Does anyone hate their job?

[Tommyb]

We had someone in my work who just used to say I don’t want to be developed, I am perfectly happy doing the role I am in. I am now going to say that. She was a very educated person but liked a simple life. She and her husband hit 50 and both retired, I know him too. They lived simply and had an early finish in mind. They weren’t at all dull, they used to socialise and take trips a lot, but weren’t at all interested in work or things. It really was a means to an end. They had it all sorted in their head. Their real life was outside work.I think the lockdowns have changed a lot of peoples perceptions of work. Chasing money to buy stuff you don’t need. Can’t put a price on peace of mind. My bills are covered, I go on nice holidays, I am slightly worried about gas price rises. But duck worrying about work.

Exactly this. Lockdown for sure changed my mind. I earn a decent wage and don't have to worry about money. But I don't want to live to work and have it fill my head. I'm happy with a good wage and a decent work life balance. I dread to think how saying I don't want to be developed would go down at work. Why cant they realise not everyone wants to be a manager or sit on the bleeping board of directors. You have to have some people at certain levels.

A HR manager once said to me" your odd for a finance person, you are not motivated by money at all". I said "I am to a degree, it's just I wouldn't do the finance directors job for the money he's on. He spends mon-fri in a hotel and never sees his wife or kids. Whilst that may work for him it's not the life i want".

I'm never going to love work. It's a means to earn money and that's it. I wanted a decent paying job that I could stomach and hopefully early retire in.

 

[House of Tea]

Exactly this. Lockdown for sure changed my mind. I earn a decent wage and don't have to worry about money. But I don't want to live to work and have it fill my head. I'm happy with a good wage and a decent work life balance. I dread to think how saying I don't want to be developed would go down at work. Why cant they realise not everyone wants to be a manager or sit on the bleeping board of directors. You have to have some people at certain levels.

A HR manager once said to me" your odd for a finance person, you are not motivated by money at all". I said "I am to a degree, it's just I wouldn't do the finance directors job for the money he's on. He spends mon-fri in a hotel and never sees his wife or kids. Whilst that may work for him it's not the life i want".

I'm never going to love work. It's a means to earn money and that's it. I wanted a decent paying job that I could stomach and hopefully early retire in.

I think you should just say it. Say having time to think in lockdown allowed you time to think without distractions and it allowed you to decide what you didn’t want, which is more responsibility etc. Stress that you remain committed to the company but your focus has switched from progression to staying where you are because your personal life priorities have changed. You are committed to continual professional development, and will be your usual professional self at work but you have no interest in progressing up the career ladder at this point in time.

Now is a good time to make such a statement. The enforced hiatus did shift a lot of people’s feelings about work.

 

[Tommyb]

I think you should just say it. Say having time to think in lockdown allowed you time to think without distractions and it allowed you to decide what you didn’t want, which is more responsibility etc. Stress that you remain committed to the company but your focus has switched from progression to staying where you are because your personal life priorities have changed. You are committed to continual professional development, and will be your usual professional self at work but you have no interest in progressing up the career ladder at this point in time.

Now is a good time to make such a statement. The enforced hiatus did shift a lot of people’s feelings about work.

That is a really good way to put it. Thank you so much!

 

[TheScarletgirl]

Quiet quitter I did that in my old job when they stopped giving pay rises I didn't even bother to meet my targets and half the work when I left because they didn't pay me the right salary.

 

[Codiaeum]

Last two days, Friday I'll go in to hand in my stuff and maybe bring cake. It's quite surreal and a bit boring, as obviously no new stuff is coming to me, yet I'm expected to show up to meetings, etc and people still shooting questions.
I'm so looking forward to my three weeks off before my next job starts, I think my brain hasn't had a rest this long for several years. It'll be good to start with a fresh perspective and not basically quit the same day you're starting the next thing.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

My job at the moment is either duck all, have to go and help elsewhere or a massive panicky stress because other people are too incompetent to do things right so I have to fix things for them. I spent all of today fire fighting someone elses mistakes and smoothing things over with two different service user families only to have a phone call ten minutes before I left telling me that what I was originally told is happening is actually happening, when I'd spent a couple of hours before preparing them both for it not to happen as I was told it wasn't, making me look like an absolute fool.

