have taken turns getting up and down with her until she settled.

She then dug herself in deeper by saying she locked her puppies up for having an accident. Why punish them because you as a human didn't let them out in time?

I really like her, but she can sound very high and mighty at times
If they took turns getting
I don't have kids so can't comment on that side of things but I don't see her being any different to any of the other influencers who show/flaunt their child on IG which is her choice of course and she does appear to always think she's right about stuff. She's a little sickly sweet nice for my liking but I'm a grumpy antisocial old cow at times 🤣
i don’t find her to always think she’s right in that she’s not saying this is the best way and you should all do this. I think she just explains what she does and why with force when it is questioned and defends what she does. I kind of like that she has her own beliefs and stands by them without being influenced by the hate, negativity and questions. There’s a difference between standing up for what you think is right for your family/you and saying that yours is the right way full stop.
 
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You see, I'm of the belief that it's rude to send messages commenting on things they do. You say it was polite but I don't think there is a way to say "the thing you posted wasn't on brand for you" -it's essentially saying I only want you to show me what I believe you to be.

They aren't commodities or characters on a TV show. They're human beings.
It wasn’t at all rude the way I questioned her post, hence my surprise. If someone is posting this is how they live blah, blah to then do something completely different is open to question & I was genuinely interested. I’m often asked questions from followers & can answer them respectfully.
 
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