I came here thanks to Digital Spy - in fact it was to have a nosey to see what the true story about Philip Schofield's coming out was, as I felt it was very insincere and something was "off" - I get that PS is a control freak, but I suspect that runs much deeper.
I'm a member from years ago, but can't even remember the last time I logged in or posted. But even from that quick browse, I got the feeling DS was now very strictly moderated (must be to do with being owned by Hearst?). Someone on that thread mentioned Tattle for the real lowdown, (I saw it probably before it got deleted) and here I am.
HUKD (which I DO post on) also attracts the same criticisms in recent years - stricter moderation (I don't always agree with it, but generally it's not bad - though I don't like petty editing of just-submitted posts - gives mods something to do, I suppose). It does attract random trolls but sometimes people surprise you with a supportive PM or just stick up for you out the blue.
My mindset on HUKD is just to share deals and info, I'm not interested in being bitchy.
I tried to chat on Misc a few times, but found it really nasty. A few of the worst have been banned but I always though deeky was alright - what happened there?
Of course, being a long-term member anywhere means you eventually trip over eejits. I commented on a shoe thread and someone (male, I assume) sent an unsolicited PM. I'd said something flippant about a pair of shoes for Xmas Day, that I wasn't sure of the sizing.
I don't PM to "chat" - it's not my style and I'm not super-sociable in real life anyway - so I just humoured the person to be friendly. Mistake.
The PMs were jokey at first (he commented on me being blonde and wearing heels, when I replied mine comes out a bottle)...nothing flirty whatsoever. Then it turned into "make sure you send me some photos of you at Xmas"...er...no? I told him off and asked him to be more careful how he messaged female members in future. A week or two later I see him posting on a thread about his family life and his girlfriend.
Another that attracted an unsolicited PM was on a bra thread - I said I'd been putting on weight lately and had no idea what size I was these days. Btw, there were, for once, actually some women chatting on that thread.
Unfortunately, HUKD threads about women's underwear seem to attract schoolboys who think it's cool to post zoomed in body parts of the underwear models - and tend to be generally 99% male comments. As a woman reading, it looks, at best, immature, at worst, creepy and unwelcoming. Of course they see it as "banter". Threads about mens' boxer shorts or similar have very few, or no, comments from women.
Suppose this happens when you have a female username on the internet - but I (mostly) love posting on there, that's why I've stayed.
And I LOVE Tattle, some of the comments on here cheer me right up, and it's great you can actually swear, like an adult!