Does anyone hate their job?

[Glamourelle]

Just wanted to say a huge thank you to those who replied to my mini meltdown last week - I think tattle definitely gets a bad reputation but I really appreciate the fact we can post here without any fear of judgement .

I did worry that from my first post, perhaps I’ve been a bit too rash and sometimes just need to “toughen up” on my resilience, especially if I don’t get into the swing of things straight away. I think with most of the jobs I’ve gone into in the past, I’ve been able to ace the role pretty quickly whereas here I feel like I am constantly drowning - I’m not enjoying the role or the culture as much as I thought I would, I’ve already got into trouble on a couple of occasions for messing things up/being slow on processes and I feel like my manager is constantly pulling me up on things that I’m doing wrong (or I manage to get a handle on one thing and then cock up another thing completely). I also sit in on meetings with barely any idea what’s going on and I feel so incompetent (my manager also made a comment that I need to start speaking up more and to be proactive - I think this is from feedback from others which is embarrassing), which I feel so let down in myself for as I’m usually so confident and chatty!

I took another posters advice and spoke to her last week about struggling with keeping on top of the work (having to work unpaid through lunch breaks each day and some evenings until 9pm, not down to poor time management but there is literally SO much work and only two of us to do it), but as she is the only other one doing the workload I feel bad piling more work onto her .

I’ve been awake since 2am worrying about working today and was in tears yet again this morning before I started. I’ve never, ever felt like this about somewhere I’ve worked before, and considering it’s only my second month here, I just don’t know what to do. I’m looking at other roles on Indeed but then another part of me is just telling myself I just need to man up, stop being such a baby and to get over it.
Anyway just needed to have a huge mind dump so apologies for derailing the thread slightly! I really hope we can all just figure out what to do

 

[1001 others]

I actually like my job, but the people make it difficult. The work environment is like high school. They purposely go out of their way to exclude me from things. It really used to make me upset but now I just try and ignore them. I love the actual "work" part of my job so its a shame.

In my experience, it's always the people who make or break a job.

 

[JustmeKC]

I had my last day on Friday, my last coffee and cake with some colleagues and handed in all my stuff. I thought I'd feel sad, but it actually felt pretty good. Sad about colleagues, but other than that, I more felt like a sizeable chunk of brain size was mine again, no longer reserved for all the work things. No second thoughts yet, even though I'm a smidge bored at home, my new job isn't until September.

Enjoy the break & do all the things working full time stops you from doing. Be a tourist in your own city, catch up with friends/relatives who don’t work over coffee or day drinks, sort the corners of your home that have been bugging you for ages, enjoy not having to get up to an alarm. Enjoy the couple of weeks of freedom!

 

[PinkMariner]

Had my interview yesterday - I have never been so nervous in my life! It went well I think, but the questions were very open - for example "How can you help the MD in his work?" Well, give me a clue what areas he needs help in - does he need diary management, does he need travel arrangements, does he need someone to tie his shoelaces? It is tough when it is so open. But there were a couple of bits that I think really impressed them. I should know by the end of the week. Fingers crossed!

 

[PinkMariner]

EEEEKKKK! Just got this off the back of my interview on Wednesday -

Hi ,

It was lovely to meet you the other day.

We were impressed with your responses and would like to invite you to complete some tasks so we can see how you would deal with certain situations which may arrise in this role.

1. Phone up and leave a voicemail to a client to rearrange a meeting with Liam. You can phone 07XXXXXXXX0.
2. Write an email that you would send to a client who’s website project needs to be pushed back by 2 weeks because of our staff illness. You can send this email to myself.
3. Create a spreadsheet template to show how you would keep track of which office equipment/electronics team members have taken home with them - include some example data. Again please email this to myself.

We should be grateful if you could complete these tasks by Tuesday next week (8th March).

If you have any questions please let me know.

Kind regards,

I am ON IT LIKE A CAR BONNET!!!!!!!

 

[emmer_moans]

I am watching Loose Women. I am WAH but having my lunch. The next item is on Quiet Quitters. Those people who are still employed but are doing the minimum. That is now me. I meet my targets but all the unappreciated extras and angst over trivia has now gone. I don’t want flowery words, or progression, I just want to do my job competently but as quickly as possible. And not get involved in any other shit, extra projects, office politics, collections, social gatherings. I proclaim it out loud. I am a Quiet Quitter. I could not care less. I am over it all.

This is me also. I have expended far too much mental energy over the past 10 years trying to achieve, show willinging, be competent, pull my weight, train, go the extra mile. However I have seen slackers and incompetent people being protected and given so many chances, yet when I have made small error I get hauled over the coals for it. This past year I have decided to just do the job well, to the contracted hours, be polite but quiet, keep my head down and leave for the day knowing I did my fair share. No longer will I go the extra mile. I don't want the agro of being a manager (I don't want the stress), so there's no real non-management progression for me, so I feel trapped. I know many managers who are stressed to heck, and I just know it would destroy me.

