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Public knowledge hasn't exploded yet. Not everyone is aware of the allegations etc.
If you Google his name there are questions about hm leaving rte etc, but nothing much more. It's only when you add in allegations, reddit or twitter it all opens up.
I'd imagine that until it becomes more of a headliner, he will keep quiet.
If you Google his name there are questions about hm leaving rte etc, but nothing much more. It's only when you add in allegations, reddit or twitter it all opens up.
I'd imagine that until it becomes more of a headliner, he will keep quiet.
The girl in question did go to the guards. They told her not to persue it because he would more than likely get off because of who he is and it would be even more traumatic for her. The current system was built on misogyny and is not fit for purpose. If it was victims wouldn't feel the need to expose predators in this way. Unfortunately this is the only way to hold these abusers accountable and prevent it happening to others. I fully understand why she did it this way. It was her only option.
Good! He's ruined enough lives with his behavior towards women. Losing his career should be the very least of the consequences he should face.
It's normal for victims to take a long time to process what happened to them. She was a child when it happened and probably didn't have an understanding of the power imbalance between them. At 16 I didn't have a clue.
THANK YOU FOR THIS
Nobody knows what has happened to initiate this girl to speak out in the way she has.
Unless you have experience with sexual abuse / assault you have zero idea how you would navigate the situation.
There could be a million reasons why she has chosen this route. One of them being her incling that there are more victims & she is hoping they will come forward too
Maybe she has followed the system & was shot down by the Gardaí. Maybe her decision to put it out there was to encourage other possible victims to come forward and take their own case against him which will be anonymous
Or maybe she doesn’t feel strong enough to take a case at all but needed to get it out of her head.
I’m so sorry that this happened you
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Even with DNA evidence it's still her word against his. That's why these crimes are so hard to prove. One will say it was consensual and one will say it wasn't. It's very difficult to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that wasn't consensual. And the predators get away it time and time again. However a 16 year old cannot consent to sex. The % of women who make false allegations is miniscule in comparison to the % of women who have been sexually assaulted, and almost none result in a conviction. You have to ask yourself why this is? We have to stigmatise sexual assault more than we stigmatise speaking out about it. We have to do better for our girls. We have to require more of men. We have to stop doubting victims. There is absolutely nothing to gain by making false allegations, the fact that in sexual assault trials the victim becomes the person on trial, where every detail of what she was wearing, what she drank, why she was alone is scrutinised and vilified, it's so wrong and it has to be changed. If outing predators publicly is the catalyst for change then so be it. Change does not come from staying silent and allowing the courts look after it. That's what has been happening for years and the current statistics are the result. Not good enough.
I keep thinking of one of the Terenure College abuse victims who spoke so well on the news in the last couple of weeks when his abuser was finally charged and jailed after decades of whispers and coverups. He urged anyone who had been the victim of abuse, no matter how long ago, to come forward.
Maybe that's what encouraged her to speak out.
At the end of the day it doesn't matter why she decided to speak now, and we should all be careful about questioning her "motivation" etc.
Maybe that's what encouraged her to speak out.
At the end of the day it doesn't matter why she decided to speak now, and we should all be careful about questioning her "motivation" etc.
I was abused 35 years ago, I still haven’t found the strength to speak out . How dare you victim blame & how dare you assume a year is an acceptable time frame to speak up. Idiot
They can check a lot of what’s been claimed , it has been claimed he picked her up from school, others might have seen this, he took her to a bar, he may have paid on a CC, they clocking in and out of the radio station, texts, voice notes etc there are many ways in which someone’s story can be confirmed
Wow! Sorry for asking a question. How am I victim blaming! I asked a question? I did not victim blame, nor have I ever! I’m also not assuming anything, maybe read it again and you’ll see who’s the idiot! Very mature of you!
By questioning a victim you doubts a victim and you blame a victim so yes this makes you an idiot !
Agree, no need for that! I have never been abused and I don’t know anyone that has been thankfully. I don’t understand and the ins and outs and I would think “yes 11 years ago ago, why now?” No need for name calling
I asked a question? I did not blame a victim, doubt a victim, or question a victim. Get a life if your on this looking for arguments. People have their opinion of this site. I didn’t give my opinion, I asked a question.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It happened to me over 15 years ago too when I was a very young teenager. I only realised the severity of what happened years later when I was watching a tv show about grooming. I was a baby. My abuser was in his late 20's, he manipulated and coerced me into doing things I was in no way ready for. I won't ever speak out about what happened to me because I don't want to hurt my family. I don't want people to wonder what took me so long. I don't want anyone to doubt my story. So I'll keep it to myself and loudly cheer on those who are braver than me.
Edited to add I still haven't fully processed what happened. People have no idea what sexual assault does to a person. It's much more complicated than people who haven't experienced it imagine.
Thank you Peppy23. Looks like I’m not the only idiot on here
You questioned the length of time it took her to speak out
You are the reason people don’t speak up because they are questioned and doubted
Ok yes it’s my fault. Have a nice day
Everytime I see someone find the strength to speak out I see people question her, why didn’t she say something to someone straight away, why did she go to his house, why did she breath in his direction
The second you question someone who’s a victim you belittle the story she’s telling , it will have taken sometimes years of bursting to speak out, years of feeling dirty, years of feeling damaged to finally speak out & it angers me so much to see women question any word another woman has to say about her story
I'm not going to resort to name calling but it is attitudes like this that prevent victims from speaking out. It's not your fault, it's conditioning by society, but you can choose to address the way you automatically think about, by asking yourself why the default is to question the victim when so many women are assaulted and so few predators actually have their lives ruined. Michael Jackson was about to begin the biggest tour of his life before he died in spite of the allegations made against him. Harvey weinstein got away with his abuse for decades because his power silenced his victims. Donald Trump became president of the USA regardless of the number of allegations against him, regardless of his association with Jeffrey Epstein and his victims. And even with all this knowledge you still say things like "But what about the women who lie and ruin men's lives?! We need more proof!!" It's so sad that we still require so much of the victims. Truly heartbreaking.
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