Does anyone hate their job?

[House of Tea]

Not really sure that this is the right thread for me because I do like my job, however I get such bad anxiety before every shift. I’ve worked there for 2 months now and have lost a stone because of how sick I feel from anxiety. I wish I could just quit but with the cost of living going up there’s just no chance

What is the anxiety about? Can you pinpoint a cause?

 

[Codiaeum]

I got so mad again today at the sheer level of incompetence some people I work with display... I know people often say that you shouldn't take things like this personally, but honestly, I find that very hard. I'm busting my very own personal ass there daily, it's my personal time. Not taking it personally then is at least for me quite out there. Also...why do I need to be someone's gopher so often? Nobody is doing that for, but apparently many grown-adults are incapable of it I'm really not sure if it is just me, but i really do struggle with "not taking it personally".
I explained my predicament to my boyfriend. Since we both work from home and in the same room, he is quite aware of how mad I can sometimes get when I abuse my poor keyboard and talk louder during meetings. I freely admitted to him that I wanted to see what that raise would give me and that to some extent I'm "doing it for the money" (which most people, imo, are guilty of). But that also I do know that the work and situation will not change just because of a raise. Since he wasn't fuming as I still was, he correctly pointed out that I should just apply for whatever I was interested in, as I already know that the situation won't change. I might be the same there, but you can't know unless you try it.
My former manager is at a company I'm interested in, I might contact him to ask how things look from the inside there....

 

[Pinhead Larry]

Brilliant

So, I got paid yesterday for August anyway so Fridays pay would be Septembers payday which I’d give them back anyway so I’m like wellll what’s the point in even going in cos it’ll cost me £10 in petrol anyway lol. They said finance dept will be in touch with me when she’s back off hols. I just hate the job, I hate that I stayed for so long being unhappy cos we was so busy etc

They said they won’t be giving me a character reference it’s literally start / finish date etc so.

I can’t believe you blocked them, HAHAHAHA

Hahahaha well in that case have a nice Friday off I don't know what the process would be in that instance, would they bother chasing for it back

I was being a little shithouse, but I had been offered a job with a considerable pay rise, hated working for them and I wanted to leave and be on the better pay asap, with time for a week in Spain just before. Worst thing about that was I got track and traced on the plane home and had to isolate for 10 days 3 days after starting the new job

 

[Red hair dont care]

Hi guys I have provisionally been offered a new job subject to pre employment checks. I was just wondering what the “rules” are with regards to notice periods? Do you HAVE to do your whole notice period like what would happen if you didn’t? My current work place is 2 months notice period and I am not prepared to do that. X

Good luck! Depends what is writing into your contract. Not sure if you have to do as it says in contract but some places stick to it. But if they get a new person for your job train then and go. Worth an ask of HR or request you leave early will it affect any holiday pay or pay?

 

[TheGlossy]

Big 4 is pants and pay is shit and hours are long but the knowledge you get is unquestionable, my partner works in one and I used to work there too

Wholeheartedly agree! I learned more in my first 6 months in Big4, then I have in this last year in my banking job. Industry jobs can be very "monotonous" and "routine"-like. You basically do the same thing day in and day out and only learn what is required to perform your job adequately, nothing more.

Additionally, the social aspect of Big4s is much better than in banking (at least pre-COVID). I'm quite introverted by nature, but I was positively surprised by the amount of socializing/network I did there, simply because the company culture encouraged it. In my current banking job, I could go weeks without Skyping/calling anyone if I wanted to because this team is quite anti-social. Again, Big4 also had some questionable employees, but I find people to be overall more pleasant to deal with. Sometimes I regret leaving the Big4.

 

[no-no]

just wanted to drop in and say hi! Closing date for this job is today, so hoping to hear something soon. I’ve also applied for 2 others that I really fancy.
I had a bit of a breakdown last week, and finally admitted my mental health isn’t good. I’m on antidepressants now and I am absolutely sure my job is a large part of the cause.
I need to get out. X

Fingers crossed for your applications How are you preparing yourself for interviews given your mental health at the minute? It’s a hurdle for me applying elsewhere right now. I’ve been interviewing recently and understand I over-egg them when I’m the candidate; the interviewer really does want to give you the job on the whole.

