Last time I used online dating was in 2015 and I swore I would never have an account again.
In the last 3 months, I downloaded & deleted Tinder, Hinge & OkCupid (I'm still traumatized from OkCupid to be honest). Each time without fail, I deleted my account after a few hours as it simply reminds me of the reasons why I don't want to engage in online dating. Quite frankly, it seems as though Ireland's unattractive men have all been gathered and dumped into these apps. Besides, I find a couple of points to be extremely disheartening:
- In the past, I created accounts with pictures of me fully dolled up (make-up/hair etc...). I would get tons of hits. Then, when I decided to set up my accounts with natural pictures (with a mix of dolled up ones), barely got any hits. I'm not that unattractive - I get hit on by decent looking guys even without make up on (in real life, under normal circumstances).
- The whole matching, but not talking. How difficult is it for a guy to send a message?
- Finally, guys who try to initiate a conversation but write two words answers, not my cup of tea.
To be honest, my standards are even higher now. It is an effort for me to sit down and swipe and write to some guy I may see in weeks/months due to the restrictions, so it better be a decent individual. In any case, I've now deleted all the apps as I seriously think these apps make me lose hope in finding someone and I don't want to lose hope (though I'm turning 31 this year and have been single since 26).
I guess I can continue fantasizing on my crush until Prince Charming appears at my door (I feel like a teenager writing this).
what was your reaction when you met him and were the same height?
He was a nice guy so I just put it down to an insecurity, but then it became apparent as to how needy he was, and I didn’t want another child, I wanted a partner!
just seem to have been single my whole life lol
by lunch time lol.
