Feng shui

[Milking Keynes]

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Re PMs We've kept them on for years now and it's gone from minor annoyances like when people don't spill tea and instead only send it via pm to people they deem worthy. Stuff like that is annoying as we'd like tattle to be inclusive and not cliquey. It got a bit more serious when quite a few...

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Thank you, You da Man!! - I bow down to you

@Oops... Thank you for explaining the coin flip in detail x although I do feel it’s too soon to take that step as it’s not been long enough to know what I really want. It all came out first of the month so the emotions are still very raw.
I appreciate what my boyfriend is telling me, he keeps telling me that right now as I love him and want to be with him, I “may” think I’m ready to give up on marriage/kids but he thinks deep down I will want kids at some point and upon realising that he won’t be able to, will make me resent him eventually and he doesn’t want that. Nor does he want to see me sacrifice on my desires. He has made himself clear that if I wanted to end things now, he would fully support/understand the decision as he wants me to be happy.
We have been together 18 months, but I have not come across a man this honest, upfront and selfless. I’m totally baffled and at loss. I’ve noticed/felt change in his behaviour since this week. For eg no more saying love you unless I do first, no hugging/cuddling and worst of all he has not stayed over this week for the first time since last 6 months. He has got his younger brother staying at his own place for time being so not been at mine. Now I don’t know if this change in affection is intentional or not but it is so so upsetting. Sorry for the outpouring xx

Oh, I’m sorry. So very hard to know. Is he willing himself to create distance in order for force you away? I haven’t a damn clue. All I will say to you is what I have learned - men are 20% testosterone and 80% pride. Give him space.

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

It sounds enormously daunting. However, good for you for honouring yourself and seeing it through. They may go for an out of court settlement before hand at the last minute. However, you might want to try something I was once advised to do. I must say it worked. You might if you are present in the court (you can also do it remotely if you aren’t actually going to be there). I was advised to imagine a small green ball of light in the centre of the court. Imagine that ball growing bigger and bigger until it bathes the whole court room in the green light. The green symbolises something that comes from the heart and connection to those there. Let that hang there for a while and then change the colour to blue and let that bathe the room. This symbolises communication and truth. It’s important to centre yourself beforehand maybe by closing your eyes and taking a few deep breaths and stating your intent that you would like a good outcome. If the decision maker/s in the court have the power to get the money for you maybe blast them with a bit of red. I wasn’t told to do that but its just that red is a very auspicious colour for finances and if they are making the decision for your finances I sense this may help you. Please will you let us know how you get on and if this helps you. In the meantime I hope it isnt too overwhelming for you during the build up.

Good morning Oops

Thank you so much for your lovely response and your kind advice. I will give it a try. Maybe I will even try it beforehand, as the company is contemplating a settlement offer that I made.

Yes, I will certainly let you know what the outcome will be. On some level it is a relief to finally have an outcome as this has been dragging on for a while, but as you say the stress and uncertainty is very daunting.

Have a great Sunday

 

[Geranium]

Ooh, while I think of it @Oops... I’m going to tag you in a post that explains why the Private Message function has disappeared.

I think I was in hospital when I first came across it, but I couldn’t remember where to find it ... then Helen replied to my delete button query et voila, there it was.

The thread is called PMs and Helen addresses in great detail why the decision to disable PMs was made - it was actually very serious business.

SO KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR NOTIFICATIONS!

Edit: If anybody else is curious and wants to be tagged in this particular post, please let me know because it’s surprisingly difficult to find.

Please tag me!

Thank you for the pictures of your lovely money toads - now I’ll have to choose one!

 

[MissMidnight]

Quick question @Oops...

Although you can’t see my back door from my front door, you can see part of one of my back windows (a small one), but I never open that window and I keep the blind down.

Is this considered bad chi and if so what can I do to fix it?

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

It’s not good to have blockages no but from what you said the judge wasn’t on your side. So this is an external communication problem rather than a problem stemming from your home. I was wondering if you felt the proceedings felt rushed in any way?

You are kind to say that.

