For anybody struggling ❤

[Shoequeen91]

Spoiler: Woe is me

I feel like I have no one at the minute and it’s making me feel really self conscious. I know I probably shouldn’t let it get to me but I decided to make a conscious effort this year to be better at communicating with my friend(s) as I’m so crap at replying to stuff. I told my friends this and actually apologised about it because I should make time (my friends have said not to worry, they understand I had a change of job and I’ve been busy). It’s just now that I’m suggesting stuff to do it’s like it’s getting aired so now I’m like maybe people just don’t actually like me. I know it’s silly to think that because a conversation will happen in different chats I’m in and I get replied to / included but to suggest something and it not even being responded to and just glazed over
Is just do

This post is so trivial in comparison to others but I needed to say it somewhere.

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

My heart goes out to you. There are no words. I hope you have support.

Thank you, I do have some support but all I want is just an hour with mum, just one last everything.

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

I’m thinking of you and sending all the love. x

Thank you, I appreciate everyone here. Some things I just can’t say to people so it’s nice to have a space I can get my feelings out

 

[Wobblehead]

Spoiler: Woe is me

I feel like I have no one at the minute and it’s making me feel really self conscious. I know I probably shouldn’t let it get to me but I decided to make a conscious effort this year to be better at communicating with my friend(s) as I’m so crap at replying to stuff. I told my friends this and actually apologised about it because I should make time (my friends have said not to worry, they understand I had a change of job and I’ve been busy). It’s just now that I’m suggesting stuff to do it’s like it’s getting aired so now I’m like maybe people just don’t actually like me. I know it’s silly to think that because a conversation will happen in different chats I’m in and I get replied to / included but to suggest something and it not even being responded to and just glazed over
Is just do

This post is so trivial in comparison to others but I needed to say it somewhere.

It’s not trivial. There is no hierarchy - this thread is about struggles whatever they may be. The fact that you have reached out to friends is a good start

 

[Rocket Queen]

Thank you, I appreciate everyone here. Some things I just can’t say to people so it’s nice to have a space I can get my feelings out

I know this week is going to be hell on earth for you. But, somehow, you WILL come through it I promise you. Focus on something - breathe in and out. The basics. Sending you all the love and the goodwill to get through. You are in my thoughts x

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

I know this week is going to be hell on earth for you. But, somehow, you WILL come through it I promise you. Focus on something - breathe in and out. The basics. Sending you all the love and the goodwill to get through. You are in my thoughts x

Thank you. The funeral is tomorrow so I’ve put my favourite bedding on today, got my favourite pjs on the radiator so when I get home I can just get into bed x

 

[Rocket Queen]

Thank you. The funeral is tomorrow so I’ve put my favourite bedding on today, got my favourite pjs on the radiator so when I get home I can just get into bed x

Sounds like a good plan xxxx

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Sounds like a good plan xxxx

It sounds horrible but having another part of the day to think about is helping, I do plan on getting comfy and cozy in bed and ordering a takeaway probably watching something on Netflix, I’m seeing it sort of a reward like if you get through the day then by 4pm you can be in bed

 

[Frenchie]

Life!
I’m perimenopauseal , I don’t sleep, I’m anxious about everything, been poorly lately so have been off work for 4 weeks and now don’t wanna go back, I’m not expecting any replies just helps to ‘talk’

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Life!
I’m perimenopauseal , I don’t sleep, I’m anxious about everything, been poorly lately so have been off work for 4 weeks and now don’t wanna go back, I’m not expecting any replies just helps to ‘talk’

I hope you’re okay

 

[Frenchie]

I hope you’re okay

Thank you, I just don’t know if to talk to a doctor or go about finding someone privately to talk too, my anxiety/worry about everything is getting me down xx

 

[evie1975]

@CrazyGiraffeLady
You are in my thoughts; this last while will have felt like you are in limbo.
Keep things simple; make sure you have something to eat (no matter how uninterested you feel in eating) and drink some water- it’s basic but it’s something you can control.

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Today was so so hard. But I got through it somehow. I’m home in my pjs in bed with a takeaway ordered for later

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Thank you, I just don’t know if to talk to a doctor or go about finding someone privately to talk too, my anxiety/worry about everything is getting me down xx

Talk to your gp🩷 even if they can’t help they can point you in the right direction

 

[Tommyb]

Today was so so hard. But I got through it somehow. I’m home in my pjs in bed with a takeaway ordered for later

Well done. I have been thinking of you. I'm sure you did her proud. Look after your body and mind xx

 

[skronkywildcat]

Today was so so hard. But I got through it somehow. I’m home in my pjs in bed with a takeaway ordered for later

Lots of love to you. You got through it and she’s at rest now. X

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Well done. I have been thinking of you. I'm sure you did her proud. Look after your body and mind xx

Thank you, I think we did it was lovely, exactly as she’d have liked it I think xx

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Lots of love to you. You got through it and she’s at rest now. X

Thank you, I felt her with me today at all the right moments. I hope she’s resting too xx

 

[Sheila Bloom]

Life!
I’m perimenopauseal , I don’t sleep, I’m anxious about everything, been poorly lately so have been off work for 4 weeks and now don’t wanna go back, I’m not expecting any replies just helps to ‘talk’

I could have written this. I had psychotherapy years ago which was amazing. I think I’m going to go back to it. I really recommend it. Sending love

 

[Sheila Bloom]

Hello
New to the thread and have been debating commenting for a while.
I'm really struggling with my mental health at the moment. My 5 year old daughter is suspected ASD and her behaviours are becoming more challenging. The lack of sleep, meltdowns, violence etc. It's taking its toll. My eldest daughter is struggling with this and is now having counselling through school. Our whole family is struggling and we have no help. I feel like a failure of a Mum as I can't meet either of my childrens needs.
Both sets of parents are reluctant to take the children for a night because of how hard it is. We never get a break.
I'm struggling at work because of my personal issues, and feel a breakdown is coming. I work for the NHS and they are so focused on sickness that I don't want to take any sick leave as I'm worried about consequences, but I'm also worried about my ability to do mu job safely and professionally because of my pressure cooker pot of emotions.
I'm just looking to vent/rant so thanks for reading/listening and if anyone can offer any words of wisdom for navigating ASD life, I would really appreciate it

I would 100% take sick leave. It’s there for a reason. Especially if u think its affecting ur ability to do ur job. At the end of the day it’s a job. They do not give 2 people about u and would replace u in a second. Take the time off. If they reprimand u then they do but hopefully ud be in a better place to deal with it.
Maybe grandparents could take ur eldest and one parent can stay home on alternate weekends so mum and dad can get a break. Granted it wont be together but a few hours to wander the round the shops, get a coffee, see a friend or just some quiet time could help.
Sending love 🫶