I feel like being pedantic for a moment
If she’s very very self sufficient, then according the definition of the word she actually isn’t. She isn’t emotionally independent, as she has to rely on the comments of 100s of strangers to make her feel secure daily! She also relies on outside help, she might be able to cook a mug cake, but she doesn’t clean her home herself, does anyone ever see any baby washing?! I used to have babygros here there and everywhere with babies! She has a cleaner, landscape gardener, her dad for the odd jobs- always putting something up and together for them, why couldn’t ratboy do that, was he too busy applying more hair grease (might start calling him Ross but it’d be an insult to Ross!!) She’s relied on jumperoos, mamaroos, the living room rug, excessively, to entertain her kids for her. She has been gifted so many baby items for her boys, because she’s been on the beg. Her car she had before I think was a company car, as SW states area managers get them, which Is why I reckon she’s on the beg for a new one, with that whole car thing a few weeks ago. So no, you aren’t very very self sufficient, not as much as you say you are anyway. Sorry just had to get that off my chest