I've gone to do that so many times!
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I refuse to accept friend requests from people who treated me like dirt in school, they can go to hell, I end up blocking them.I’ve just read this thread and deleted Facebook and Instagram apps from my phoneI’m always comparing my life to others and it’s damaging I think. If I was born 50 years ago I wouldn’t have a clue what my classmates were up to and I wouldn’t care.
I’ve got people on there from school, who I didn’t even speak to and wouldn’t give me the time of day, and I’m updated with their life and children?! Why???!!!
Apps like instagram and TikTok have been designed to be additive. The Silicon Valley set send their kids to Waldorf schools which aren’t fans of technology. I would worry about younger generations being brought up with phones from birth.The worse thing is I love reading, but my attention span is terrible now. Being online a lot just ruins your concentration. It’s all swipe here and click on this so when you read a book or a magazine it is hard to keep focus on one thing. I used to read lots of books but it has reduced so much. It was a resolution of mine to get back into it, it is relaxing and escapism. It is crazy how much focus has switched to sitting mindlessly online. Or you read about lazy husbands who spend their time in a chair on a games console not engaged with family life, only interested in gaming. Same thing I guess.
This relates to teenagers but I think it applies to a lot of adults too.
Bill Gates and Steve Jobs raised their kids with limited tech — and it should have been a red flag about our own smartphone use
The attitudes of Silicon Valley's power players to how their kids interact with tech suggest smartphone use should've been regulated a decade ago.www.businessinsider.com
Well Done on trying to cut back.
Reviving this thread - I’ve recently done this but found myself re-downloading and I feel tit again. Why is it so hard 
I deactivated one at a time. So deactivated annd deleted Facebook app off my phone and then carried on looking at insta/Twitter etc. That way you aren’t completely cut off cold turkey if you know what I mean! Then after a month of two, delete Instagram and do the same.
Honestly, you feel so much better when you come off social media. You stop comparing yourself to other people and feeling crappy about yourself, when you see people physically you have so much more to talk about as they don’t just read about your life online. Persevere, it’s definitely worth it!
Honestly, you feel so much better when you come off social media. You stop comparing yourself to other people and feeling crappy about yourself, when you see people physically you have so much more to talk about as they don’t just read about your life online. Persevere, it’s definitely worth it!
I stopped posting as much and slowly just stopped using it, deleted instagram first, then Facebook 8 months ago and don’t miss it at all.
I've not quite taken the final step but I made a big move the other day. I unfollowed all the local groups for my area that I was a member of and the relief!!! They are so toxic, so full of absolutely horrible people who want to just make everyone feel bad in one way or another. I wish I'd quit them sooner, it was so daft I'd hang in there but dread seeing the posts come up in my feed. FOMO is too powerful but I don't think I'm going to miss them now that I've left.
I’ve started taking business calls on a very basic phone, aside from instagram and Facebook for my professional page. I’ve removed myself from the scrolling for the sake of it. I feel so much better for it.
So at the start of this year I deleted my twitter, Instagram, Facebook and felt so much better for it, I had a very old Instagram that I kept and my first Facebook account in my maiden name with no friends on that I kept to use local sites etc. However I felt myself getting addicted to these too, so I downloaded old photos from the Facebook that I don't have elsewhere and scrapped both about a fortnight ago- Im actually doing really well! I'm happy to be 'unplugged', it feels like I'm living for me and I feel like it benefits me as someone with ADHD/OCD not to know the thoughts and lives of a million people I don't know, or know but don't particularly have a relationship with. It was very, very overwhelming and I think it's majorly contributed to my poor mental health and low self esteem.
Such a good point about overwhelm.
Also I used to know what I liked, but that has been diluted by Instagram. I seem to spend a lot of time scrolling for clothes I see on Instagram that are “in” rather than what I actually like. I guess that is why influencers have become a thing. They push stuff your way and we are like sheep lapping it up. I have culled a lot of the people I follow. I am addicted to golden retriever posts though!
I've not really used Facebook in years so that was quite an easy one to deactivate and uninstall. I still have messenger as a couple of people on there are only form of contact.
WhatsApp is essential for contact, but I only have family and close friends on there and definitely no group chats.
Youtube I have as I love watching it, but its just me on there and I don't engage in comments etc
Instagram I deactivated for about 5 months or so during a bad time in life. But I did find myself still goggling some accounts so I'm back there now. But mine is private and I only follow a hundred or so accounts. Mainly use it for inspiration and keeping up with a few people. As a visual person instagram is the hardest to get rid of. But I'm definitely engaging with it less as it's become more like tiktok.
WhatsApp is essential for contact, but I only have family and close friends on there and definitely no group chats.
Youtube I have as I love watching it, but its just me on there and I don't engage in comments etc
Instagram I deactivated for about 5 months or so during a bad time in life. But I did find myself still goggling some accounts so I'm back there now. But mine is private and I only follow a hundred or so accounts. Mainly use it for inspiration and keeping up with a few people. As a visual person instagram is the hardest to get rid of. But I'm definitely engaging with it less as it's become more like tiktok.
I honestly do think, despite the good that can come from it, social media is one of the worst things to happen for humanity. I just don't believe we are meant to live like that, in each other's heads all the time. I do wish it had never been invented.
I fully agree, I got into social media when I got my first MySpace at 15, and then I've lived for 17 years deep in the trenches of social media addiction, as have so many people of this generation, and it's even worse for the newer generation who are practically given a smartphone as soon as they're born. It's been devastating in so many ways.
I don't know, I think social media has opened up so many things and knowledge to me, and people. I'm not sure my life would be better without it.
I appreciate that side of things too, for me at this juncture in my life, the cons vastly outweigh the pros.
It hurts me to know there are now generations of kids who have grown up with the tech since birth and will never understand how it really is at least a little bit of a ducked up way to live, to always have a phone in your hand and to always be plugged in to millions of people. I want to scream when parents give their toddlers phones and ipads to play with. Just no!
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Yeah, as I said there are good things about it. I just think for so many the bad has not been worth the good. I am glad you've been able to benefit more than not, I know it's a genuinely important lifeline for some.
I think for me it helped growing up without it so I remember life before it. And there is also levels of self control and self awareness that not everyone has to ensure their life doesn't become overcome by it.
Also, we are all still on here which is still basically social media
Also, we are all still on here which is still basically social media
I was in my mid twenties before it really took off so I'm very grateful for that. I knew not to let stuff like "likes" and "following" and all of that bother me in the slightest. It's always been the toxic posts of others that has driven me away. The biggest failing about SM is it is too large to be moderated even a little bit effectively. If not for that it wouldn't be quite so terrible.I think for me it helped growing up without it so I remember life before it. And there is also levels of self control and self awareness that not everyone has to ensure their life doesn't become overcome by it.
Also, we are all still on here which is still basically social media