First Love

[Chewycinema]

I had just turned 18 and he was 17 (a few months younger than me) We met through friends after he moved back for uni and had this weird instant connection. I didnt really realise I liked him til one night we were having predrinks at a mates and ended up kissing
Took a few weeks after that til we got together. Lasted an intense 18 months.

Would I fancy him now? God no
He lives in another city and is also married with a son. Im in a long term relationship with a daughter. My daughters a few months older so I'm hoping history doesn't repeat and they dont meet in 17 years time

My “first love” was absolutely toxic for me. On and off for 4/5 years and he had a girlfriend all along. When we met he lied and said they weren’t together. Then I got sucked in when he kept promising to leave her. I was obsessed with him but realise now what a manipulative control freak he was.
His girlfriend got shut of him and funnily enough we are friends now.
I regret every single minute I spent with him and feel sad I did it to her. He is a twisted person and I know he has cheated on his current gf also.
Also - probably serves me right, but I found out he was also cheating on me (if you can call it that) with my so called best friend.
good riddance.

I had a very similar experience with a guy after my first relationship ended.

It took me years to get over. Always seemed to turn up in my life again as soon as I was starting to get hin out my head, then the cycle would start again.
Hope youre doing well now!

 

[Kthxbye]

I was 15, he was 16. We were "long distance" (about 3 hours drive apart!) and met through a school pen pal thing, then we just kept writing to each other. He came to visit me and vice versa.
I lost my virginity to him at 15, and I really truly loved him. We broke up after a year, and although we kept in touch sporadically, I've completely lost touch with him now, and I dont think he's on social media.
I have the nicest memories and although I miss that time, I wouldn't have him back now. I'm a different person.

 

[lastdis]

17 dated for just under 2 years, all my friends started having babies and I said you know I do want a big family, he said oh fuck no I hate kids . So we split I had my first baby a few years later , now I’ve 8 and he had one at 35 . I don’t have any feeling either way, I’d be polite if I saw him. i still have a lot of time for his mum who is lovely

 

[BlobbyBlobbyBlobby]

So cool that you have started a business together! It's something my partner and I would really like to do, what is it you do? We're struggling to agree on something

My husband now is the first person I've ever loved. We met playing playstation and it all just happened within a matter of months super quickly. Unconventional but we love it

We do up old cars and sell them on, we did it with houses for a few years and then moved on to buying cheap cars to do it up. I also buy old things that need abit of diy doing to them and do them up to sell on. We moved house recently so now I have my own room to do all my diy stuff.

what business are you and your partner thinking of doing?

playsation is super cute though

 

[Swanseagal]

We were both 14, part of the same friendship group. He was popular and very funny, whereas I was much quieter and a bit of a goody goody. We were together 6 months until he dumped me and got with a friend. That didn’t last and for the next ten years, we had an on and off type relationship which was very toxic and one-sided as I adored him whereas he would drop me like hot coals whenever something better came along.

I spent many nights crying over him. It wasn’t until I was about 25, and he moved away I was able to reflect on what an awful toxic situation it was. We haven’t spoken now for nearly 10 years and I think that’s for the best. I am now in a long term relationship as is he, but from what I hear from friends is that he doesn’t treat her well either. This leopard clearly didn’t change its spots.

 

[Reverend]

Sounds like you dodged a bullet that you didn't end up with her. Very nice of you to still play a paternal figure for her kids though !

Thanks. It's a tricky one though. She was a wonderful person when I met her, and if she hadn't have got in with that bad crowd, who knows? These other au pairs disappeared from her life and didn't keep in contact with her, after a couple of years.

 

[BorisBear]

I was 15 he was so popular, tall v good looking i was sporty also but not v pretty. For some reason we hit it off & stayed together for 2 years. He was from sweden so we went there on our own together for holiday at 16! I thought It was love but after a couple of years he started to play lots of fruit machines & i would lend him money id never get back. It all got a bit toxic, eventually he cheated on me. I still see him around our town now & we say hi & chat i still speak to his mum if i see her too. He was lovely, we were too young i have no feelings now towards him 20 years later.

we have children the same age mines a girl & his a boy both 11

 

[Readread]

I was 15, he was 2 years older than me. We met at school. I loved him so much but he treated me horribly once he got to the stage of going out and drinking and generally being a teenage boy! He was just awful and made me lose a significant amount of weight and made me feel worthless. My family hated him for what he did to me but I could never see through it. He cheated on me and went on a "lads" holiday and ended up sleeping with a prostitute (which I found out about a few years later)

I wouldn't piss on him now if he was on fire but it made me who I am and made me tolerate a lot less in a relationship. He tried to get in touch a few years ago and he did try to apologise but I shut that down very quickly. At the time I thought it was love and I probably wouldn't change anything that happened. But now I realise what I have with my husband is true love and I know what I deserve!

