Feathering the empty nest

[SilverSpoonNotIncluded]

I totally get her saying she’s leaving for a while post baby. It stops all the messages or ‘are you okay? Where did you go?’ And hopefully ensures people don’t reach out to her for support when she’s made it clear she’s on a break.

It’s not dramatic - she’s just setting her boundaries. How dare she!

 

[Newbie86]

And just like that....! Yet ANOTHER bump pic for all those who have lost and find bump pics painful to see, on all its ill-fitting-tits-hanging-over-the-top-dungaree glory.

Absolutely no need for this comment. Don't like it.... You know where the unfollow button is.

 

[SilverSpoonNotIncluded]

She doesn’t owe you a photo of her daughter or her name. Haven’t we done this already?

She wrote a book to share Teddys story and help others who experienced baby loss and donated to charity - hardly a money grabber waiting for her next book to reveal her daughters name

 

[Bizziebody]

And just like that....! Yet ANOTHER bump pic for all those who have lost and find bump pics painful to see, on all its ill-fitting-tits-hanging-over-the-top-dungaree glory.

And just like that...! A nasty comment, don't look at her Instagram if it causes you rage.

 

[OutrageouslyScarlet]

I am genuinely over the moon for Elle, I have been rooting for her the whole way through and have nothing but respect for how hard the whole experience must have been. She’s an incredible lady and clearly has amazing support from Nico and her family.

However, I feel to bow out of Instagram when she has had thousands upon thousands of people rooting for her every step of the way, without even telling them the babies name is bad form. I understand her reasons for not plastering this baby all over social media and I completely agree. But as posters have said above, although she says it is to keep it a safe space for bereaved parents, there are a large number of pictures of her pregnant. To announce the babies name would cost nothing - all these people have been with her along every step of her journey. Picking her up when she’s been at her lowest points and cheering her on every step of the way. I just think it’s unnecessary.

I think it’s a smart move, I don’t think people should know your child’s name when you share where you live etc. Obviously I’d love to know.
But we know her surname, the area she lives. I would not be comfortable for 1000’s of people knowing that much about my new baby.
As for bowing out, I think she deserves to have this time. I think she actually deserves to not receive messages about loss for a while too. It’s important to put your mental health first. Also i hope she’s given people after baby loss hope, but seeing baby pictures everyday must hurt others too.

 

[Missoula18]

I thought this was a rave thread. If this was in the gossip section people raving about her or defending her would be getting loads of shitty comments saying go the rave thread if you don’t like it

Looks like she can’t do right for doing wrong. She doesn’t share bump pics for a few days and she‘s turning her back on her followers and when she does she called out for having big tits and ill fitting dungarees! she’s ready to give birth ffs!

And some wonder why she doesn’t want people to see her baby

yes I find it a little bit strange criticising somebody for wearing dungarees and not necessarily looking their best when they are about to give birth!!

 

[Dina2Dina]

That one picture of her daughter could be re used, shared on other accounts, photoshopped I mean all sorts. She doesn't owe us ANYTHING. Stop with thinking she does. She is protecting her. We pull up with SJs for the sharing of their kids.

 

[Allthatglitters666]

Some people are so thick. Someone has commented on her tidy kitchen post telling her to enjoy the clean silent house before baby comes home.

 

[Tricia Doll]

I think the name will be beautiful she has lovely taste x

I agree, she's a lovely woman with great taste. One of the few Instagrammers I genuinely like and look out for.

 

[Homesweethomesweethome]

The entitlement is unreal here.
Would love to know the name, Hope is my guess as it has meaning but who knows, she’ll share if she wants!

You’ve got to realise, baby being here is bittersweet, she’s got what she has wanted for so long, but it’s also a huge reminder of what she and Nico have lost. They do grow up so fast and she’s got so much to process.

This is a rave (not rage) thread. She owes us nothing at all, she’s simply human who probably at the moment looks knackered, has one boob significantly bigger than the other, has family who are all desperate to get in the baby action, and don’t forget a traumatic birth. Emergency c sections usually are done under a general, that can have a huge impact on a new mothers mental health.

Elle, if you’re reading, rest up love, enjoy your daughter and we’ll see you when we see you

 

[SilverSpoonNotIncluded]

You sure? She rose to fame because of the last one, advertising white company?
many a grieved family pass all their ad opportunities on, not profi from them.

What an awful thing to come on and say. She did the occasional AD yes? But didn’t profit from her baby who died. Have some fucking compassion

 

[FakeSmile]

The thing is, whilst she has done a lot of work around baby loss and created what she calls a safe space for those going through baby loss or fertility struggles, it’s still her real life. At some point she has to move on as she sees fit and if for her that means having another baby and stepping away from her Instagram account, so be it. She can’t stay publicly heavily invested in baby loss, not showing bump or baby pictures, just because it’s expected of her that she has to protect other women. It’s her life too.

 

[Justnosey100]

Our1930sfixerupper has posted a video of Instagrammers dancing and singing, Elle is on there with her pug Boris. Dancing happily around her tree Lovely to see

 

[Noname123]

I just want to hear the announcement and know that she’s had her baby and that he or she is safe and sound. I would absolutely love to follow her journey further in terms of motherhood but it’s so so easy for us who have not lost a child to sit here and judge her choice of not wanting to share. That child is going to be the most precious thing to her and who are we to really question her choices on anything regarding that?

 

[Pinkii]

I think there's some sort of black list going round a certain circle of instagrammers. I posted something on @rvk_loves about her breaking lockdown then suddenly I've been blocked by @carasuthers and @thehomethatmademe now @feathering.

they have way too much time on their hands if they are keeping track of names to block and pass around.

 

[Lumpfish]

I think it would be gentler to not reply at all rather than reply a message that could be seen as crass. Or the generic post could be I am sorry you’re going through something so difficult please seek professional help if you’re struggling rather than I don’t respond to strangers as it’s too draining on me me me

 

[FakeSmile]

Maybe.... but she’s posted 9 photos on her new account..... if I was taking a break which I have done. I’d find other ways to keep in touch. Each to their own

I took her ‘having a break’ as having a break from her public page which is basically work for her. Having a personal page is completely different in my opinion.

 

[Pinkii]

I actually cried when I saw her post. Beyond happy for them both to have their little girl arrive safely and to be able to take her home.

Brilliant news

 

[bexgreen1983]

Tbh I’m sick of people moaning!! She doesn’t owe anyone anything... I can’t begin to imagine how nervous she must be about having this baby. Give her a break - if she doesn’t want to come back then let her and if she does let her. At the end of the day it’s her choice!!

This is going to be an unpopular opinion but I think it’s a little bit rude. For the last few years, many thousands of people have been invested in her journey, have donated to her very worthwhile NICU fundraiser, bought her book and generally kept her going during her darkest moments. Now she finally has what she was looking for it’s like seeya. I feel the least she could do for these people is to just post a photo of the baby and reveal the name.

but it literally has nothing to do with anyone what the baby’s name is and she is protecting her privacy by not releasing a picture... if she did that would be wrong too

 

[OneLineResponse]

And that is how to Influence: give new Mothers permission to not watch social media. Give new Mothers space to not be sold all the gifted stuff the other new Mums are #gifted.

This woman is one class act.