I’ve had that before - horrible!Absolutely understand! We were invited to friends the other week and I understood it to be just us. When we got there, there was a houseful! Just thought it was a bit ‘off’ not to have told us out of politeness. I don’t like large gatherings and they know that.
It was actually my in-laws! They asked us round for a “quick bite to eat”
We were doing our house up at the time, so we finished decorating for the day, quickly showered and shoved on jeans and t shirts, because we were absolutely shattered.
When we got there, they had a houseful of long lost relatives.
I’m shy anyway, but I felt so scruffy, awkward and awful.
My sister in law and husband had been told about the other guests, and were dressed to the nines!
I wanted to crawl home
My m-in-l said she didn’t tell us because she thought we might not come if she did.
I’ve always felt it was a bit mean of her.