WE know what causes pregnancy, in this day and age there really is not much reason to get pregnant before you are ready. If a woman breeds with some cat that doesn't give a tit? That's on her. It sure as heck isn't the kid's fault. If joy for a mother is another man? Then put your kid up for adoption and carry on. Some mothers get joy from being a mother, raising a decent human being.
I’m glad I didn’t have children with my ex. He is a sociopath. He did, however, have a child with his girlfriend. That child happens to have autism. I’m PROUD of his ex for recognizing the abuse, and I truly do hope she finds love. (They weren’t married, he and I were, but had he and I had a child, and I left him for abusing me and our child, I would majorly home I’d be allowed to find love again)
Along the same vein...what if Isaiah DOES end up Abs caregiver? Is he allowed to date or does he have to give up his personal life to solely care for Abby?
As someone with a chronic illness, I appreciate the help I get from my support network, but I also hope they have good support, too. I taught a boy on the more severe end of the spectrum, thoughhe was verbal. His dad died suddenly of a heart attack. A few years later his mother remarried and it was so amazing for this kid. Having another loving influence in his life really opened him up and calmed him down.
I totally get your concerns, I just hope folks don’t think they are somehow bad parent if they choose to date. I spent a decade being abused because I didn’t know how to get out. Had we had a child during that time I wouldn’t have given them up for adoption, but I do know I would find it terribly depressing to think I threw my chance of a happy marriage and life, away, on a man who ultimate turned out to be a confirmed sociopath.