I think this guy is just taking the piss personally. Sheās seemingly been just paying out for everything, heās a lazy man child who is happy to just sponge off her and behave like a teenager. Iāll bet that the second she cuts him off financially, he will be off like a rocket.I donāt think you can expect your partner to care about having a lavish lifestyle - not everybody cares about designer and if that bothers you then maybe he isnāt the partner for you
However, that aside I think you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him about his lack of ambition in life, especially considering you have a baby on the way. You probably shouldāve addressed this before having a baby with him and before it got to the stage where heās quitting work because he ācanāt be botheredā and getting fired because heās always calling in sick. Maybe thereās something deeper going on? Like depression? Why would you book a holiday with him knowing youād have to pay for everything but then being unhappy youāve had to pay for everything? Surely you shouldāve told him to pay for half upfront and then if he didnāt refuse to go? I think youāve let him behave like this for far too long which will make it harder to resolve. And maybe he shouldnāt be wasting his money on cigarettes and champagne but rather supporting your child (I had a nosey at your other posts)
Ugh, so sorry to hear.Soā¦ we had the chat and it didnāt go very well . Last week Iād asked him to stop smoking when I was around him as Iām a smoker too and Iām finding it really hard, he replied with āyou canāt tell me what to do you bleeping knobheadā so when I went to his tonight he lit a cigerette within 10 mins and then had another one ten mins later and I just saw red. I asked him about getting a job and just said that he hadnāt tried today as heād spent the whole day making me dinner and I didnāt seem at all grateful , it was a stew that definitely didnāt take all day! I tried to ask how he thought we were going to manage in the future.. he said Iām just being moody and miserable because he thinks I miss cigerettes ā¦ wtf .
So, I left and Iām going on the holiday on my own minus the Bag for Life! Thanks for everyoneās support! Youāre all so rightā¦ writing it all down makes me realise how ridiculous this situation is.
Iām going to be blunt here.Soā¦ we had the chat and it didnāt go very well . Last week Iād asked him to stop smoking when I was around him as Iām a smoker too and Iām finding it really hard, he replied with āyou canāt tell me what to do you bleeping knobheadā so when I went to his tonight he lit a cigerette within 10 mins and then had another one ten mins later and I just saw red. I asked him about getting a job and just said that he hadnāt tried today as heād spent the whole day making me dinner and I didnāt seem at all grateful , it was a stew that definitely didnāt take all day! I tried to ask how he thought we were going to manage in the future.. he said Iām just being moody and miserable because he thinks I miss cigerettes ā¦ wtf .
So, I left and Iām going on the holiday on my own minus the Bag for Life! Thanks for everyoneās support! Youāre all so rightā¦ writing it all down makes me realise how ridiculous this situation is.
He expects you to be grateful for a meal he threw together with food YOU paid for, in a house YOU pay for, with electric/gas YOU pay forā¦.!! Heās an idiot!Soā¦ we had the chat and it didnāt go very well . Last week Iād asked him to stop smoking when I was around him as Iām a smoker too and Iām finding it really hard, he replied with āyou canāt tell me what to do you bleeping knobheadā so when I went to his tonight he lit a cigerette within 10 mins and then had another one ten mins later and I just saw red. I asked him about getting a job and just said that he hadnāt tried today as heād spent the whole day making me dinner and I didnāt seem at all grateful , it was a stew that definitely didnāt take all day! I tried to ask how he thought we were going to manage in the future.. he said Iām just being moody and miserable because he thinks I miss cigerettes ā¦ wtf .
So, I left and Iām going on the holiday on my own minus the Bag for Life! Thanks for everyoneās support! Youāre all so rightā¦ writing it all down makes me realise how ridiculous this situation is.
Good for you! Thatās a massive step in the right direction. I hope you manage to relax and reflect on everything whilst away. Put him on a do not disturb setting so he doesnāt disrupt your peace.So, I left and Iām going on the holiday on my own minus the Bag for Life! Thanks for everyoneās support! Youāre all so rightā¦ writing it all down makes me realise how ridiculous this situation is.
Ahhh mate no no no. Anyone who thinks itās ok to verbally assault you, who thinks itās ok to smoke round you while youāre pregnant (never mind youād requested he didnāt as well) is no good. Get rid of him.Soā¦ we had the chat and it didnāt go very well . Last week Iād asked him to stop smoking when I was around him as Iām a smoker too and Iām finding it really hard, he replied with āyou canāt tell me what to do you bleeping knobheadā so when I went to his tonight he lit a cigerette within 10 mins and then had another one ten mins later and I just saw red. I asked him about getting a job and just said that he hadnāt tried today as heād spent the whole day making me dinner and I didnāt seem at all grateful , it was a stew that definitely didnāt take all day! I tried to ask how he thought we were going to manage in the future.. he said Iām just being moody and miserable because he thinks I miss cigerettes ā¦ wtf .
So, I left and Iām going on the holiday on my own minus the Bag for Life! Thanks for everyoneās support! Youāre all so rightā¦ writing it all down makes me realise how ridiculous this situation is.