Fathering Autism #81 Jumpcuts Edits Hidden Truck, Pigs on Tour Run Amuck

[bready]

I wonder what Nursing School Kaitlin attended. I just heard on the news yesterday that some nursing school in Florida has lost its accreditation and any accreditation (diplomas, certificates, etc...) issued to participants are also voided! Can't remember the name of the school though.

She went to an unaccredited school. It's on her Linkedin. Lack of accreditation doesn't mean your degree is voided, though...it just means other school will not accept your credits if you try to transfer. So if she wanted to get her bachelor's degree in nursing she would basically have to start over. Other schools would likely not accept the two years of nursing classes that she took, so she would have to take those all over again. And her inability to get a bachelor's probably limits where she can get hired too. It really sucks.

I'm curious how the Maasses plan to run a business when they already claim to work 80 hours a week? There's only 168 hours in a week to begin with.

 

[Anony Mous]

That is absolutely disgusting.

Yes, basic manners are a social norm.
We live in a society.
Autistic people often have trouble "naturally" picking up on social norms, or they may not really understand the purpose of social norms, but part of raising any child is preparing them to the best of their abilities to function in our society.

Both of my children - they're both autistic - have been taught, and the lessons reinforced constantly, to display basic manners from infancy.
No, they don't naturally pick up on these things. Some of these things seem pointless to them.
But every time they don't say/sign please or thank you on their own I gently prompt them to do so and remind them that we use our manners because it makes Grandma happy to hear a thank you, or that it shows kindness, or whatever appropriate reason.
And I remind them that we show kindness because they like it when people show kindness to them.

We have social norms for a reason.
Imagine someone getting annoyed with Abbie's vocalizations and physically shoving her out the door, or screaming at her to stop, or any of a number of reactions people might have if it weren't for social norms. Asa gets pissed off enough when people stare; imagine if social norms didn't limit reactions to unexpected behaviors!

What a selfish duck. Oh it's for everyone else, it's just a social norm, it doesn't mean blah blah blah
No, Asa, it's for Abbie's benefit too. If you want the world to be a softer place for her to land, you need to put in the work on your end too.

SO well said! I couldn’t have said it better! She shouldn’t get a free pass for being a spoiled little brat tantrum’ing when things don’t go her way just cuz she has autism! Every kid needs to learn how to act in public settings and should be raised with manners and respect! They think it’s ok for her to act the way she’s does!,they said it themselves in one of their boo boo gimme sympathy sit downs “she’s just bad,and that’s ok” um NO it’s not ok! They irritate the PISS outta me!

 

[Whimsical]

I thank Siri often and my husband calls me nutty.

I thank both Siri and Alexa as well
I love when they both reply with something clever!

 

[Pink Marshmallow]

We have social norms for a reason.
Imagine someone getting annoyed with Abbie's vocalizations and physically shoving her out the door, or screaming at her to stop, or any of a number of reactions people might have if it weren't for social norms. Asa gets pissed off enough when people stare; imagine if social norms didn't limit reactions to unexpected behaviors!

What a selfish duck. Oh it's for everyone else, it's just a social norm, it doesn't mean blah blah blah
No, Asa, it's for Abbie's benefit too. If you want the world to be a softer place for her to land, you need to put in the work on your end too.

A VERY selfish duck. You said it! It only becomes a problem if it affects him, or Abbie (usually, if it affects Abbie, by extension it affects him as well. That's how he sees it.).

You put it perfectly. In order to make Abbie's world the type of world he has envisioned for her, a major part of that is positively interacting with others, working with them in order to accomplish that.

Thing is, Asshat never wants to put the work in. For anything. It's not because he can't (at least, not for a good percentage of the time), it's because he doesn't want to or doesn't feel like it. So he makes up these bullshit reasons to try to justify it. Both in his own mind and to whomever he may be interacting with.

 

[WowMeowMeowWow]

Thread Suggestion:

Selfie Wrld. Fun for kids. Take your pic next to a Pig.

 

[Pink Marshmallow]

Here is tonight's vlog --

 

[bready]

Thing is, Asshat never wants to put the work in. For anything. It's not because he can't (at least, not for a good percentage of the time), it's because he doesn't want to or doesn't feel like it. So he makes up these bullshit reasons to try to justify it. Both in his own mind and to whomever he may be interacting with.

