Fathering Autism #12 Evangelist vlogger, quarantine is uncool, oops Abbies again in the pool

[therealamylynn]

Asa says as Abbie and Isaih are swimming that people are living "their best life".

That's not a version of my "best life". My best life is watching my husband work the front lines on this pandemic and watching my son work caring for his elderly residents in the nursing home. They come home tired, scared and worried. We don't get prime rib, margaritas and trips to Dunkins. We get coffee made in our coffee maker and American Chop Suey. The Mass family makes me ill. They have no clue what real life is.

 

[GrammaL]

WE know what causes pregnancy, in this day and age there really is not much reason to get pregnant before you are ready. If a woman breeds with some cat that doesn't give a shit? That's on her. It sure as heck isn't the kid's fault. If joy for a mother is another man? Then put your kid up for adoption and carry on. Some mothers get joy from being a mother, raising a decent human being.

I was a divorced mom of 2. I dated a while later after my divorce. Had I not,I wouldn’t have met the man I was married to for 37 yrs,raised those 2 children as his own,and never once denied they were his til the day he died in January. No,I wasn’t catting around,and my kids weren’t neglected. If anything they gained so much more because I did venture out,and didn’t close myself off.
I guess everyone is entitled to their own opinions.

 

[RocketQueen]

OMG! Gag me with a spoon. Pigcilla has a "Do for others" video on her"Cilla stuffs her face" Facebook page. She is claiming her job/profession is an influencer. I looked up the definition:
An influencer is someone who has: the power to affect the purchasing decisions of others because of his or her authority, knowledge, position, or relationship with his or her audience.
They forgot "because of my nasty husband's so called FatheringAutism vlog where we exploit our daughter with Autism/IDD relationship with his audience".
She uses her "porn voice" to brag about Maass Squad Cares. A way to give back by providing useless care packages to the homeless. She even says her daughter's special needs school has taken on the task of filling them which makes it sound like it was all her idea which is bullshit, the school was already doing something like that before Maass Squad Cares was even a thought. How disgusting . The end of the video is priceless. They are in an abandoned parking lot in a shitty neighborhood handing out the worthless bags directly to the homeless. Which, BTW, homeless organizations frown upon. This video was ment to make her look like such an amazing person. To me she looks like a big stupid jackass.

Oh we so frown upon this. I am a LSW at a shelter. First off, its a "fad". We started seeing this a few years ago. Most people seem to call these "Blessing Bags". People fill these bags with crap. Snack food with zero nutritional value, cheap toiletries, etc. Even if they only spend $100 on these bags, there are real agencies who could do a lot more with that $100 then these bags provide. And frankly, a lot of these people do it for Instagram, not to "help". Not to mention, it is actually dangerous to do street work. The majority of the homeless who are actually on the street and not in shelter are severely mentally ill and can be dangerous. They are on the street because they do not trust people and it takes a great deal of care and time to earn trust...some people have been injured trying to stroll up to someone they do not know... or know what they would be capable of. We work very hard to gain the trust of the chronically unsheltered so that we can convince them to start real services....these stupid little bags full of crackers and crap keep them out of soup kitchens, day centers, and food banks and undermine what progress outreach workers have made. Its beyond annoying, and unintentionally harmful.

 

[lillibb]

I want to thank all my girls, and Asswipe is super proud of me!! And all the things!

 

[MudOnMyTires]

First time poster here....I started watching this family last year in the old house and really felt they were a wonderful family. I even bought some LL products (luckily only one order and 2 Amaze boxes before I cancelled) to help them out. I only found out about this blog when I watched the "If You Should Know" video. I feel like many of you here that since they moved in the new house, it is SO different! Where are Abbie's sensory toys like the cool sand stuff she used to play with at the table? Why doesn't she have a sensory room in the new house? The influx of YT/LL money has absolutely changed them for the worse. I do think P can't handle having an autistic child that's why she threw herself into all the school committees etc., just to be able to get away from her and to say to A that she's too tired to help take care of her. I can't believe the difference in Abbie from when she was little - it's so upsetting to see how much she has regressed. In the old house it was all about her routine but in the new house it's a free for all. I also believe CN left for other reasons than they stated - I think she saw the changes also and didn't want to be part of it. Plus without the constant reinforcement training Abbie was probably getting harder for CN to handle on their outings. I hate that they went to those VidCon etc. conferences and learned how to get viewers to click and comment more. Every time I hear A or P say "comment below...." it is so obvious what that really means~please comment so we can make more money. And Isaiah, that poor young man, even though they have said several times they don't expect him to be Abbie's caregiver, actions speak louder than words and they have conditioned him to be exactly that. And Summer - STOP the tickling!!!!!! It is NOT funny and can actually be torturous (I speak from experience when my sisters would do it me). Poor Abbie can't even tell them if she likes it or not. I'm really sorry that I no longer feel this is a wonderful family. This "sweet girl" is growing up to be an out of control, impossible to care for, woman.