I have an interview next week that I am praying I get. Only trouble is it's a training course/project that's going to start in March 2023 and I'll be going on mat leave in February 2023 (if everything carries on being well). It's a yearly intake so hoping that they'll offer it and be fine with me starting in 2024 once my mat leave finishes (or close enough). If not then... I dunno. If nothing changes I might just become a SAHM and give up my career. Certainly no joy and no decent reward for working in the NHS.

 

[Codiaeum]

I had my last day on Friday, my last coffee and cake with some colleagues and handed in all my stuff. I thought I'd feel sad, but it actually felt pretty good. Sad about colleagues, but other than that, I more felt like a sizeable chunk of brain size was mine again, no longer reserved for all the work things. No second thoughts yet, even though I'm a smidge bored at home, my new job isn't until September.

 

[JustmeKC]

I had my last day on Friday, my last coffee and cake with some colleagues and handed in all my stuff. I thought I'd feel sad, but it actually felt pretty good. Sad about colleagues, but other than that, I more felt like a sizeable chunk of brain size was mine again, no longer reserved for all the work things. No second thoughts yet, even though I'm a smidge bored at home, my new job isn't until September.

Enjoy the break & do all the things working full time stops you from doing. Be a tourist in your own city, catch up with friends/relatives who don’t work over coffee or day drinks, sort the corners of your home that have been bugging you for ages, enjoy not having to get up to an alarm. Enjoy the couple of weeks of freedom!

 

[jemma2223]

It’s my last day next Wednesday and I cannot wait. I keep going to myself ‘Oo it’s my last Thursday and Friday here’

 

[101d]

I have a job offer!! Better pay, hybrid role, bigger company. Trying to decide if I really want to leave my current job. Loyalty don't pay the bills!

I might ask if they can match the salary? Anyone got any experience of this??

 

[Codiaeum]

I have a job offer!! Better pay, hybrid role, bigger company. Trying to decide if I really want to leave my current job. Loyalty don't pay the bills!

I might ask if they can match the salary? Anyone got any experience of this??

No experience in asking to match, however maybe ask yourself what you were looking for that made you apply for another job. Is that something you are confident the new company would give you? What, apart from the smaller pay, would it mean for you to stay in your current job?

 

[Mamacita]

I have a job offer!! Better pay, hybrid role, bigger company. Trying to decide if I really want to leave my current job. Loyalty don't pay the bills!

I might ask if they can match the salary? Anyone got any experience of this??

Don't have personal experience but you don't ask, you don't get, so probably not harm in asking? I know people who have successfully done that in public sector which can often be harder to negotiate changes with

 

[Norfolking Good]

My sister did that after she accepted a role and got what she asked for, so unless it is public sector where there is no ability move grade or band then if you don’t ask… congratulations though!

 

[User_name_100]

Rant incoming haha!!

I'm four months into a job which is quite high level for my experience level. Was told at interview I'd be given comprehensive training & not to worry etc etc.

First couple months were OK but no real training, the odd session here and there with an experienced member of staff. I muddled through.

Two people left the department and then it all went to mit. Not enough staff for the workload given. I've been thrown into the deep end and have had barely any support or training. I've flagged it up various times and been told training is coming... (Haha ok then..!)


Missed a big deadline on something and now I'm in the mit. Feeling really teary right now. Desperately trying to juggle a million tasks here there and everywhere, my mental health has plummeted and I've been told I need to explain myself to the boss later. Feeling a bit shaken up. Worried of consequences.

I'm four months in yet feel I need to get out already. Turnover is high and I can see why, I really can.

Edited to add - pisses me off no end when companies bang on about training & giving employees the chance to succeed & then do absolutely nothing to train their employees. Decisions in my job have consequences & it's been bloody horrible trying not to do something wrong. I would not have taken the job if I knew this is what it'd be like.