Yes, I did feel that things were a bit rushed - for me at least. I had asked the court to postpone the hearing but they declined.
So then there was the hearing and apparently the judge did not make many points / state many reasons, but said that he felt that the situation was not how I interpreted it. So my lawyer called me to say do we want to agree a compromise as otherwise you need to pay the other parties costs and it sounds like we will lose. So I agreed, reluctantly.

The evening before my lawyer called to say he felt quite optimistic and even said that he felt the other party's lawyer might be given a hard time, but the opposite was the case.

I am still a bit shaken and find it hard to believe. I feel treated so unfairly and am so regretful that I cannot get the money (I wanted to use it to buy a house).

 

[whathastheworldcometo]

@50sGirl:

I am pleased for your commercial success and well done incorporating the Feng Shui elements.
I understand how you feel - this "bittersweet" feeling - as I know myself how hard it is to let go and move forward. But memories live in your heart and nobody can ever take them away

 

[50sGirl]

I think @Oops... would be better placed to answer your question than I would. I have looked online and you can try to make it a full square/rectangle by extending out into the garden, by that I don't mean actually extending, just by placing things outside that would complete the 'picture'.
This webpage looks to be very useful, I think I am going to use the instructions here and draw a scale drawing of my home and plot my areas.

The Feng Shui Bagua — A Simple Guide to Energy Mapping | LoveToKnow

Want to optimize the energy in the spaces where you live, work, and play to increase luck, health, and more? This simple guide can help.

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Thanks, I’ll take a look.
Unfortunately I can’t put any structures in that area because it’s a driveway.

 

[Hi there]

Thank you @1001 others for lovely response and advice. I’ll get the red/green pots today and place both of them outside my front door on each side.

 

[Zulkraa]

Hi everyone! I've really enjoyed reading this thread.
Wandering if anyone could give me some advice? I have had a lot of bad luck over the last six months or so, both financially and with my health. Is there anything that I can do to shift all this bad energy away?

If you can tidy the area that is in your far left corner when you stand at the front door that could help you with your wealth

Also it’s not feng shui related, but look up Louise Hay You Can Heal Your Life as that could help with your health issues

Good luck

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[Oops...]

You daughter is very talented but - and please do not take this the wrong way - that picture is not good Feng Shui. The word that comes to mind is, "trapped"

That’s her daughter’s artwork @Milton Keynes so kindly shared with us. I know you said don’t take it the wrong way but that sounds a bit harsh . She wasn’t talking about Feng Shui she was talking about art - but I’m sure you realise that. There is a group of us here (which you may not be aware of ) and we have had to temporarily use this thread to communicate (for reasons beyond our control) with each other but we are thinking of setting up another site so we are not OT) edit

edit again. It can equally be seen as her coming up to the surface (clearly visible) and being able to breathe...and view things from a brave new perspective...having retained enough breath to do so...

 

[Hi there]

Always grateful for your input @Oops... thank you I’m going to have to get another (big) one to put it on my desk in my office. I’ve placed the other two in green ceramic pots outside my front door on each side today

 

[1001 others]

Can I just ask where you get your coins from
Please? X

I bought mine from a seller on Amazon.

 

[whowouldhavethought]

Another thing with beds just for info is you should try to get into them from both sides. By that I mean that one side should not be pushed against a wall.

Such a fascinating thread. What would the solution to this be if I can't move the bed? I have to have it against the wall so the baby doesn't fall out.

 

[Hi there]

Thank you ever so much @Kittycat86 thank you for taking the time to write me such a helpful message. I appreciate it. I will definitely give it a go today, as it’s a new moon once I’m back from work this evening. Xx

Thank you to @Geranium and @whathastheworldcometo for checking in on me. I know time is a healer and it will hopefully get better but it is just so so hard to overcome it after investing yourself so much emotionally in another person. I keep wishing daily that he will reconsider it.

 

[Kittycat86]

Thank you ever so much @Kittycat86 thank you for taking the time to write me such a helpful message. I appreciate it. I will definitely give it a go today, as it’s a new moon once I’m back from work this evening. Xx

Thank you to @Geranium and @whathastheworldcometo for checking in on me. I know time is a healer and it will hopefully get better but it is just so so hard to overcome it after investing yourself so much emotionally in another person. I keep wishing daily that he will reconsider it.