 

[Ellie Hill]

This morning on their newest YouTube video I had a chat with Miss Prissy. I had asked if she has ever had a formal test for adult autism. She asked back.."No why would I". I told her...There is NOTHING to be ashamed of. My newest hobby is putting seeds in her head. Preferably in the morning...let her stew on it all day.

 

[Littlestpeanut]

If we looked at statistics I bet you are the exception tof he rules. Yes, we all have different opinions but can be civil enough to rise above.

I'm not sure why you think this is some rare happening, because it's not. A lot of women have and can accomplish this. Everyone's situation is different, and you can't place every woman in the same category because you don't know everyone's story. To be forever alone just because you now have a child or have to wait forever until that child grows until you can find a partner, that's just ridiculous. Give a woman credit, a lot of women are responsible when dating and won't even bring that person around their child until they know that they have something serious.

It's sad you're putting so much blame on women while you're excusing any blame or responsibility on the man.

 

[drarry]

In the house safety video, Priscilla says it is a house rule that no one can swim alone and must ask permission before they go in. So, Abbie a 14year old with severe special needs can jump in the pool fully clothed without repercussions, but Isaiah a neurotypical legal adult has to ask permission?

Absolutely disgusting.

 

[Baymaus]

Right, and your opinion is valued. You are a better person than I am bc, I don't like her at all. She makes me cringe. I tried really hard to like her but, her parents make it impossible. I just can't. I feel like they have made her scary, unlikable and just a downright bully bc, that's what they are themselves. I always think about,"what if my children were right there where she is thrashing her head around? What if we had to sit there and listen to her scream at the top of her lungs just bc we were in the restaurant longer than her and her family and we got our food first? What if we paid full price for a trip and she shit all over the boat we were on? What if it was my kid that she tried to steal food from instead of that random lady in chik-fil-a?", and on and on, and I just start getting angry. I feel like they are trying to force others to be miserable just bc they have decided not to parent right. I really did try my best in the beginning but, I just can't do it. It's just not necessary. I mean, I know every kid with autism is different but, my kid has never even come close to acting like that, ever. I know alot of ppl argue if Abigail even has autism or is just IDD, so, it's hard to say really what is typical of whatever she has. (Whatever it is, it's severe, I think most of us can agree on that.) Thank you for your opinion. I really do respect it alot.

I think when someone is disabled, there is a feeling that we are supposed to overlook their behavior and like/love them anyway. Like we are supposed to be cool with someone being disruptive in public. I call shenanigans on that one. I've said before that if I walked into a place they were at or they walked in, I would be out of there. I can't change how they've raised her, but I have the right to walk away and not be exposed to it.
And to be honest, I love my brother, but a great deal of the time I don't like him. I can cope with what I perceive as being the actual disability. I don't like the learned behavior. Because my mom and grandmother catered to his every whim and tolerated his tantrums, he still resorts to them. Only now he is not 6, or 16, but over 60. I see Abbie heading down that same path and I can't believe her parents aren't working harder to avoid it.

 

[10fingers10toes]

"She doesn't do stuff like this at home because she doesn't want to"....."she out grew it. Her interests have changed".

I wish we could tally this man's lies! Oh so we are supposed to believe that her "interests" have changed to just rocking on the couch?Asa, if you want us to believe that BS why don't you vlog it?? You vlog everything else she does, camera always down her neck, take her to hockey games she clearly doesn't want to be at, Disney, night to shine, fashion shows Playlist..... did she say that she WANTS to do those things ??

Didn't you claim that she forgot about the golf cart in the new house, she stopped asking for a rides, then we see a shiny new model? Did you also say she wasn't interested in swimming, now pool time every day?

Seems like when you need vlog content, it's always something that Abbie wants, or rather, irregardless of what she wants.

So I call lies!! Sit down with her with sensory toys and games and show that she is disinterested. Remember the bubble wand, yeah I do too.

Stop being lazy and making ridiculous excuses because you and your wife are too busy drinking to be bothered with your daughter!!

 

[MaidenX]

It almost a case of munchausen... AnP get attention and money from their daughters condition. So they don't want her to grow. They want to keep her the way she is, or worse, so they can keep getting attention, recognition, etc.

Not much different than doing the opposite with Isaiah. His success is their success. They deserve that attention. Its not Isaiahs accomplishments but theirs for being awesome parents.

 

[RocketQueen]

Thread title:
Planting flowers, drinking for hours, chalk art is the bomb, every boys dream- Prom with Mom.

