I might actually get them for work as I'm on the lookout for comfy flats LOL.
I'd prefer a bit of a heel, but I'll wait to see how long it is when I get it and then decide.
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I'd prefer a bit of a heel, but I'll wait to see how long it is when I get it and then decide.
Ok, I'm over here, as the Chubby little slug is giving nothing and you fezzas can probably entertain me here.
I’m loving the witch being gone off socials. I know how much it would be hurting her.
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Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
Oh gosh I am so sorry to read all of this. Yes your mini Fezzas deserve the world, but so do youHowdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
There must be something. You can do 9-5 remotely. What about the things like 13 HEALTH. Is that something that is done remotely? What are your other qualifications?
What a tit storm the past few months have been for you. But also, a blessing with your new little bundle! I’m so sorry you are going through all of this.Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
Could you try a company like health direct that provide over the phone medical advice. Whenever I’ve called, I’ve always spoken to a nurse first.
Oh no. I'm sorry that you have gone through all of this. It sounds like you are an awesome mum. As Esme said, is there a 'nurse on call' you could do?Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
I'm not in this field at all, so that is all I can think of.
I’m so sorry @dartsmokingpony for everything that’s being thrown at you in life! With your beautiful 3 month old Fezza I hope you can get by without needing to go back to paid employment for a while longer so that you can recover physically and emotionally.
If you can, please find someone in the legal field to help you because while your ex may have checked out of being a parent to your kids he still has a financial responsibility to provide for their health and wellbeing regardless of family trusts and whatever other bollocks he might try.
I wish you all the best and you, your mum and dad, and your kids are in our thoughts
PS your ex might not have changed his will yet so let me know if you want contact details for a good hitman
If you can, please find someone in the legal field to help you because while your ex may have checked out of being a parent to your kids he still has a financial responsibility to provide for their health and wellbeing regardless of family trusts and whatever other bollocks he might try.
I wish you all the best and you, your mum and dad, and your kids are in our thoughts
PS your ex might not have changed his will yet so let me know if you want contact details for a good hitman
Gosh I've been thinking about your post for a couple of hours now, not really knowing how to respond. You are the strongest woman I've never met! What you are going through on so many fronts is incredibly difficult.Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
Your husband seems to have done a 180 - wanted marriage and kids and now wants nothing to do with any of you. I wonder if he's had a mental health crisis or the the mask finally fell off. It astonishes me that he wants his 4 kids to be placed in the precarious financial position that he has forced them into. I do remember you were concerned about messages from one of his friends who is also gay. That can be dealt with later or ever never. Do his parents want contact with their grandkids, or to even meet the youngest one?
What your husband is doing is actually illegal (not to mention immoral - he doesn't want his kids to eat?).
Open a bank account in your name only
If you don't have one, open up a mygov account. Centrelink can provide payments for you into your new bank account - don't let the husband swipe any payments you get. They are very slow in processing claims at the moment so follow up with a phone call. As a single mother you can receive $987.70 Parenting Payment and a pension supplement of $28.30 every fortnight.
Other payments you may get depending on your circumstances can include any of the following:
Pharmaceutical Allowance
Telephone Allowance
Education Entry Payment
Pensioner Education Supplement
Mobility Allowance
Remote Area Allowance - an additional $18.20/fortnight
You can also apply for Families payments for your children if you aren’t already getting them.
Contact the Child Support Agency - CSA - and apply for a child support assessment. It can take a long time but the CSA can eventually garnish your husband's wages, tax returns or even lump sums that appear in his bank account. They have done that for me a long time ago.
I assume all states and territories have similar - Victoria Legal Aid offers free legal advice, including:
"child support and adult child maintenance to ensure that children of separated parents are financially supported in accordance with the law
spousal maintenance where a separated person is unable to adequately support themselves, and their former partner has capacity to pay."
Your husband may be hiding behind family trusts, and they can be complex to deal with but they are not beyond the jurisdiction of the Family Court of Australia. It really seems like your husband is bullying you into poverty and is hiding funds and assets to confuse you and make you believe you have no claim at all. He's stripping you of money so you can't even afford a lawyer.
