Fezza Chit Chat #2 ✌🏻✌🏻

[dartsmokingpony]

Baby fezza has arrived. She is perfect and today was amazing, a beautiful maternal assisted csection. Other kids are in love. Her initials are T.C which I'm going to pretend stand for our mascot treasure cat
Thank you again for all the love fezzas.
I look forward to catching up on many pages of tattle during all the night feeds now!

 

[somanyteeth]

Hello to all the Aunty Fezzas. Baby somanyteeth aka @notanyteeth arrived a little bit earlier than I expected (but not early early. 38+3 so all G).
A little 🩷girl to add to our fezza troll team!
We're both doing good! Xx

 

[rulebreaker101]

A SHES HERE! Mini tattler

 

[rulebreaker101]

WE Are 6 weeks + 2 days (random last week we thought we were 6 weeks ANYWAY DOESNT MATTER) baby is in there with its yok sac enjoying its time! We had a heart beat at 123bpm AND AHHHH! So tired BUT SO HAPPY!!!!!

 

[Broken Veneers]

Howdy fezzas! If anyone remembers my life crumbling at the start of the year here is an update and a question about what my new career should be ? I apologise in advance about the ramble of thoughts.

Sorry I hadn't replied to the last messages checking in to see if I was ok, i really appreciated the thoughts.
Honestly, everything's been shit. The husband has fully checked out of all parenting, our family and kids lives completely. Like none of the past 15 years ever happened.

It turns out all "our" assets are actually owned in with his families trusts or something, I don't understand and feel so stupid about. So I'm without my car, out of our house, with 4 kids. I'm staying with my parents but my mum has gotten unwell suddenly and is now palliative, so that's a shit blow.

My adorable baby fezza is now 3 months old and gorgeous, she is so very loved and adored and it breaks my heart her father has checked out of our life.
my postpartum cardiomyopathy is now deemed chronic heart failure and the pulmonary embolisms are still being treated with massive doses of clexane twice a day, my entire abdomen and thighs are black and blue with bruises. I can't pay for specialist appointments because the accounts I had access too have been emptied.

Im poor, essentially homeless, desperately sad, heartbroken about losing my mum soon, chronically unwell, 3 months postpartum and trying my best to provide a happy life to my4 beautiful children, who are all amazing and deserve the world

I can't go back to work just yet as I'm receiving ppl , and I've realised I won't be able to return to my employment of rotating shift work , night shift, double shifts and overtime as a single mum with no support.

So now that I have had a whinge and a pity party for myself , if you've made it this far, I would like to brain storm with you diverse and intelligent fezzas to what my new career could be ?

I have a couple of Bachelor degrees and postgrad diplomas however, without doxing myself, my current employment is in a very niche area. But broadly speaking, what would a RN be able to change work to that is not in nursing at all ? 9-5, work from home, minimal stress, etc etc .

Rural and regional location make it limiting, and I'm definitly not interesting, beautiful or talented like Emmy, so I won't be able to make it as an influencer

Gosh I've been thinking about your post for a couple of hours now, not really knowing how to respond. You are the strongest woman I've never met! What you are going through on so many fronts is incredibly difficult.

Your husband seems to have done a 180 - wanted marriage and kids and now wants nothing to do with any of you. I wonder if he's had a mental health crisis or the the mask finally fell off. It astonishes me that he wants his 4 kids to be placed in the precarious financial position that he has forced them into. I do remember you were concerned about messages from one of his friends who is also gay. That can be dealt with later or ever never. Do his parents want contact with their grandkids, or to even meet the youngest one?

What your husband is doing is actually illegal (not to mention immoral - he doesn't want his kids to eat?).

Open a bank account in your name only

If you don't have one, open up a mygov account. Centrelink can provide payments for you into your new bank account - don't let the husband swipe any payments you get. They are very slow in processing claims at the moment so follow up with a phone call. As a single mother you can receive $987.70 Parenting Payment and a pension supplement of $28.30 every fortnight.
Other payments you may get depending on your circumstances can include any of the following:

Pharmaceutical Allowance
Telephone Allowance
Education Entry Payment
Pensioner Education Supplement
Mobility Allowance
Remote Area Allowance - an additional $18.20/fortnight
You can also apply for Families payments for your children if you aren’t already getting them.