 

[Hope96]

New thread: https://tattle.life/threads/does-anyone-hate-their-job-2.33098/

 

[House of Tea]

This! Of course, it depends on the job, e.g. if you're a doctor, I'd hope that they do the job 100% every time. But for stuff like my job, keeping track of a gazillion things while sitting on my bum all day, I've found that my sanity is lasting much longer if I don't try to do it perfectly every time. and that, honestly, there are no gold stars handed out if I do. 80% or 90% seems to be sufficient in many cases. It is not my preferred style of working, but I should do it more often or should have done this sooner for some projects.

Yes, it goes against the grain for me too. I am naturally all in, but this 80 -90 per cent has saved me a lot of time and stress. At first the fact that I wasn’t all in stressed me a bit, but it soon dissipated. Nobody but you really notices or realises.

 

[Red hair dont care]

i left my job of 8 years on 1st March to save my mental health.

my boss was making it incredibly hard for me, to the point I'd hurt myself over it all on more than one occasion. it was hard as i loved my colleagues, but it wasn't worth risking my life.

Well done and if you don't mind me asking have you got another job and if so how is it?
Sorry that you had it so bad, hope whatever you do or go it is better for you and doesn't cause you pain again.

 

[takhana]

Hate it at the moment. It's not the job I trained for (I did a MSc a few years ago to get into my field). For context I work in the NHS but I'm not a nurse/Dr.

I took a specialist role last March that was set up by a lady who was very experienced and had a very different attitude to life and work than me. I have a generic job title but I work under a specialist MDT team and so I am the only person with my job in the whole trust. I literally started a week before lockdown was declared - and because of the pandemic rather than having a nice 6 months easy induction to the specialism, I had 5 months of generic working on COVID wards, then a month of 'oh shit we'd best show you some specialist stuff' which was impacted by annual leave (mine and the team I'm under), then a few more months of COVID wards with the second wave and from then I've been on my own. My manager got a promotion at the start of the year, around March before she left went to her replacement "Oh, btw Takhana doesn't do the job properly" and they've been 'mentoring' me since then which is coming to an end in three weeks. If I haven't 'improved' by the end of this mentoring period they're talking about getting HR involved with a management plan. The plan for the mentoring period was that I'd go back to the team that I'm under professionally and I'd work alongside that team to build my skills - what's actually happened is I have slightly changed work hours, I go to their daily meetings which are utterly pointless for me as I don't see any of their caseload and then my supervisor gets annoyed that nothing's different in our (now every other day) 1 - 1 meetings. I came to the start of the mentoring period with an A4 bullet point list of things I wanted to see and do with that team and I've done precisely none of them because they won't let me in to see their caseload.

Things change at the drop of the hat with the whole hospital and systems, trying to get care at the moment for anyone is like trying to get Jeff Bezos to pay fair taxes, and I seem to be blamed for things that happen when I'm not even in work (I got back from a fortnights annual leave today and got told off for a situation that was fine when I left and went to pot when I wasn't in because no-one picked up my work despite me asking them to do so).

It's a shame because it is where I see my career going, but where I work now isn't a good place to develop a career and it isn't a good place to do my job. It's a stressful, emotionally fatiguing job and today I just felt totally and utterly defeated by it.

And my line manager has written in my appraisal for this year that I'm a bad communicator, I'm not a bad communicator, I communicate very well by all methods but people don't act on the things I ask them to do. For instance - again, without revealing too much about myself or my role, I asked someone to do a basic assessment on someone whilst I was away this time. I emailed them and confirmed the plan in the notes. Was it done? No, because they "didn't have time" which translates into "We knew Takhana would do it when she got back so we didn't bother". As a result that person has sat in a hospital bed for x days longer than they needed to. And it's my fault.

The other thing about my job is that other people in my profession let this career totally consume themselves. They aren't Becky, wife and mum to two kids who enjoys cycling at the weekend, they are Becky, (insert profession here) who happens to spend some time outside the hospital occasionally.

Oh, and if you don't kiss the arse of our director, then you don't get any opportunities or recognition for your work.

 

[Scar14]

Thanks for everyone’s advice - I aced the interview and soon as I got home she rung me to tell me how well I’d done and she wanted to offer me the job. She was really impressed with how well I’d researched the company and the answers I gave. It’s 4 min drive from my house and never any traffic en route, I’m going to be saving around £250 a month on petrol I’ll need to fill up maybe once a month if that! Handed my notice in via email as I’ve received the offer letter etc already, and I start on the 5th. I find my job really boring and the 3 hour travelling week / petrol prices was really getting me down so I’m SO happy!

