Does anyone hate their job?

[Peakyblinders]

I’m now signed off sick. Hit crisis point last week and had a meltdown. As much as I like working from home I am fed up of being told “well you’re part time” my team don’t want to change how the admin side of the job works to reflect how we do work now, their system is chaotic - filing one document in four different places?! And no one is interested in letting me develop my skills set because I am part time. You are more likely to keep me if you do let me develop! Our line manager made comments about childcare over lockdown 1 on my appraisal and sends rude passive aggressive emails.

I have seen a job I’m going to apply for elsewhere.

this may sound stupid but how do you actually get signed off sick? Like is it easy or do doctors try not to. I’ve always thought if I went and told them the truth they would sign me off but I don’t know...

 

[Rxt156]

Not yet but it’s brewing I can tell new big boss and new department manager too…

 

[Matricks]

I used to work in an IT department for the TSB/Lloyds bank (as it was before they went their separate ways in 2013/4).

It was an okay job, but typically our department was bottom of the food chain in terms of importance as far as the suits from the bank was concerned. We were more a liability than asset because we always wanted more hardware, more licencing and more training, but for very little return (as far as those same suits and most other divisions of the bank were concerned)

If you've seen the comedy show IT Crowd, you'll know how despised IT geeks are by other employees. And yet when something went wrong we'd be under pressure to put things right - day or night - and for very little thanks.

When the bank split the IT department closed and 22 people, including myself, were made redundant. Can't say I was too bothered, not least because I found a similar IT support job soon after. But working for that bank was a bloody nightmare!

 

[square_spoon]

@JCMSadie can you talk to your own employer/manager about your options? I know some health issues are sensitive and you may not wish them to know the extent or nature of why you’re out, but if that’s not the case here then could you approach them? To have an honest conversation (either informally or formally) about what you can/can’t do at the moment and what you’re able to commit to for the future? The alternative is to stay off and focus on getting well and your employer will do whatever is required by their own policies and procedures. I’m not in the UK but I would imagine if you’re medically certified you can be off indefinitely? They might stop paying you if their policies allow it but you’d still be eligible for statutory sick pay.

 

[Dogtanian]

The company kept bragging about a company wide "break day" (using a different word, just in case) thus shutting down the entire bank on Friday to allow people to "disconnect". Yet, on Thursday afternoon we got an email from our manager asking whether someone could log in on Saturday (as in the Saturday right after the "break day") to test some system following an overnight production maintenance. The manager couldn't do it herself because she was meant to be away with her family and couldn't take her laptop.

I'm baffled at the hypocrisy. Bragging about this wellness initiative to grant a "break day" to the entire bank on the same day, yet have the audacity to ask someone to log in to work on the following Saturday morning to work. We don't work on weekends and don't get paid extra-hours. Thus, free work for them. This "break day" was all over my LinkedIn feed over the weekend & I had the great idea to undertake this task. What a joke. All of this is a marketing ploy.

This company's name wouldn't begin with a T and be a single word name would it?

 

[al255]

So I posted about how I hate my current job but I’ve got another job that I start on Monday. My daughter has got conjunctivitis atm and she’s not in nursery today.. I rung HR and explained this (and it’s why I’m not in). I owe them holidays, I’ve taken too many for the amount I’ve accrued so going into work on Friday would be pointless/i’d be working for free. I might just tell them it’s not got any better so I can’t leave her with anyone else 🫣 she said it won’t impact me not working my notice cos it’s emergency childcare issues.

Thoughts please? I hateeeeeee my job and I don’t wanna go in but I also feel a bit guilty I won’t say bye to the people I’ve worked with. I don’t wanna waste petrol going there either lol

 

[pandysbox]

Some employers pay full maternity/paternity benefits from day 1 of employment

 

[If you say so...]

I’ve just started a new job in January and I don’t really like it , the training is not up to scratch and I’m been trained on a different thing everyday which I find is a bit overwhelming.
Some of the people are alright but I have to watch myself around certain people . I am going to stick it out for another month or two then look for something else

could you speak with the person / people training you and let them know the current style of training isn't working for you? It might help, and if they accept your feedback and respond to it; it's a good start!

 

[TheGlossy]

I am sorry you are not getting the support you need from your employers. To be totally honest, it sounds like you are not going to get it. I think you need to concentrate your efforts in finding a new job rather than trying to look to them for help and sympathy. The thing is, the comment about all things going on comment, is she/he are right. You don’t know what is going on in other people’s lives, the last few years have been brutal in a lot of ways, and people’s capacity to empathise has been sorely tested. It has occurred to me that I no longer say much of a personal nature at work. If I have to off load I go online rather than expect colleagues to understand. It shouldn’t be like that, but it is.