 

[Ohflogoff]

- 16 years ago while travelling
- no
- hell yeah.

 

[Cherrypie12]

My younger self, would tell you to let nature take it's course, and see what happens. But my older, self would tell you to be cautious, and really think things through.

Thank you. I wont be acting on anything for a long time if ever. I've made my life choices and I have responsibilities I need to stand by for now. I'm sure in time this man will go to the back of my mind and if its meant to be then it will. Part of me wants to tell him everything and that I've always thought of him. But I wont, life works in mysterious ways x

 

[265]

I was 15, she was 15, lasted a month, she had eyes for someone else, after that went wrong she wanted me back.
I didn't go back with her because I thought she would dump me again, we remained friends for a while, she moved
away with her family when they bought a pub in another part of the country. I really dodged a bullet there.

 

[TheScarletgirl]

Don't think i ever had a first love just a few short toxic relationships that we live to regret.

Met my current other half at 24 been together for 6 years.

 

[Be creative]

I met my first love through a friend at 15. We dated for about 4 years (last two on and off). We broke up and he met another girl, had a baby, I met another guy, blah blah. Anyway, we stayed friends to this day and I really appreciate our friendship. Both single now, definitely a chemistry between us, but we are better off friends.

 

[watermelon sugar]

I was 15 when I met him and around 21 when we both ended. We were on and off for all those years. Typically very happy when things were good but it would be awful when we were bad. I think we were very toxic for each other. I was young and stupid, with a lot of issues I should have dealt with on my own. We have both gone on to separate partners now and I have my first child. I dont think either of us would go back but I wish him all the happiness

 

[Adviser123]

I met my first love through a guy I was seeing, I was with him for just under 2 years. I’m definitely not attracted to him now, can’t believe I dropped my standards that much!! I always said personality over looks but looking back now he had neither

 

[Bleurghgram]

I met my first love when I was 18 and was involved with him for 5 years.

I’m 30 now and have ended up in a relationship with his best friend... it’s weird sometimes as they can be quite similar and it means I hear a lot about him. He had a baby recently and my boyfriend called me to tell me, then showed me pictures without asking whether I wanted to see them.

It did lead to a bit of a ‘could it have been me’ crisis, especially as my boyfriend doesn’t want children, but the only thing I feel when I think about him is nostalgia. We were so young! We had a lot of good times but there was nothing real about it.

 

[Matricks]

My first girlfriend was called Valerie. Met her as classmates at my local comprehensive school in the early 80s. She was very shy and demure (as was I) given that we were both around 13/14. But she was great at mathematics, and helped me out with my quadratic equations, algebra and geometry!

I actually found the courage to invite her out after one particular lesson, and she said "yes". And for about 6 months we went to the local park, river and fun fair. We only ever kissed at random because we weren't all that sure how to kiss

But after 6 months we quickly realised we weren't really made for each other - she was the introvert to my extrovert. Good times though.

 

[ricecakes]

We do up old cars and sell them on, we did it with houses for a few years and then moved on to buying cheap cars to do it up. I also buy old things that need abit of diy doing to them and do them up to sell on. We moved house recently so now I have my own room to do all my diy stuff.

what business are you and your partner thinking of doing?

playsation is super cute though

Wow all of that by 25? Is your fiance a lot older than you?

 

[rainbowlemon]

I was 24. We were at birthday party for another girl and just got chatting and he walked me home as he also lived in the same building as me.

Honestly it was just 9 months of up's and down. I grew up with a lot of domestic violence in my home so never learnt what healthy relationships should look like. If anything he taught me what not to to accept in a relationship.

Second guy i met also lived in my building and we met randomly whilst I was taking out the rubbish. He ghosted me after 9 months (then I made contact it was just after new years and i was lonely) and we kept messaging each other but i felt that I just couldn't trust him not to ghost me again so I just stopped messaging.

I have been in love with a married guy for almost three years, but nothing has honestly happened between us.

Now at 29 I'm still hoping that I'll meet someone else.

 

[MissRabbit]

My first love was in my class at primary school and I had a little crush on him then we went to different secondary schools and bumped into each other when we were sixteen. We sent texts, and chatted over the phone as friends for a while after that but I was falling for him big time. When we met up properly again after school I told him how I felt and he said he felt the same way. He didn't though really, as he had a girlfriend already but forgot to mention that! I was heartbroken, and felt so bad for his girlfriend too.