 

[Paradisefalls]

I posted a few weeks ago about how I don’t hate my job but I hate the client I work for.
A new role came up internally at another client (someone I worked with before in a previous job so I know they aren’t so immoral) and I got it! Just got 3 weeks to go and I get to move onwards and upwards!
The irony is - since I accepted the new role I have been contacted by 3 recruiters about other roles. Typical

 

[Everycloud]

I want to add my 2 pence worth. I’ve been reading this thread for a while and it makes me feel a little better and I also love seeing the updates of coming out the other side.
I got made redundant last year from a job I loved I was there a number or years and I was progressing really well. Had a great relationship with my manager / company director. Covid killed the business- it was in corporate hospitality so
I panicked when I found out I was being made redundant and took the first job that was offered to me (I had financial commitments etc). On the outside it seemed a good choice, it wasn’t the highest paid job but it was Monday - Friday, great holiday allowance and fab pension.
I hate it. Hate it. No support. You speak with management about it they just pass it onto someone else who says that can’t do anything about it. You are constantly expected to do 2/3 peoples work all the time. It’s just getting me down.
I have no issue finding a new job, in fact there’s some great jobs on the market at the moment BUT I have just applied for a mortgage. I’m nearly 30 and myself and my partner really haven’t had the best of luck with jobs, he’s been made redundant twice also. We finally found a house we can afford and are in the right position. So I’ve told myself I need to suck it up until (hopefully) the mortgage is approved and we move in. THEN I will focus on getting myself a better paid job that I enjoy
sigh, that feels good to get off my chest.

 

[Hbirdette]

I fucking hate my job, you are not alone. Thankfully I’m not working at the moment and due a baby in spring and I’m sooooo happy I don’t have to go back. Looking at a career change when I eventually do go back to work, god knows what it’ll be in! I’m not even arsed at the moment!

 

[Norfolking Good]

I concur I left teaching as it was making me so stressed and ill. I loved the job just not all the bureaucracy that went with it. It got so bad I used to drive to work hoping I’d get into an accident so I didn’t have to go in again.
The one thing I now realise years later is that I should have walked away, and granted I was unemployed for 6 months after and really financially struggling, but nothing is worth getting to a point where you are sick every morning or becoming poorly. You get no thanks for beating yourself up so be kind to yourself if it’s really awful. My new job is still in education but no marking or exams. The pay is a good £10k below what I was earning but I’m not dreading every day.

 

[Mamacita]

I’m wfh and I don’t enjoy it as much as I thought I would, primarily because I find it quite isolating. I never thought I’d miss gossiping in the canteen! My job (legal) isn’t very social in terms of collaborating so my days can be spent literally not speaking to another soul. I also don’t like having work in my house, because it never feels like I actually get away from it. However there are perks - zero commute, able to make and eat proper meals and snacks throughout the day (no more Tesco sandwiches ), pop outside for a stroll if I feel like it etc. Also not having to dress up for work….although I kinda miss that in a weird way. I’d say a lot of it depends on the kind of work you do and why you’re thinking about wfh as an option!

It's interesting how different people feel about it. I've been loving working from home. Hate small talk in the office and it was always taking so much out of me I didn't want to do anything with my friends on weekends and just wanted to isolate. I also don't find it difficult at all to separate work from life, even when I lived in a tiny place, I just turn the laptop off and that's it. There are hardly any negatives for me. But it really depends what kind of person you are I guess, I'm relatively introverted I think so going to the office is just effort. I'm more productive at home too as don't have the distraction of people constantly talking and.moving around near me.

 

[Peakyblinders]

Had a really bad couple days cried the whole way to and from work yesterday and today it really is awful. Hope I can find something else soon but doubt it. Hope everyone is ok xx

 

[Norfolking Good]

Yeah I’m normally a very positive person but it wasn’t until I left that I realised how poor my mental health was. It took a long time to mentally get over leaving as I’d always wanted to teach and I felt a failure for bailing out but had I carried on I would have either been clinically depressed or worse.
I’m a big advocate for working to live not living to work and no one should go home upset or depressed because of a job - we spend up to half our day working and it’s a lot of time to be hating where you are. It’s really not worth it and there is a better role out there for you, sometimes doing something you’d never even thought about.
Just thought I’d send a happy story out there for anyone who is feeling bad

 

[Rockin' Robin]

Another difficult day at the care home today. A few annoyances along the way. My mood was not helped by one of the housekeepers, she criticised me for leaving the laundry door unlocked for 5 minutes, whilst I did other things. She and another member of staff were standing a few feet away on the other side of the door, so they would have seen anybody wandering into the laundry.
I managed to avoid the occasionly hostile, frequently unfriendly carer for most of the day. That is until she knocked on the laundry door, and wanted to come in for something. She said she didn't remember my name. Bullshit.
Anyway, I am developing a coping stratergy to deal with some of the twonks, I have to work with. I have given them new names, to suit their personalities.
The authoritarian housekeeper is now known as Atilla the Hun. She is as rough as a badger's behind, with the sensitivity of a sledgehammer.
Unfriendly carer is Miss Piggy - or Maureen as I have decided to name her (not to her face obviously!)

