We’re here for you @HotesTilaire Sending you love
I don’t, but you don’t want to date meHe doesn’t watch, I think I’ve found the only person on the planet who doesn’t watch it.
Hope you feel better soon and even if you are joking, your health is not a waste of anyone's time, you shouldn't feel bad for trying to get meds that suit you better and your well-being is important. I really hope that either the meds you're on, or new meds if they change you again, work better for you.Oh, well, if you insist on cat spam. Here she is displaying very poise, much grace.
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Lads I'm doing a chaos again, send wasted NHS time-os. The side effects from my new medication I was confident would go in another week did not go so I'm back on my old medication. I'm only joking about wasted NHS time as I still obviously wasn't well and needed help but I do feel a bit silly and very, very sweaty. My fingertips are visibly glistening, so that's nice. On the plus side I've nearly finished a little microslop drum & bass version of Landslide. I capped it at 1:45 because nobody asked for it and, let's face it, nobody wants it
You're right Sidey B. Sometimes people end up defined by their partner or lack of, maybe there's a general perception (especially for over 30s) that if you're single you must be in some way defective? Fortunately I don't feel under any pressure to be in a relationship although I want one eventually, I'm also quite clearly not in the right space for it now either. Ultimately it's a good thing for people to be comfortable by themselves and not rely on being made complete by another person. Sorry if this didn't make sense.
I have mostly been single until I met the present Mr V.I wanted to talk about this on the MT but then thought it was too off topic and a bit me-raily. But I wish people realised that it can actually be nice being single. And sometimes just taking time to not be with anyone is a really positive thing.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m so happy for everyone I know in happy relationships, it‘s a beautiful thing. But I’ve been single for a couple of years now, and I’m ok with it. Also my head isn’t in the right place just now.
Sorry, I don’t know where I’m going with this, it’s just really dawned on me that “society” thinks if you’re not in a relationship, you must be looking for one, but that’s always the case.
It's a weird position to be in. We'd not even had the funeral, and my grandma was like 'well, you're still young enough to find someone' Like, chill grandma!I have mostly been single until I met the present Mr V.
I know several serial monogamists who cannot be without a partner - it looks exhausting as they are always at some point having to deal with someone else. Either new love bedding in, or getting no bored or breaking up/finding someone new.
My (actual) FIL died in his mid 60s - which was awful for everyone. Being morbid and witnessing how my MIL is dealing with it I muse about what I would do if the worst happened and I honestly don’t think I would bother trying to find another relationship.
Often it’s how everyone else is - when everyone is single - being in a relationship can be a drag - when everyone is coupled up - being single can feel isolating.
The OH and I are in a poly relationship and I think that's been the key for me. I realised a couple of years back that monogamy wasn't quite what I was looking for - it's not necessarily that I want multiple partners, I've just never liked the pressure of being The One for one person. Mr Pixie has a long term relationship that has been theoretically poly from the start, I'm the first serious addition to it for either of them. Myself and his partner get along really well, we're happy to hang out as a group, I don't get that horrible tied down feeling. It's working out great so far.ETA rereading my previous post I made it seem like everyone needs to end up in a relationship eventually. Just wanted to add that's not true, and being single is not a "holding state" while you wait for a relationship, if you decide to live your life single that's just as equally valid as living in a traditional monogamous relationship, or a poly relationship
I think I'd do really well in a poly relationship, or a situation where we all just agreed to be non-exclusive FWBs forever, but almost no-one I know is looking for the same thing. (Well, a couple of the married men seem to be but that doesn't count.)The OH and I are in a poly relationship and I think that's been the key for me. I realised a couple of years back that monogamy wasn't quite what I was looking for - it's not necessarily that I want multiple partners, I've just never liked the pressure of being The One for one person. Mr Pixie has a long term relationship that has been theoretically poly from the start, I'm the first serious addition to it for either of them. Myself and his partner get along really well, we're happy to hang out as a group, I don't get that horrible tied down feeling. It's working out great so far.
Yeah, the difficulty is finding people who understand the ethical part of ethical non-monogamy!I think I'd do really well in a poly relationship, or a situation where we all just agreed to be non-exclusive FWBs forever, but almost no-one I know is looking for the same thing. (Well, a couple of the married men seem to be but that doesn't count.)