Same to you, we play the hand we‘re dealtThis sounds similar to my situation. I also have another 2 children who it’s taken it’s toll on also. Hugs to you xx
Same to you, we play the hand we‘re dealtThis sounds similar to my situation. I also have another 2 children who it’s taken it’s toll on also. Hugs to you xx
very true. I often wonder why some people are dealt better hands than others?Same to you, we play the hand we‘re dealt
Your parents sound like they offer the kind of help I getI enjoyed the baby/young child age but I wouldn’t do it again either. When I was pregnant grandparents were full of talk of babysitting but they were only words, my daughter must have been five before she spent a night away from me and they weren’t overly keen to do it.
Look after yourself first, you must do this for you and your health. Then you can look after everyone else. Hoping for better times ahead for youI have children, one of whom has a long term condition which has changed our lives forever and unfortunately also comes with some challenging behaviour. ‘Child’ is now a young adult and we are exhausted by it. My mental health is fragile and my marriage (to child’s father) has been through hell and high water, I don’t know how we are still standing. It is relentless. I love my children but honestly, if I had my time again, I don’t think I’d be a mother. It has taken every last piece of my soul.
I don’t know why some people are seemingly dealt fairer hands than others. It’s tit and I’m sorry.very true. I often wonder why some people are dealt better hands than others?
It’s my own doing but I’ve hardly any friends anymore as I can’t cope with seeing everybody else’s “perfect lives” and even if there not perfect there a lot better than mine. It’s hard to be bitter but I try my best
I’ve had the best of both worlds.
I fell pregnant at 18, gave birth at 19 and I am about to turn 30. My daughter is off to secondary school in September and my life feels easy, she’s always been a dream child. I got to concentrate on her during my 20s and as she’s got older I’ve been able to think about myself and my own life more. My 30s will be spent catching up on all the things I put to one side.
Thank you, sorry all I absolutely didn’t intend for me-rail this thread. I think the ‘look after yourself first’ is well meaning but often easier said than done in reality.Look after yourself first, you must do this for you and your health. Then you can look after everyone else. Hoping for better times ahead for you
I wish there was a [hug] reaction on here sometimes xI always wanted children and love them so much but because I have suffered with anxiety, depression, anger, ptsd I sometimes wonder if I shouldn't have had them in case I have passed down my problems to them
If it helps to know I grew up in a household with a variety of things happening. I turned out fine, despite this. You love them. That is the most important thing .I always wanted children and love them so much but because I have suffered with anxiety, depression, anger, ptsd I sometimes wonder if I shouldn't have had them in case I have passed down my problems to them
I’m hoping this is how I’ll feel once mine are older and I have some freedom back I’ll be 43 when my youngest is 18 so maybe I’ll get my life back then! My eldest is almost 4 and already I enjoy the freedom it gives me, even just the little things she’s able to do like go to toilet on her own and feed herself etc! Honestly, I MUCH prefer this stage to the baby stage.Never regretted having my two, my first when I was only 19! I did however feel some resentment towards friends who were living there young lives to the max. However now the roles have reversed my two at University, drive, have jobs etc. So it’s as though I’m starting again free with no responsibilities haha! Also my cousin who I never imagined having kids she travelled all over the world had her first baby’s at 44! So I think there’s still plenty time at 30 to see if your friend gets broody.
They had her overnight last month while my best friend was visiting (I hadn’t seen them in almost 2 years) and they were still asking me if she was defined staying at 10pm and looking for me at 8am the next day.Your parents sound like they offer the kind of help I get