Contact the Child Support Agency - CSA - and apply for a child support assessment. It can take a long time but the CSA can eventually garnish your husband's wages, tax returns or even lump sums that appear in his bank account. They have done that for me a long time ago.

I assume all states and territories have similar - Victoria Legal Aid offers free legal advice, including:

"child support and adult child maintenance to ensure that children of separated parents are financially supported in accordance with the law
spousal maintenance where a separated person is unable to adequately support themselves, and their former partner has capacity to pay."

Your husband may be hiding behind family trusts, and they can be complex to deal with but they are not beyond the jurisdiction of the Family Court of Australia. It really seems like your husband is bullying you into poverty and is hiding funds and assets to confuse you and make you believe you have no claim at all. He's stripping you of money so you can't even afford a lawyer.

In regard to employment, I used Seek with the parameters of "work from home nurse" and selected Victoria to cover regional. You may be over qualified for a lot of these jobs but for now it will get you some income.



Sources:

My Spouse Is Hiding Assets - What Can I Do? | Sage Family Lawyers

If you’re concerned that your spouse is hiding assets to prevent a fair settlement, there are laws in place that can be filed against them. Find out more >>

sagefamilylawyers.com.au

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www.servicesaustralia.gov.au

Family law | Victoria Legal Aid

We provide information, advice and representation for families, children and young people that support families to make decisions that put children first.

www.legalaid.vic.gov.au

Are Family Trusts Protected From Property Settlements?

This page looks at whether family trusts are protected during divorce and property divisions.

www.gotocourt.com.au

 

[rulebreaker101]

Ho

How are you keeping, not long now before your little one arrives.

Im good, i got diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes, so less carbs more protein and veg. keeping my levels great - dont need insulin yet!! (hope never)!! i go off work March 15th thank goodness, baby shower March 16th!!! - will be 35 weeks then - im excited!!! cant wait to see her and be around her company!!! I am enjoying life and so happy i am pregnant every week!!!! after al that trying i am so proud of every kick and movement she does !!! soo happy xxxxx

 

[dartsmokingpony]

Just wanting to check in and see how @dartsmokingpony and kids are doing?

Hi lovely fezzas ! Thanks for thinking of me, hard to know where to start. But, the kids are amazing back to school and being fantastic and resilient, baby fezza is gorgeous and has fit right in. Their dad is being fantastic with them and we are civil. Lucky to have my family, I've been really unwell still with the cardiac issues which is all a bit scary. So tattle and all your witty banter has been a wonderful distraction. You are all an intelligent hilarious bunch of fezzas!

 

[pixie spotty]

Hey fezzas. Having a pretty shitty week and wanted to let you all know that your commentary and wit on tattle makes me smile at the end of each day. It’s my guilty pleasure to come here and see what hilarious things influencers have done and I love hearing everyone’s opinions and jokes about it all. If anyone else is having a shitty week I hope it gets better soon. It’s Friday tomorrow so almost the weekend! Although that just means I don’t work but have my 1 year old twins and 5 year old for the whole day instead of part of the day much more fun than dealing with my boss

 

[rulebreaker101]

She is so cute!! But man can she scream and cry when we put her in the bassinet. I had an emergency c section after a 28 hour labour as I was bleeding out every contraction. My placenta de-attached and I lost 1.2L of blood in the surgey. Scary stuff

 

[BeachBaby]

Fezzas i hate to bring down the mood but my husband passed away on Friday night. I had posted in scamming Leila’s thread about him being ill but it was still so traumatic to go through it. I had to do cpr for 12 minutes until the ambos got here but he passed away.
Send some good thoughts my way please.
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[dartsmokingpony]

Oh fezzas I can't even begin to express how much your words of support have meant to me. I may not know any of you "trolls" but your kind words and advice have given me strength. Thankyou so much for your advice and suggestions. @Broken Veneers once again you have blown me away, you are incredibe and I am so grateful for all that information
@BeachBaby Thankyou for that excellent suggestion, I've never even considered that! But it looks like it could definitely be an option and I'm investigating it further. I really appreciate it.

Ive enrolled in an immunisation course, i was eanting to avoid spending( more )money on more education but this seems worth it.
@somanyteeth ive sent an email to temu

ihavnt got a lawyer as yet, only been able to put one foot in front of the other at the moment and barely have money for food and petrol let alone other expenses. Getting worried now my credit card is getting a hammering.Sorry again for the late reply everyone but all your love and kind words have meant so much to me

 

[Esme Watson]

Thank you guys. We are so much more than a nasty bunch of trolls!