In regard to employment, I used Seek with the parameters of "work from home nurse" and selected Victoria to cover regional. You may be over qualified for a lot of these jobs but for now it will get you some income.
Sources:
My Spouse Is Hiding Assets - What Can I Do? | Sage Family Lawyers
If you’re concerned that your spouse is hiding assets to prevent a fair settlement, there are laws in place that can be filed against them. Find out more >>
Are Family Trusts Protected From Property Settlements?
This page looks at whether family trusts are protected during divorce and property divisions.
www.gotocourt.com.au
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Oh dart my heart breaks for you. Have you got a lawyer? Whether his assets are in trusts or not you should be entitled to something - at the very least child support.Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
As far as a new career goes, I suggest injury management. They love anyone with an allied health background. Doing return to work programs etc for people coming off w/c or income protection claim.
great career suggestion. I was thinking something in the public health or case management space. Does it have to be wfh or could you be 9-5 clinic based (no shift work) in something like immunisations or child health? Good luck @dartsmokingpony we’re here for you.
@dartsmokingpony we can’t be there as a shoulder to cry on but you have many virtual shoulders right here to support you. Sending you so much love right now 
Ah tit pony. Im so sorry to hear this.Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
If he has trusts then I wonder if its his parents who are also leading the charge on cutting him off so that you get no money?
The law is *usually* on the side of the parent who has to look after the kids. So I hope he ends up having to pay a decent chunk in child support.
I know an industry that is suitable for you. I cant really say it without doxxing myself though. I can either make a fake Instagram account for you to message or you can message me with a fake email address at temucrap1 "at" outlook "dot" com
I dont want you to feel like you're giving away your identity but I also dont want to give mine away on tattle.
oh Pony, you do t need me to tell you that this is the load to end all loads.Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.
Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been tit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.
It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a tit blow.
My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.
Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world
I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.
So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?
I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .
Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer
. As a (very short) aside, this is why people like ELL tit me to tears, they wouldn’t know adversity if it him them in the face.Also, some of our more cleverer Fezzas have covered heaps already. Without dozing myself, Workers Comp case management is a good option, although be wary of Case Management & the company you go in to. It usually has a high turnover because the work can be pretty harrowing and it is an entry level role, so sometimes the skills of others around you in those situations can be unhelpful in tense situations. If you can try for something a little more skilled in the same area (specialist advisor, etc) that might be more suited for you.
However, I was thinking that maybe the education side of RN might be something to pursue? Like perhaps those companies that provide upskilling, etc in the field - if the ‘back end’ of RN appeals or is something you’re good at, writing training docs or even as an SME for them, might open up a lot more flexibility as far as the care of your mini fezzas is concerned.
I’ve not had much to do with Centrelink payments and the like, so not much use to you there, and @Broken Veneers has got some great ideas already. However, was just wondering - your mum might qualify for in-home help (low or no cost) via your local council - that could be worth it so it’s one less thing to worry about right now. Otherwise, I would happily contribute whatever you need - even if just stuff for the kids (paying off lay-bys, nappies for our little fezza, etc). Don’t know how but we could find a way. xxx
I’m sorry to read all this @dartsmokingpony of you haven’t already, get on MyGov and add the Child Support app. Make a claim for child support this can be done before any legal action.
Thinking of you @dartsmokingpony that sounds like such a difficult situation.
I’m glad the other Fezzas have offered some practical options for you to consider.
I’m glad the other Fezzas have offered some practical options for you to consider.
Thinking of you & your family @dartsmokingpony, other fezzas way smarter than me have covered the good advice.
I don’t have anything constructive to add and I think our legends have it covered above but @dartsmokingpony I am so sorry to hear things are still this crappy for you. If there is anything that i can actually do please let the fezzas know! Thinking of you
Dunno what the pay is like, but how are you with medical audio typing? The company that manages our software is always looking for home based typists.
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@rulebreaker101 how are you doing?