Amazing! Congratulations!! Hope you’re spending the long weekend celebrating

 

[toetoetoe88]

Oh it definitely felt deliberate. There were 3 posts available and lots of people had been made redundant across the school trust. There are 2 schools in our area under this trust who had staff eligible to apply. I feel like they would rather the job went to someone who'd worked there for years rather than someone who'd been there 5 mins. The area I work in is quite niche and not for everyone, I know of at least one person who applied for the job but didn't really want it!

I think I will say something before I leave, I don't want to burn bridges but at the moment it's a bit raw and I don't trust myself to be polite about it!

I'm finding a lot of schools and academies are doing this - back in the temping days it happened a lot to me and other people. I'd always make a point of raising something before I left and I just made sure to be professionally polite (yet pissed off hah). Completely understandable that it's quite raw at the moment - have you had anything else through the grapevine come August workwise?

 

[Red hair dont care]

Just found this thread and boy do I need it today!! Iv been an administrator at a company for 2 years now and I’m the lowest paid team member however we’ve recently lost 2 members of the team and we’re down to 6 people and I am being made to do work way above my pay grade to cover!! Not only this but now 2 of our team are on annual leave for a couple of weeks so things are just getting worse I’m being scorned at over emails for not completing work that isn’t even my responsibly it’s just fell into my hands !

I end up starting early and finishing late every night and I don’t get paid for my over time !

I’m on very low wage and I’m 25 years old and I’m so miserable I just feel stuck in a job and industry that I honestly couldn’t give a fuck about but a girl needs money !!

Just needed to vent really but any advice welcome, I’m about to finish my lunch so will probably be crying in a few minutes

Vent away. You need to talk to your Manager and get it in writing the job description or what you now have to do. If it increases from old job detail then say so more work but no increase? Gotta be truthful and sy all this is unfair as you've not been consulted before now about more jobs being given to you. Also show the emails to Manager and sy unhappy with them. If this does not work then HR and chat to them and make a formal complaint if need be. Good luck and 1 positive for now its the weekend soon

 

[Katgotthekream]

I don't hate the job itself, but the environment is absolutely terrible. It's the wrong company to be spending a whole lockdown with. I was working in a very dynamic Big4 and never felt "lonely" once during the first 4 months of this lockdown. Absolutely disliked the job then, but the company was great. Great support to employees in all fairness.

Moved back into banking in July 2020 and although the role is a bit more interesting, this is the driest team I've ever operated in. The atmosphere is a complete flat line.

• Calls (whenever we have one once a week or so) are very formal, no icebreaker, nothing. No catch-ups or team "happy hour". The only happy hour we had was a cross-region Zoom call at 1pm with about 60 people on the call (talk about a team specific happy hour). I'm starting to miss the daily catch-ups we had in Big4 (though hated them at the time).
• Never been asked one time about how I'm coping with the lockdown and I've been there almost a year now. No 1-1s, so no one cares really.
• Never got a thank you for anything or a "good job". No feedback ever, everything is just very transactional.
• No work-life balance with people pestering you on Skype on a Sunday if they see you online and cumbersome processes that force you to remain logged in until 8pm to publish a report about a meeting that finished at 5pm. My working hours have been 9am to 8/9pm, rinse and repeat every day.
• The team itself is questionable. Between one who said they forgot to complete an analysis to support a project they offered to assist on, one who dropped me at the last minute when they realize they didn't know how to read a formula in Excel & incorrectly read the financial statements, thus leading to an escalation and this very person saying they don't have time to finish an analysis they committed to complete. Unprofessional to the core.

I'm tempted to seek an internal move, but I doubt it would be any better. I have friends who worked for this very same company and stayed 1 year max. Now I understand why.

Perhaps lead the change? Try to find a staff engagement forum and bring the issues that you are struggling with into light? Better still, make one. And get other people involved. Even if you then decide to leave, you are leaving a legacy

 

[Bellamerrell]

I feel like i spend so much of my spare time at the moment applying for jobs right now, and I'm getting nowhere. I currently work in admin and my other experience is in retail/hospitality so there is plenty of entry level/min wage type jobs available round here, but i'm having no success! I've been looking into various apprenticeships too but my worry there is, if i cant stand the workplace your stuck until you finish the qualification. Part of me wishes I could of stayed at Uni but financially a masters was not affordable after my undergrad

Can you get careers advice from your Uni, i know my Uni offered CV and job application advice for 3 years after graduation, there was also grants for graduates looking to go freelance, its worth looking into,

 

[Talensandtruths]

I’m really torn with my job. I was bought into the company as HR, as there was no HR function before. My manager has no HR knowledge and I think was just given me to manage as she doesn’t manage anyone else, but her role is completely different.