 

[Codiaeum]

@User_name_100 I'm sorry that this happened to you, the situation sounds crappy. If you feel alright, maybe try to lay out to the boss that you have asked for training multiple times but it hasn't happened yet and that that plus a drastic increase in workload has caused you to miss the deadline?
I'm super nervous when these things happen and it doesn't help at all that I tend to get upset and start shaking, but if i go through what I want to say before it happens, it's a little better.

Maybe they recognize that they left you in an impossible situation. If not and they react really badly, maybe take a look and what that company offers. Four months isn't a lot, but if it doesn't work out, no harm to look somewhere else, not everything can work for you.

 

[Some People!]

I hate my job/ organisation on an intermittent basis and hate my hateable colleagues ceaselessly.

The organisation can be somewhat problematic sometimes, so I love hearing about (ex) colleagues who have really gone in at their exit interviews and seeing what, if any, changes the directors make as an outcome.

I'd love to hear some nice cathartic stories of exit interview drama!

 

[User_name_100]

@User_name_100 I'm sorry that this happened to you, the situation sounds crappy. If you feel alright, maybe try to lay out to the boss that you have asked for training multiple times but it hasn't happened yet and that that plus a drastic increase in workload has caused you to miss the deadline?
I'm super nervous when these things happen and it doesn't help at all that I tend to get upset and start shaking, but if i go through what I want to say before it happens, it's a little better.

Maybe they recognize that they left you in an impossible situation. If not and they react really badly, maybe take a look and what that company offers. Four months isn't a lot, but if it doesn't work out, no harm to look somewhere else, not everything can work for you.

Thank you!

Will see what happens but I am going to take some notes before the meeting.

I get upset too! I've recently started anti-depressants due to this job and the side effects are not helping right now.

Had a bit of a cry in the bathroom earlier.

 

[Raych23]

Thank you!

Will see what happens but I am going to take some notes before the meeting.

I get upset too! I've recently started anti-depressants due to this job and the side effects are not helping right now.

Had a bit of a cry in the bathroom earlier.

This happened to me earlier in the year, I handed my notice in and rang in sick throughout my notice as they had made me so mentally ill with the stress of it all! I am now in a role with lots of support and training! It doesn't have to be like this x

 

[House of Tea]

Rant incoming haha!!

I'm four months into a job which is quite high level for my experience level. Was told at interview I'd be given comprehensive training & not to worry etc etc.

First couple months were OK but no real training, the odd session here and there with an experienced member of staff. I muddled through.

Two people left the department and then it all went to mit. Not enough staff for the workload given. I've been thrown into the deep end and have had barely any support or training. I've flagged it up various times and been told training is coming... (Haha ok then..!)


Missed a big deadline on something and now I'm in the mit. Feeling really teary right now. Desperately trying to juggle a million tasks here there and everywhere, my mental health has plummeted and I've been told I need to explain myself to the boss later. Feeling a bit shaken up. Worried of consequences.

I'm four months in yet feel I need to get out already. Turnover is high and I can see why, I really can.

Edited to add - pisses me off no end when companies bang on about training & giving employees the chance to succeed & then do absolutely nothing to train their employees. Decisions in my job have consequences & it's been bloody horrible trying not to do something wrong. I would not have taken the job if I knew this is what it'd be like.

You can evidence that you asked for the training you were promised many times. That lack of training, your newness as an employee, the increased workload. Don’t go in teary, go in with head held high and say that the way you have been treated as a new employee has been disgraceful and whilst you regret the missed deadline the circumstances were extraordinary and not something you could avoid given the circumstances which were not of your making. Tell them they are not getting the best of you, and that your mental health has taken a real dip since joining their enterprise. Then try and get out asap.

 

[Talensandtruths]

No job should ever make you ill! If it’s impacting your mental well-being please look for other roles/get out as it likely won’t improve, no matter how you try to rationalise it.

Also don’t blame yourself - we don’t blame plants for not blooming we look at the environment & people around it, not the flower itself!