No, I understand. I don't know what is going on in people's lives, I agree. However, they could have phrased it differently. It's about the delivery, not the actual content of what they said.

It was simply meant as a confidential conversation with this individual (who is not my manager or boss, just a work friend). I wasn't looking for them to provide me with anything really, but I wanted to discuss that I could not cope with extra workload. It was just a conversation between two colleagues. I didn't even address this with my manager.

As far as looking for a new job - it is an entirely different question and it is something I'm working on.

 

[Red hair dont care]

Maybe wrong for asking on here but it to do with work. Lateral flow tests can your work force you to take them?
Thanks

 

[House of Tea]

I don't hate my job, in fact, for the first time in years I've got a job that I'm quite happy in. Unfortunately I'm finding it quite a struggle to be there at the moment.

When I took the job (school setting) it was a temporary contract until August but pretty much assured that due to the success of the business and access to funding it would be extended beyond August for at least a year.

Six weeks in, I was handed my notice and told that my contract was ending in August as the role as it was would be changing (hours increasing) but they would like me to apply for the new role. I was told my manager would let me know when the advert went live. I asked my manager and she said "oh there's an email" but when I checked I couldn't find it. I assumed it would be live the following week.

A few days later, they held interviews for internal posts within the school. At this point I realised it was for the job I was doing. When I asked again I was told that the advert had gone out 2 weeks before I got my notice and the closing date 2 days before! The post was filled and I hadn't even had the chance to apply. The other applicants had all been made redundant by the school and the posts were only open to them.

My manager spoke to the head and assured me she was "on it" and would get back to me. I'm still waiting a month later. My manager hasn't acknowledged it any further and while we still get on and work well together, I sense she feels very awkward around me. I'm gutted, I'm trying to carry on as normal but it's hard knowing I have to leave through no choice of my own. I'm also shitting myself at the thought of starting over again so soon.

That’s shitty. It feels a bit deliberate. If they wanted you to apply they would have made sure you saw the advert etc and have time to apply.

You are leaving anyway, you have nothing to lose, I would raise again politely with manager and let her know how disappointed you are that you were not alerted to the ad, and that you are leaving a job you like. Never mind awkwardness, assert yourself a bit. You never know they might have another vacancy soon.

Is it possible that a bit of nepotism is going on, someone was earmarked for the job who was friends with or related to someone else there?

 

[Belulah]

it would be primary. It’s something that I have wanted to do since I was younger but stupidly changed my a levels to be with friends... I would shake that girl now and say don’t make stupid decisions!! Haha

Have a look at schools direct or the teaching partnership- might be able to do it now but could give you ideas for the future!
(I think we would all give our teenage selves a shake if we could!)

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

I’m in the first week of a new job and I absolutely hate it and know that it’s not right for me. I’ve seen another job advertised which I think m would be better suited for me but is it horrible to leave so early? I’m worried that if I don’t apply for the job being advertised I will miss my opportunity. I don’t know what to do.

You don’t have to reply, but why do you hate it? Is it completely new to you?
I was in the same boat in august. I got made redundant in the first lockdown and took the first job I was offered.

 

[Red hair dont care]

Thank you! I agree with all your points. Very true.

I checked his list which basically includes all of his work at this point. He doesn't have any more work than I do. We have about the same amount of work. It's simply he has poor time management and organizational skills as well as a proven lack of technical skills. He's using other people as his clutch.

He's full time and unless he wants to go part-time, I doubt anything is going to change. He's going to keep complaining because he comes across as inexperienced and a chronic complainer.

The issue is that the team lead is currently away on extended leave and he happens to be the team lead's favorite for some mysteriously baffling reason. The team lead's manager took over as our interim manager. This person is quite high up and incredibly busy. I'm guessing she knows about his tendencies as some people have reported issues surrounding him to her, but I suppose she's unwilling to deal with this as she has better concerns.

We recently got a salary increase, which is great, but if he got the same increase, I can safely assume he's never leaving or not anytime soon. I really appreciate the salary increase and it's definitely providing me more bargaining power with potential recruiters. I agree with you. I can't deal with him anymore and I'm seriously contemplating moving internally or externally once enough time has elapsed after the salary increase (6 months tops). If he's able to get away with so much BS, then it shows the management's lack of interest and overall weakness. People like him are unwilling to learn and are simply looking for short-cuts towards progression. Incredibly unfair, I wholeheartedly agree.

I know it's so unfair that you have to shoulder more work and nothing is done about him. It's got to be done and do not feel bad about it. It's actually unfair on you. If not your Manager do you have a Hr department? A chat with them maybe?
It's making me mad tbh as I said before I talked to my Manager and got nowhere she even said I do care nah you don't. But at least I tried. I will again too.