And that, I suspect, is the REAL reason why he wants to make the world "a softer place" for children with disabilities. He wants things to be easier for his family, and to cater to his family's "needs" (which are often really just wants). In his mind, they should be able to go anywhere and do anything they want, with nothing holding them back. I always felt Priscilla's complaints about waiting on the entrance line during their trip to Disney revealed their true colors when it comes to "assessibility." They want the environment to adjust so that they will never be inconvenienced...they don't want to have to plan ahead, or work with their child on skills for handling stressful situations, or decline to take the trip altogether because it may be inappropriate for their child. They just want Disney to let them skip the line, because autism.

 

[MSlix73]

They are very lucky Ab doesn't have those kinds of problems. A shot is nothing compared to what some of you have to go through. They are just afraid she will have a temper tantrum and won't know how to handle it. Thats why they give her anything she wants. Spoiled.

P didn’t want apple juice splashed all over her interior again...lol

 

[Pink Marshmallow]

And that, I suspect, is the REAL reason why he wants to make the world "a softer place" for children with disabilities. He wants things to be easier for his family, and to cater to his family's "needs" (which are often really just wants). In his mind, they should be able to go anywhere and do anything they want, with nothing holding them back. I always felt Priscilla's complaints about waiting on the entrance line during their trip to Disney revealed their true colors when it comes to "assessibility." They want the environment to adjust so that they will never be inconvenienced...they don't want to have to plan ahead, or work with their child on skills for handling stressful situations, or decline to take the trip altogether because it may be inappropriate for their child. They just want Disney to let them skip the line, because autism.

Agreed!
Everyone around them needs to accommodate Abbie (and A&P). Others have to do the work, not the Maassives. Asshat loves to talk about how others need more education about people with autism, acceptance and yes; "assessibility". My eyes never fail to roll SUPER hard whenever he says that. For someone who fancies himself a special needs advocate, you'd think he would learn to say a key word like that properly.

And yes, Princess P doesn't hesitate to pull the autism card if she thinks it will get her something she wants. Not what Abbie wants, what Cilla wants.

 

[Lizaable90]

And that, I suspect, is the REAL reason why he wants to make the world "a softer place" for children with disabilities. He wants things to be easier for his family, and to cater to his family's "needs" (which are often really just wants). In his mind, they should be able to go anywhere and do anything they want, with nothing holding them back. I always felt Priscilla's complaints about waiting on the entrance line during their trip to Disney revealed their true colors when it comes to "assessibility." They want the environment to adjust so that they will never be inconvenienced...they don't want to have to plan ahead, or work with their child on skills for handling stressful situations, or decline to take the trip altogether because it may be inappropriate for their child. They just want Disney to let them skip the line, because autism.

This 100%..
Sadly, they are not the only family that does this and it is shocking to see the families that do try and use their child’s Autism diagnosis in this way.
The Maass Family does take it to an extreme though.
Just two days ago, we had a local-ish autism family that wrote into Delta on social media because of the mask rules. Last month, they all had Covid and now are fully recovered, so they feel that it is their best time of fly down and see relatives in the Maass’s state. Their worry was for the youngest child with Autism (age 7) that goes to school and doesn’t wear a mask anywhere. The Mom refuses to work with the child and expects a pass. Well, Delta came through and allowed the child to board without a mask and they are currently visiting elderly family.
I don’t want their relatives to die but I hope they all pass it along. None of them ever got tests to make sure they were Covid free. They just said after the felt better, apparently they were good to go... But they use his Autism everywhere they go, to try and get better treatment or benefits that money can’t purchase (as this family bleeds money and has unlimited amounts). Heck, two years ago, she scored a free week of skiing in Colorado because she convinced the owners that she knew everything about Autism and could come set up an environment that all Autism parents and kids would love.. Her son was 4 years old!! She was also a Ted-talker and did speeches around our state and when she came to a retreat of mine, she started talking about how bad her son’s Autism was and how bad she was treated and then said he was only 4!!! WTH!! I know several of the Moms, myself included, got up and walked out...

The world isn’t going to change for our kids. We can’t send them to the front of the line and get special preferred treatment. All we can ask is that people be gentle, understand if they are having a hard time and teach them how to self cope and then leave, when it becomes too much....