 

[toetoetoe88]

I’m very close to handing in my notice. I’ve taken today off as breathing space but yesterday I was just concerned about how a few things went down.

• New manager throws a completely new system at me to use for something urgent. When I’ve asked for a Teams session to go over the basics she suggests I track down a manual somewhere on our shared drive. Spoiler - it doesn’t exist. It’s something that needs training on - finance related and if it’s done incorrectly it brings in complaints from customers and clients. She’s had this in her inbox for three months and the closer she gets to the deadline she realises she doesn’t have capacity and throws it to me.
• The office has had a refurb, but the internet is awful. I couldn’t physically do anything yesterday and when I suggested I would WFH the rest of the day I got some very weird looks from other teams - it’s like I shot someone’s dog. The HR Manager who was in asked me to use my own phone data as a hotspot (?!)
• My mental health is terrible because of this job. I’m actively looking to go (and obviously keeping it on the quiet from anyone). It’s got to the point where I have work dreads every single day and I’m incredibly emotional. The longer I carry on the more ill it’s making me - so I need to go see a doctor at this rate.
• Policy-wise I need to either let HR know or my line manager. The nature of some of my work is that if it’s not done, there are operational circumstances. Thats fine - I’ve drafted a short handover based on being off for a few days, I make sure relevant external people know and they have points of contact and I arrange a call with my line manager. I’ve told her I’m unwell as per the policy - she then tells me she doesn’t know the policy themselves, I need to speak to her higher up and I cannot log off until I do so.
• Higher up then calls me on Teams and grills me for 15 minutes on how I’m feeling. I don’t feel comfortable declaring anything bar mental health - I’m conscious that employers have a duty of care to their staff, but this wasn’t anything welfare related. This was overly aggressive where she tried to pick apart what little I said.
• She then tells me that to be off sick I’d need a doctor’s note from day 1, I need to be conscious of the time of year and HR will be in touch on Monday after I have a day’s annual leave. You self certify for 7 full days and then after that period it’s a note…even though this is in writing nobody knows this?! She even asked me if I had annual leave left and can I use this for if I'm ill - what?!

This is the same company where someone’s parent died and they expected them to still be logged on a day after working.

Other teams have observed that I’ve had absolutely no training and getting some very baffling treatment (from a team that never come in the office at all - yet I’m expected to always be there unless if I have a “genuine reason”). It’s an absolute shitshow and the closer we get to the the incredibly busy period end of July it’s getting worse.

I respect that some companies need to think of their operational needs (I am not expecting a company to fall at my feet and give me unlimited time off while I recover - business is business). But Jesus Christ, I don’t even feel comfortable anymore having the audacity to follow a policy when I’m very unwell. I’ve always had my notice drafted on my personal email - I’m feeling I should be ready to send it across when HR speak to me after the weekend. I now feel that I’ve stuck my neck out too much by doing what I thought was right for me and I’ve got a target on my back.

And what I don’t appreciate is that I’ve raised this with my line manager, they’ve fobbed me off onto someone senior who has little dealings with me and clearly doesn’t even know any bloody HR policies!!!

 

[Peakyblinders]

I worked for a really professional well known organisation before and now the company I work for is so unprofessional. So unorganised, always sends emails and WhatsApp’s out of work hours which really put me on edge. Always changing things without asking us first. The team doesn’t gel, not professional at all and I just hate it

 

[Peakyblinders]

Thank you for your advice and glad to see you guys are happy now! It really does make you mentally ill doesn’t it and that feeling of dread when you wake up!
just hard to find something in the same (ish) field for a similar salary! I need to get out!

 

[chapterthree]

I don't enjoy it anymore. It gives me no work life balance and leaves me stressed constantly but I'm trapped because of my wages

 

[Pixipoppy]

I’ve had a few days off and it’s my first day back tomorrow. My chest has felt tight and I’ve been crying on and off all afternoon - I can’t face it, sounds so dramatic but I feel like my life is over, I’m not myself at all when I’m in work I’d give anything to be financially stable enough to resign and do something I enjoy/less stressful instead. I feel so trapped and alone, when I say how I feel to other people they all agree and say “yeah I hate work too”.. but is it normal to feel like this? Sometimes when I’m driving in I think about how easy it would be to crash my car so I don’t have to face the stress of work for a while - surely that’s not normal?

 

[Pinkbutterfly]

I absolutely despise my job. I been there for a few years now and the stress is something else. Frequent 8am calls and 11pm calls as we have colleagues on the other side of the world. No paid overtime. Been told to take annual leave multiple times in the pandemic total of 12 days now when we only get 25 a year. The stress of my job has led to me getting a variety of migraines that happen every day and no cure. Just tablets from the doctor that I take before bed but still early days and no real results yet I think about when I resign and all the things management need to hear.
Cannot leave my job yet because of my own financial commitments (mortgage. Credit card debit and car loan) once my CC debt is gone hopefully by September then I will be looking for a job that pays less and less stress.
cannot describe how many times I’ve cried because of this job. Or the times I faked being sick because my mental health was in pieces and I couldn’t get out of bed let alone work.
Look forward to the day I can come back to this post and say I am happy in my job