Our boy went very peacefully. He knew it was his time. I feel a bit more at peace knowing he is no longer in any pain

 

[dartsmokingpony]

Damn Pony that ducks but good to hear you are getting better. I am sure bubs will recover under the lights soon enough. Who is looking after the kids?
Dare I ask how everything else is going?

Thanks beachbaby,

Feeling much better now but it's going to be a slow recovery I think. At least the csection side of things was smooth and recovery for that has been great !
Lights are all finished and babyfezza doesn't look like a Simpson's character anymore.

Thankfully the grandparents and their dad have been doing a wonderful job looking after the big kids. They have still managed to have a fun filled school holidays.

As far as everything else is going, I have completely shelved it. To deal with at a later date. My parents have moved the kids and I in to their house, and I havnt even begun to think of what's next. I just can't be bothered. Not sure If that's a healthy way to be dealing with it, but I'm funnelling all my energy and love into the kids and this beautiful baby.

 

[rulebreaker101]

How are our fellow fezzas @BeachBaby, @rulebreaker101 & @dartsmokingpony going this week, been thinking of you all & hope you are all ok.

I am doing well! I had my baby shower today! And it went fantastic! I highly recommend berwick catering if you are in the south east; she is fantastic and so is her team!
35 weeks and finished work woohoo!!! Had a big arguement with my boss on my last day so now I officially don’t care about work anymore. Baby shower went better than expected! Wilson botanic garden is the best - please go there whenever you are in the south east! They have buses when they car park is full and they drove me and my partner up in their golf car to help us in the spot we booked! I am loving life and hopefully mini rulebreaker101.1 comes out soon!!!!

 

[rulebreaker101]

I NEVER THOUGHT ID SA THIS, AFTER TWO PREGNANCY TESTS AND A THIRD ONE SOON, I AM PREGNANT! lets hope this baby sticks with us!! i dont want a CP a 4th time

 

[rulebreaker101]

I AM SO HAPPY ALSO!!! This pregnancy journey has been amazing and im so so happy!!! im 32 weeks this week!! 2 more weeks till we see her on the screen. and then one more week im off wor. What a dream come true!! I am just soo over the mooon!!!!! i love feeling her kicks, i love how she is at the moment and cannot wait to meet her, see what she likes, doesnt like and what her perosnality will be!!! im an extravert, my partner - introvert SO IM EXCITED TO SEE how itll balance!!! love her already and cant wait to be her bestie in life and cook, clean and talk to her. SO SO EXCITED. i didnt get anything else over the weekend for her. my family gave us a Dockatot (idk hhow to spell) she will use for 3 months and then my sis can re gift to anoter friend of hers. I LOVE HOW MUCH MY FAMILY AND THEIR FRIENDS are helping!!!! AHHH!!!! i am in love!!! and i loveee updating you all!!!
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ALSO BOTH FAMILIES MET!!! WOW WOW WOW!!!!

 

[#Super Cute]

Baby fezza has arrived. She is perfect and today was amazing, a beautiful maternal assisted csection. Other kids are in love. Her initials are T.C which I'm going to pretend stand for our mascot treasure cat
Thank you again for all the love fezzas.
I look forward to catching up on many pages of tattle during all the night feeds now!

Oh Pony she’s beautiful

I hope you and TC Jnr get lots of rest over the next few days and go home to the love and care of your support network. Never feel alone, your fezzas gotchu

 

[HumptyDumptyLou]

Fezzas I know I’m not super active on Tattle and haven’t been on much recently thanks to work kicking my big fat butt but my precious Monty is crossing the rainbow bridge tomorrow. It’s the right thing to do for him; he’s 14 and has been through so much in his life but has loved everyone with all of his being.

I’m so grateful to have had him for as long as we have but it’s time.

For everyone struggling please know that you’re not alone and there will be this gorgeous soul watching over us soon forevermore

 

[rulebreaker101]

HELLOOO!!! Update Update: MY SCAN WENT WELLL!!! we are measuring 13 weeks, baby couldnt stop moving!!!! 155bpm heart rate and I AM SO BLESSED!!

 

[rulebreaker101]

WE ARE HAVING A GIRL!!