Tonight’s vlog, I have no words. Yes, we do repeat trips but I guarantee they haven’t set her up with a social story or did talks about going or what to do if she gets overwhelmed..

 

[MSlix73]

When he claims they don't use edible reinforcers for Abbie anymore, he often accompanies that by saying that the accomplishment of a task has become its own reward for her...this is part of why they are constantly yelling "Good job!" at anything she does.

Enjoying praise and having a feeling of "accomplishment" are both connected to understanding that you've made someone else happy. The worth of those things comes from someone else responding positively to you. So if they believe it means anything to Abbie when they praise her, then they believe she does indeed do things to make other people react in a positive way. There is no reason why saying "Thank you" could not be one of those things. He has so little insight into human behavior it is really astounding. I can't believe he thinks he is in a position to educate anyone in any way.

He should tell P to stop saying “ Thank you ma’am” to Abbie, or saying please as well as demanding hugs from Abbie since those things do not benefit Abbie,they only benefit P and Summer. I am sure A is very guarded with how much interaction he has with people outside his home...last interaction resulted in getting arrested from burglary and then followed by getting someone pregnant. I am sure P put an end to him “interacting” with the public after those things

 

[Sweetums]

This was this was funny and I was looking for Abby's face, and didn't notice it at first.
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Meooooowzers made some ABBIucks. Brilliant work it made it even more funnier.

This gif made me laugh for like 3 minutes straight. Thank you.
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This video made over 50k views in less than a 24-hour period. I guess the weirdos wanted to see her freak out at the doctor's office. It actually did better than the clickbait of Abbie in the pool. I'm in confusion. But you never know what the wackadoodles want.

Hate to say it, but most viewers want to see her flip out. Makes things interesting trying to watch them panic cuz they don't know how to handle her temper tantrums without food.

 

[Scottishfalpal1]

Those crowds at the fair made me really anxious

 

[blindfoldedbobcat]

In reference to the post a few pages back where someone posted a screenshot of Asa's post saying that Abbie only has an autism diagnosis but they might have to test her again at 18. I don't see why they haven't initiated further testing now that she is older. It would be easier to detect now than when she was first dxed as a baby, right? Since disabilities become more apparent as we age. I had "something" wrong with me as a child so that I didn't feel I could talk in some situations and couldn't say certain words (could physically, but didn't feel comfortable doing it). It drove me crazy that I didn't have a name for what was wrong with me and no information about it. I couldn't imagine having a kid with obvious problems like Abbie and having access to the best doctors and teachers and not pursing a full analysis. I mean, her other main problem is likely intellectual disability, but they could find out what level she is at and what she might be capable of and any other conditions that might be holding her back. More knowledge is hardly ever a bad thing in the long run.

 

[MSlix73]

This shows A is an absolute idiot who may benefit from some intellectual testing himself. If he says that certain ways of communicating aren’t really important, then why does he feel the need to have a YouTube channel, TikTok, Snapchat and IG. There is nothing he says or does that explains the broad spectrum of Autism. The only benefit that is happening is A & P now having the ability to buy a franchise that will fail in a year,because of course people are incapable of taking selfies wherever they may be and be creative by going to the dollar store to buy fun things to use in their pictures...why not line these peoples pockets more. They are throwing in the helping the special needs community ( I brought up their lack of that a few weeks ago and he said if I noticed anything familiar to take credit. I am) so then people will not question what funds they are using. They constantly say that the money they earn from YpuTube will take care of Abbie for the rest of her life.... I am not sure who their accountant is;but purchasing boats, OLD homes that need a lot of maintenance,ski gear,one wheels, drones,vacations,out of state tuition,and now a business...it seems more is going out then coming in.

 

[bready]

In reference to the post a few pages back where someone posted a screenshot of Asa's post saying that Abbie only has an autism diagnosis but they might have to test her again at 18. I don't see why they haven't initiated further testing now that she is older. It would be easier to detect now than when she was first dxed as a baby, right? Since disabilities become more apparent as we age. I had "something" wrong with me as a child so that I didn't feel I could talk in some situations and couldn't say certain words (could physically, but didn't feel comfortable doing it). It drove me crazy that I didn't have a name for what was wrong with me and no information about it. I couldn't imagine having a kid with obvious problems like Abbie and having access to the best doctors and teachers and not pursing a full analysis. I mean, her other main problem is likely intellectual disability, but they could find out what level she is at and what she might be capable of and any other conditions that might be holding her back. More knowledge is hardly ever a bad thing in the long run.