No need to thank me, if I can help I will happily do so and this is something I actually had something to contribute to.
I hope it helps you, I obviously don’t know the reasoning behind the split, maybe you should try and change the mindset of the feelings.

Instead of feeling hurt that his gone and dwelling, try to feel happiness that you had your time together good or bad.
He simply wasn’t who you’re meant to be with and now his gone someone better will come along and your heart will fill whole and happy again and he will become a distant memory.

Be thankful for those memories and think of them but don’t live in them as that isn’t healthy and you will never thrive living in the shadow of things of the past.

May I also suggest a couple of poets to you, Atticus and Beau Taplin.
You can find them on Insta and they have several books between them, when I’ve gone through a similar situation I found them and they literally wrote what I was feeling far better than I could ever verbalise.
I cried because I realised it wasn’t just me who was feeling this way but it also brought me joy to read them and strength that it will all be ok

I hope you feel better and just know everyone has someone and you will find him eventually and be happy x

 

[Milking Keynes]

I agree...nothing to apologise for


Thank you so much . Hugs welcome

Just to add, @Miscanthus, that I didn’t come over to this thread last night so I missed your post here. I was on the other one only otherwise I would have responded.

The next matter that will arise is - where is @Oops - the Downtonbury issue, etc questions will appear. Should we relate to @Miscanthus how it should handled? Should your new thread be mentioned and/or that you’re taking a breather from Lids thread?

 

[50sGirl]

Hi there,

I love this thread, I’ve read it a couple of times and I’ve learnt so much - thank you all for everything you share.

Can I ask a couple of questions please? I’ve bought some money toads (and have had two lots of good financial news despite them still being in their boxes!) and wanted to ask how I go about setting their intentions when I put them on display in the house? Are there certain words I should say or a little ritual to do?

Also, the rose quartz crystal in the centre of my home, does it have to be hanging or could it be placed on a shelf?

Thanks all

I think with the money toads they need something red on them to “activate” them. So either a red ribbon tied to it, although some have red eyes or are red anyway are so already activated or you could sit it on a red piece of paper.

Speaking of money toads, we are about to put my Dad’s house on the market. We’ve cleaned and decluttered throughout but is it worth placing a money toad in the hallway, facing away from the front door so that it invites in money/offers? I’ve not done anything Feng Shui based in Dad’s house so any small (and discreet) ideas would be appreciated. Thank you.

 

[MissMidnight]

Refreshed page a lot - don’t worry I will use my ‘initiative‘ and go to PMs and have a look. Xx

@Oops... if you search for the PMs thread typed exactly like that, you should land on the page you are looking for - the thread only has two posts on it, Helen’s and mine.

May the odds be ever in your favour!

 

[Black.bird]

Hi everyone! I've really enjoyed reading this thread.
Wandering if anyone could give me some advice? I have had a lot of bad luck over the last six months or so, both financially and with my health. Is there anything that I can do to shift all this bad energy away?

Have you brought something into your home - secondhand/preloved ... maybe you purchased it or were given it? If so, I'd try removing that thing from your house.

You need to give your house and possessions a thorough clean. Go and research 'energy clearing techniques' and follow one that appeals to you (there are many ways of doing it). Make sure you do your house, your car (if you have one), all your clothing, inside your cupboards, bags, etc.

 

[AmaliaLana]

Separate space and separate corners probably best at this stage. Hope this helps. It has been dealt with in earlier posts if you scroll back x

Hey, if you are interested we could do a Feng Shui Wiki so far as it is possible. I took a look at the wiki list, but there are only people wikis. We could ask the Mods.


You are missed over there at Lydl's. I'm playing a mobile game called "Wordscapes" and you have to find words like in a crossword, but they all consist of the same few letters. And I am at a higher level now and some words I have to wild guess. It has an attached dictionary, when you found a certain word you can click on the dict and it tells you the meaning. Long story short, I always think, if Oops (btw "oops" I a word you can use, when you have the approbiate letters of course) would know those odd words.

I would give you a list of some words, but it only saves the dict temporarily.