Thank you!! Sadly not very sensible annd making it very hard and bitter my solicitor says it will have to go to court his offers are too low for a round table and hes ‘forgotten’ two bank accounts
just want him out the house so I can be free. 
Sorry to hear that. It's just so crap isn't it.Thank you!! Sadly not very sensible annd making it very hard and bitter my solicitor says it will have to go to court his offers are too low for a round table and hes ‘forgotten’ two bank accounts
I wish I could click my fingers and it be done
I hope you get some better luck soon
My ex keeps making comments about changing my name too but I’ve made it clear I won’t chnage as it’s the name my kids have and he can’t make me but he did another comment today, weird isn’t it! To actually call you by your maiden name is a different level though!
I genuinely don't know how you're still living with him. You clearly have more tolerance than me lol. I asked my ex to move out after initially saying he could stay until he found somewhere else, because it became so obvious was going to make life unbearable and would twist any reality of the situation into him some how being the victim.My ex keeps making comments about changing my name too but I’ve made it clear I won’t chnage as it’s the name my kids have and he can’t make me but he did another comment today, weird isn’t it! To actually call you by your maiden name is a different level though!
mine likes having control over me still and part of me knows that’s why he does all this so he doesn’t have to leave yet. I’ve had slammed doors and comments tonight because I’m going out tomorrow night, planned for months it’s just with a friend but he just doesn’t like not knowing things so he acts a non for a few days before he finds out what I did.
I have everything crossed for you
He won’t leave, point blank refuses too. He kicked off after the form e’s were switched shouting at me then suddenly he switched started filming me and rocking on the bed saying I’m abusing him I need to leave. Then stopped filming and laughed at me and walked out the house. I still don’t really understand what happened, speechless.
I changed my own name as soon as I decided I'd had enough of his tit and betrayals then took MY NAME back again, I changed my passport and everything. Actually if I could have changed the kid's names I would have because they did not deserve to be saddled with his but obviously I couldn't, however the relief of knowing I had MY NAME back was the start of getting over it all, a step forwards to beginning again with the children& actually these days so many children have different surnames to their Mothers it doesn't mean a thing. Take your name back Jojoo and tell the creep to stick His poxy name where the sun don't shine - liberation will be yours!!!My ex keeps making comments about changing my name too but I’ve made it clear I won’t chnage as it’s the name my kids have and he can’t make me but he did another comment today, weird isn’t it! To actually call you by your maiden name is a different level though!
mine likes having control over me still and part of me knows that’s why he does all this so he doesn’t have to leave yet. I’ve had slammed doors and comments tonight because I’m going out tomorrow night, planned for months it’s just with a friend but he just doesn’t like not knowing things so he acts a non for a few days before he finds out what I did.
I have everything crossed for you
That's awful (and very similar to my experience sadly). I'm a bit worried for you because once people start doing that it can escalate.
I'm not changing my name back either as it's my children's name and I want to have the same name as them. All my documents are in my marriage name and that's what I've been referred to by for the past 18 years. Tbh I don't particularly like my maiden name either as people always misspelled it. My marriage name is a very common one here in Ireland so everyone knows how to spell it thankfully.
Hope you got the result you wanted!
Yes thank you, it was actually quite amicable in the end and we shook hands (my ex and I) and he thanked me for what I said in court in his defence (judge was a bit tricky re some financial aspects). No more court dates now thankfully and officially divorced.
Could be that he just doesn't listen to his solicitor's sound advice. My ex was on his 3rd solicitor by the time we divorced. Make of that what you will. Hope you get sorted and manage to extricate yourself soon.
It may well be that. He dispatched of our mediator very quickly too. I just can't do this for much longer. How do I escape someone like this? It makes me so cross that I allowed this to happen. Nobody liked him. Everyone had said they wondered why I married him.
Hey we've all been blind to red flags. Happens to everyone. Don't beat yourself up. Better to split up late than never. Wishing you the very best and hope the process is completed as soon as is possible.
He's taking the piss!!! This is just another way to keep tabs on you plus making sure he knows exactly what you are spending money on - absolutely do not allow this to happen!
With the appalling way he'd behaved throughout our 7 year marriage and our two kids there could have been no other result, however he was vain enough to think that he'd get what he wanted simply "Because". WRONG!