Ass also says they don't need an additional diagnosis because she has access to all the resources she needs under the autism diagnosis. Yet they complain about insurance not covering things...they couldn't get her a Dynavox because of insurance, and now insurance won't cover physical therapy for her. So clearly she doesn't get everything she needs with the autism diagnosis alone. An updated or additional diagnosis could help them access more resources, but they don't bother. I guess what he means is A&P get everything THEY need with Abbie's autism diagnosis...namely a nice school to drop her off at all day, possibly for life, and free babysitters to take care of her while she's at home. Plus sponsored cruises, beach days with Surfers for Autism, a way to demand that Disney let them skip the lines, etc. Oh yeah, and a popular keyword to draw viewers in to their Youtube channel.

 

[Sweetums]

Here is tonight's vlog --

They should celebrate Ab every single day.....she is their meal ticket.

 

[PugliaLiving]

New business won't allow for much time to lounge around the pool. And Ass, who stays up until the wee hours of the night/morning editing (watching porn), will have to drag his ass into the store to supervise the teenagers (P included). I hope Thummer has checked for peep holes in her shack.

 

[SpiritofSalty]

This 100%..
Sadly, they are not the only family that does this and it is shocking to see the families that do try and use their child’s Autism diagnosis in this way.

The world isn’t going to change for our kids. We can’t send them to the front of the line and get special preferred treatment. All we can ask is that people be gentle, understand if they are having a hard time and teach them how to self cope and then leave, when it becomes too much....

It really is an increasing problem. Not only with autism and not only with parents of disabled kids, but in general. Autism is just very popular, because autism has the added benefit of being invisible. Which sadly also means an increase in outright fakers.
The core is that people think that accomodations and inclusion are the same as getting special privileges. Which is not how this or anything works.
There is a popular mindset in the "neurodiversity movement/community/whathaveyou" that basically says that autism isn't a disability, it is just society disabling them. So the idea is basically to treat one normally and give them every opportunity while also hurling every accomodation their way and never make them do anything they don't like (they used as a gender neutral pronoun here, not a generalization).
I am unable to reconcile it into a cohesive or logical concept.
So, to summarize: A&P are far from the only ones expecting special treatment, they just crank it all the way up to eleven.

 

[Notlistening]

Happy Easter to everyone. Growing up, I always wanted a bunny basket, my Jewish dad would never get me one. I was disappointed. But I loved the jelly beans. When I got older and was on my own I went and got one of those chocolate bunnies. Those things didn't taste as good as I thought they would.
Anyway, I have something close to a bunny basket for you all to enjoy:
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This was an awesome exchange of comments, a lot of these people don't understand what exploitation of Abbie means. We can spoon feed it to them, and yet they spit it out.
I'M DEAD!!!!

I'm always so shocked at how vehemently their fans fight their corner. It's really quite odd! As for A's comment, she addressed both quite succinctly, which bit did he miss? Her explaining that there's nothing wrong with them opening a business, it's the exploitation or her explaining that there's nothing wrong with them open

What a bunch of bullshit! Teaching manners is respectful. But I guess it shouldn't surprise me because neither of those two maassholes have manners.
So Asshole, what is your explanation on teaching her to close out the vlog? Does she understand the concept of that? What tit are you going to sling today? FatherMaasshole

That was my initial thought too. He rarely says please or thank you. I've commented before how he doesn't thank fans properly for presents. But I've also noticed how he doesn't say please or thank you to Ab. Maybe that's intentional so she understands the instruction he's giving her but I don't like it. He barks at her "back pack" "shoes" "lunch bag" and the like. I just think please and thank yous go a long way and can be used as a positive reinforcement. They're quick enough to use "good job", it's an extension of that. Thinking about it actually, I don't think it is just Ab he doesn't use please and thank you with. I think I've heard him say "pass me that" etc to Summer and co. So it's no wonder manners aren't important to him. All countries have manners and etiquette, even if they differ slightly. If "other countries" didn't bother with manners they wouldn't have words for please and thank you in their language would they!?