I have no team, just me, my manager is always in meetings or unavailable and it’s quite lonely having no one else. I want a team and I also want an actual manager to learn from and develop my skills by watching what they do, you know? Also, and this may sound great, for the last month or so I’ve had NO work. I’m just sitting here stagnating.

The reason I’m still here is, I don’t want it to look bad on my CV as I’ve only been here 7 months, the money is great, they offer a great bonus in September (trying to stay on for that) and there’s a tiny bit of me enjoying the fact I can roll out of bed at 9am, watch tele, do chores, get my lashes done, log off at 4pm and no one notices. I’m a bad HR person I know!

I hate it but also the money is nice. What do I do?!

What will make you happy ultimately? It doesn’t matter too much about only being in the job 7 months (further down the line in years to come doubt anyone will care to ask!). I’ve seen countless peoples CVs with below a year and I just think the job must not have been right for them.
If you want to stick it out til September for the ££ fair enough! But know that you won’t make any progress or be challenged until after then.
In the mean time, no harm in putting feelers out there, seeing what else is around, and possibly interviewing too!
I think you know the answer

 

[Lumpfish]

You don’t have to reply, but why do you hate it? Is it completely new to you?
I was in the same boat in august. I got made redundant in the first lockdown and took the first job I was offered.

Its just a new role for me with lots of expectations and it’s basically lone working when I’m used to a team, I just think now that I’m in the role it doesn’t quite fit for me. I feel like I’ve been dropped in the deep end and the people aren’t the friendliest so I feel on the outs already and like I’m working against a tide with everything all together.

 

[If you say so...]

So without giving too much away about what I do essentially I am in a specialist AHP role in a field of medicine, which any ‘generalist’ AHP would have to manage if their hospital didn’t actually have one of many (it’s an emerging field in my profession and many hospitals, including our partner site, doesn’t have a ‘me’ in any capacity). Before this role was introduced I was expected to manage these patients just the same as any of my other patients; I don’t expect them to do what I would do but I do expect to be able to say to a ward “you have Mr A on your ward, I’m not here tomorrow but can you please see him for this [standardised, well known to the profession] assessment which is what I need to make an informed decision about his needs”. They will be doing this with all of their other patients anyway. I’m not asking them to do the specialist bit, which is much more complex and ‘scary’ but rather the generalist part of my role to support me.


Fact is I’m not there 24/7 and am entitled to leave and time off just as much as my colleagues - they absolutely are busy (just as I am and every other member of staff is) but equally like I said I’m not asking them to do anything that would take longer than normal or would be out of their scope of practice. If I’m not there and people use that as an excuse to not do simple things because they’re “my patient” ultimately the patients suffer. A lot of my patients don’t have the time to wait in hospital however many days for me to come back from leave to do an assessment that would have got them whatever they needed a lot earlier.

My line manager actually works in an entirely separate team that doesn’t have this issue as they all pull together - the line managers of the teams I primarily work with (who won’t touch my patients if I’m not in) take the view of “it’s not our job to do that” when actually it’s all our jobs to do the best for our patients.

I think my mom had a similar issue before she retired from work - it sounds like you have similar roles.

You might not be asking them to do anything that "takes longer than normal" but you aren't there for guidance so perhaps it would, and another question I would pose is; would they be doing this task if you were there? or is it actually an additional task for them while you are off? If it is, then perhaps you could re-iterate the importance of doing the task.

I'd see this as an opportunity to show initiative and pull the teams together!

 

[jarv]

Update- I’ve already cried twice today

Do you feel able to speak to your manager? If you've been there a month they really should be arranging a one to one with you to check in. I'm sorry you feel so upset

 

[TheGlossy]

Really late to reply here but something along the lines of '...great news that the office is scheduled to reopen. I've found working remotely excellent and my productivity has been consistently good etc. etc. and so I'm content to remain working remotely for now' then sandwich it with some more positivity like you're excited to meet your colleagues/something like that when the time comes and society opens up.

Thank you!