 

[House of Tea]

I’ve been off sick the past few days and I hate that I feel guilty about it. It’s the first time I’ve been unwell since around 2018 and it has floored me. I feel slightly better today, not 100% but I’m definitely on the mend and I just know my colleagues are gonna be pissed because I’m off for a third day. There’s only one of us in each of our roles when there should be 2 minimum due the demand of the department, so it means if someone is off sick the rest have to scramble and cover whilst doing their own jobs as well. NHS are giving all the excuses about how there’s ‘no money in the budget’ to hire anyone else so we just have to put up with it, but that’s a whole other story.

I never hold a grudge against anyone that’s off sick and I’m always the first to encourage people to use up their sick days (we get them for a reason!) but yet I feel guilty when I do it myself?? I need to get a grip. Haven’t had a sick day in 4 years, have survived a whole arse pandemic without even so much as a sniffle. I deserve to take a few days off to recover without having to worry about what shitshow I’m going back to.

I did see another job advertised within the NHS that I’m interested in. Not sure if it’s a ‘grass is greener’ moment though. It’s for a non emergency call handler, less hours than I do now but more money plus enhanced rates for weekend, late nights and public holidays. Seems like they offer and encourage development opportunities (my current department certainly do not..), I guess it could lead to becoming a 999 operator or dispatcher or maybe within the ambulance service. I’ll have to think about it a bit more. I definitely do want to leave my current post and have done for a while but I’ve never known what I want to do next.

If you are sick, you are sick. Just take the time to recover. But on the proviso you don’t think about work. If you are thinking about work you may as well go in, as long as you are not contagious. Use the time to think about your next work move.

 

[Codiaeum]

With regard to your workload issues. Could you be less conscientious or meticulous. I like to do thinks to an exemplar standard. It has caused me stress. An old CEO told me not to do everything perfectly, sometimes a that will do attitude is enough. I still try to make everything 100 percent perfect but more and more, when I can, I take a that will do approach. The work still gets done, just I have cut a few corners, out of necessity, in order to keep on top of things/keep stress manageable.

This! Of course, it depends on the job, e.g. if you're a doctor, I'd hope that they do the job 100% every time. But for stuff like my job, keeping track of a gazillion things while sitting on my bum all day, I've found that my sanity is lasting much longer if I don't try to do it perfectly every time. and that, honestly, there are no gold stars handed out if I do. 80% or 90% seems to be sufficient in many cases. It is not my preferred style of working, but I should do it more often or should have done this sooner for some projects.

 

[jaymie]

Wholeheartedly agree! I learned more in my first 6 months in Big4, then I have in this last year in my banking job. Industry jobs can be very "monotonous" and "routine"-like. You basically do the same thing day in and day out and only learn what is required to perform your job adequately, nothing more.

Additionally, the social aspect of Big4s is much better than in banking (at least pre-COVID). I'm quite introverted by nature, but I was positively surprised by the amount of socializing/network I did there, simply because the company culture encouraged it. In my current banking job, I could go weeks without Skyping/calling anyone if I wanted to because this team is quite anti-social. Again, Big4 also had some questionable employees, but I find people to be overall more pleasant to deal with. Sometimes I regret leaving the Big4.

My partner is a Senior Manager, he usually complaint about the 'graduates' in his team for being cocky and disinterested in the job, other than a few odd ones, he generally find them motivated and pleasant.

Do you think you will rejoin them one day?

 

[PinkMariner]

How did it go? The nerves doing it are awful but once it’s over and done with hopefully you’ll feel great!

I haven't done it yet!!! I keep bottling it! I think I will do it just before I leave then I don't have to deal with the tension!!!! x

 

[DuckDuck]

Does anyone else get an urge on a daily basis to just yell “I FUCKING QUIT” and leave their job and just live on benefits or something. Honestly I feel like my life would be so much less stressful! Every time I get some sarcastic email or someone asking why I haven’t done something that I blatantly have I want to scream. It’s not big things put it’s just the constant nit picking I can’t deal with.

I would love to but even with just my husbands wage we will get nothing in the way of benefits so I couldn’t afford too , we have a mortgage and a few large loans that we probably have about another 7 years left , we would literally be living a really shitty life with just his wage alone
I grew up with my one parent income support mother , life was grim , I was often hungry . Not saying our situation would that bad but I have 2 jobs and I really like the other one but it’s a cleaning job , in a pub , 2 hours a morning so I can’t just get more hours there , I’d be giving up my main paying one for another MW job that wouldn’t be flexible without it compromising my cleaning job

 

[If you say so...]

I don’t hate my job however, I do hate how I feel I am the only one who does everything. The work imbalance is actually a bit of a nightmare to a point where I’m edging towards burnout.

I've been in your position and also had people in the team i'm in now feeling like you. Can you elaborate on the work imbalance?