No one needs to reply but I just needed to get a few things out. I'm really struggling with my partners family. Since I got pregnant 2 years ago, it's been nothing but trouble. His parents divorced years ago and was a very messy divorce and my partner isn't really that close with either of his parents.
I used to get on really well with his mum, would have so many laughs, text alot etc. As soon as I got pregnant she completely changed. She wouldn't acknowledge the pregnancy, and hardly spoke to me and then eventually when baby came along, she then decided she wanted to get close to my son. But because I felt so awkward around her with how she treated me during pregnancy I was very wary. And maybe, yes at time I was a little stand offish (especially when all my hormones were still really in full flow!) And I didn't reciprocate as much as maybe I should have done. But honestly, I was a new and first time mum. Trying to navigate myself into those first few months of motherhood. I didnt have the time or energy to be sorting out problems that i felt i didnt cause . Anway, when my son was about 9 months I contacted her a few times to say let's clear the air and start afresh and forget whats gone on and talk about things and get back on track. But my offer was quickly shot down and now we don't speak at all. She doesn't see my son, she doesn't even see her own son (as my partner doesn't want anything to do with her). And I just feel so sad about it all. The fact my son is 2 and she is missing out on so much, makes me sad. I tried to offer the olive branch last Christmas too but she declined again. And I dunno, that makes me sad.
Then we have my partners dad.... this is an awful situation. Basically I don't trust him around my son at all. Under no circumstances do I ever allow alone time with him. I have many valid reasons regarding this, and iv also had talks with the police. ..... but it all seems so desperately sad that I'm marrying into this family. I love my partner and he's a beautiful, gentle soul who is so good to me. He knows what his family is like and is embarrassed of them. But I can't but help to feel sad about it all. I just wish he had a normal family where it would be full of love and happiness for my son (like my childhood was) .
So I dunno, I feel sad for my son not having a nice family around him, and I feel sorry for myself as I can't stand any of my partners family anymore and it just feels like a horrible place to be in, especially as il be marrying him soon.
I know people have worse problems and are really struggling but I just had to get it out.