 

[10fingers10toes]

... And even when she made known these things,the know it all basically balked at what she was doing.
He doesn’t like anyone telling him what to do,not any time,any where. If this all disappears soon,he will be a nobody again. Abbie was his ticket to being his own boss,setting all his own rules,etc. and he took full advantage of the situation and of her.

Yes, Asa always controlling, lying, manipulating, building himself up, pushing others down, ego maniac....a textbook narcissist.

Let's look at a few Maassisms:

-Abbie's yelling stim is ongoing, Asa: We need to find a way to get it under control, let's send her to her room to do it.
- Also Asa: "Telling someone not to stim is like telling them not to breath- stimming shouldn't be controlled" (Playlist trip in Cali with the Wee's)
- Vlogs: Abbie tries to steal food at Thanksgiving -Asa swats her hand and tells her no. Abbie has been sent to her room as punishment in atleast 2 vlogs in the new house ( see "Arguing with Autistic daughter," there is also one she is in thumbnail on the stairs wearing Batman shirt)
- New narrative Asa"we don't punish/discipline our daughter....life is too short"
- Asa: "Abbie is never really aggressive"
- Vlogs : Abbie violently attacking Mom pulling her hair, throwing canned goods in car at driver while driving, kicks Mom while driving, slapped Mom in the face, gnaws her own arm in frustration until bruised and skin broken, wrestles brother and instigates fighting with him(play or otherwise).

Asa why not out yourself as a narcissist like you outed Isaiah's anxiety issues. By the way, do you ever get his consent for what you leave in the vlogs about him? Why do I doubt it .

@Sam-I-Am
I am still catching up on the previous thread. I want to comment about your post about Abbie talking or babbling at a young age.

They did a video about the first signs that she had Autism and they have talked about her diagnosis and how they responded to it, which was mostly talk about grief and anger. I feel like if she had spoken or made any baby sounds they should have mentioned it, but I don't recall seeing that they did.

Thank you for sharing your amazing experience with your amazing children. You are a hero with a strong resilient soul. I wish you all the best in life

 

[RocketQueen]

If the customers dont buy from her, they buy from company....but P doesnt work for the company she works for herself...where is the make-up shes selling come from?? Outer space?

 

[therealamylynn]

I have often wandered how Isaiah was treated when he was underage in terms of curfews, could he have friends over, girlfriends, could he go out with friends when he wanted, did he have to beg to go out on fridays? Stuff like that. There was one vlog where he had planned to get up early and go take some pictures of nature but, since he set his clock and the noise woke Abigail up, Asa got up and pretty much met him on his way out the door and said," nope, your not going, your going to stay home with your sister while we sleep." Makes you wander how happy his childhood really was.....

I could never do that to my kid. So basically he is blaming his son for waking the daughter who woke them up. And he's being punished so they can sleep and he can watch the wide awake tasmanian devil. They are disgusting parents.

 

[lovesis]

I do not believe parents with any children should date. It is just how I feel. If you make a human being, that is your responsibility, not dating. As far as when I especially special needs child is because they need more help and time, if they are non verbal, you have to be extremely careful who takes care of them.

I say if you want to date....don't have children. It's my old fashioned opinion.

How about men stop leaving women to be single parents and taking on the full load of supporting and caring for a child.

I could care less if a single mother dates. I’m more concerned about dead beat dads walking out on their children.

Does the mother not deserve joy?

 

[RocketQueen]

Its a matter of time....it may not be as fast as we would like, but the tide will turn. We see more and more negative comments popping up over there, and new members popping up over here. Asa really needs to start planning his next money making move. Watching Abbie stare blankly while playing with Play Doh isnt cute at 15 (next month) and it will be downright sad at 18.

Also wanted to point out how P mentioned encouraging the leghumpers to share their links and vlogs to "spread more awareness." Shameless plug.

Summer in the driveway with the chalk: "Oh we can draw a puzzle piece!" None of them think of anything except Autism. Like they have zero identity of their own.

Loved it when Sandy tried to run out and Asa had to yell at P to watch the dog. That heifer has zero maternal instinct, even for the dogs.

 

[zazaza]

"she seems to love being engaged"

just... wow. no shit, sherlock. did it really take a global pandemic for them to realize that????

I actually have no words. how are they this clueless about their own daughter, when they have literally built their fortune on being "experts" and "advocates"?

 

[Maidengirl]

 

[KateK]

She got some kind of promotion with her play make up job

Lol.. MLM scams dont have promotions... she probably bought enough product to move her to another level. I saw her crying at the beginning and couldn't watch much more.

Again eating a huge pan of lasagna dripping with cheese.. enough to feed 60 people.