I agree it’s just it’s such a contrast. If she embraced the reality it would be more relatable. There are lots of first time mums in their late 30s. She is almost missing gap in the market to be authentic. Having kids at different ages impacts differently and people would get that. My cousin had hers in her late 30’s…she by nature abs her own admission is very neurotic. She worked in an accounts department then quit to train as a “nursery nurse” (don’t even think that’s the right terminology but it’s what she called it) before starting her family so she would “know how to manage them!” The thing is cos she is open about it all it’s almost endearing. She’ll say she put them into nursery so she could spend time on her own as she found it all so overwhelming. Yeah she’s not the best or perfect mum but least she owns that. She said by putting them into nursery it was better for her mental health, her marriage and how she was as a mum. She said T one time she felt so lost that she nearly walked away from it all and her darkest moments didn’t want to be here. There is no way anyone could knock her…she realised she was struggling, got help and put a plan in place that worked for her family…no one else’s.
The issue with Fopps is her lies and fakeness. If she was like “yeah I wanted to be a mum but the reality is very different from the fairytale in my head. So I’ve decided for myself, chris and the boys to do x, y and z. It works for us!” People would get it but all her lies makes other mums with less income and support feel crap. She can’t see that tho! X
