I have an ex friend called J and we are both 25. They've been quite rude to me over the years , saying things like I should help them to raise a child as I'm more likely to be single, they didn't like me in a relationship. They were also doing things like asking to go for coffee and they would want me to pay.
I didn't really like speaking to them as it was always low effort messages with them and difficult to keep a conversation. Things were always slightly better in person and we could chat, but I'd feel a bit bad after the meet up.
I've not spoken to them since October at my university graduation where they had their nose up in the air speaking about going to Edinburgh university, and were very rude. They also said that they were the smart one in their family as their mum and sister had mental health issues , and I felt rather offended by that as I did have to take time off university for mental health and her sister has autism as well, and I found it offensive.
I've tried to ignore them before but they had a cancer scare a few years back and I felt that it was wrong to have a grudge against someone with potential cancer. So I tried to stay on good terms but not reaching out until last October.
They've tried to message me a lot in the last few weeks and I've ignored them and blocked them. I've blocked them off everything but I've got a message from them on their cats instr again, asking me if I've got their messages. I'm not sure if I should respond and get over this grudge as I don't want to be rude, or continue to ignore. I'm worried that if I ignored the message, it's like they've got another cancer scare or something. Not sure what to do.