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HitchhikingGhost

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As you said, I'm glad I got this text early on and we only had one date so I'm not too down. But I feel like my dating history is Groundhog Day.
Here's to hope once we are allowed back out. I am sure nice men will also be going out of their caves 🥂
Also hoping for this too 🤞
 
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Cocoflowers

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I was talking to someone non stop on badoo and exchanged numbers i know alot about his background as i recognised him straight away and now he just vanished messed with my head definitely wont be hearing from him i don't think! I'm actually gutted 😢

Just quoting myself ive only just realised but he whats app me this morning!
 

Motherofboys

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I hope it goes well for you! All that build up, I'd be so nervous, but you must know each other well by now. It's not the same but I've found all my friends I made online, they were even better in person!
I am so, so nervous about it! I didn’t think I would be tbh
 

Millyve

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I’ve been keen talking to a guy recently and he really wants to meet up soon, but he doesn’t seem to take covid seriously, I know several people close to me who have had it and also vulnerable people I am quite close to so being very strict, only shopping once per week & going to work and exercising alone, I really don’t want to be cold and off but his lack of awareness of covid is frustrating 🤷🏼‍♀️
 

Suzesnooze

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Has anyone done a lockdown 'Skype/Zoom Date'?

I read about it in the paper, a couple who did it every week and ended up properly together, and it really intrigued me as a way to build a relationship with someone when you aren't easily able to go out and see them!
I read that article but it was more like an advert for their travel Instagram page! But yes, they would send each other food hampers and then sit and eat the contents while on a zoom date! I don't see how it's any different to just chatting on zoom while having a drink.
 

Roo89

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Hi

I don't live in London but am just outside. The quality of men in my local area is awful so I set my radius to London and am usually dating London men. There is much more choice and variety of men in London. I have friends in smaller towns who find it hard to date due to the lack of quality men on the apps. However, whilst there is way more choice, the downside is that it is much more fickle and I think way more time wasters on there.

Going on dates in London is so fun as well. So many places to go and different things to do. Much of 2019 for me was exploring London via dating! It was so much fun.

I would say go for it but not for the men. If you enjoy city life then London is great. It's easy to make friends too especially if you join sports clubs, gyms and other hobby style groups. I guess it can get lonely and also at the moment the atmosphere is not great due to covid.
I could go for a year and see how I get on, I have a dog and I wouldn’t be able to take her with me as I don’t work from home and would be out most of the day,so my parents would need to look after her.

I could have my own place for a year by using some saving along side a salary but after that I would need to go into a house share, never lived with anyone but my ex so I’m not sure how I would get on, can imagine it’s very different being in a house share in your 30’s to your 20’s.

The only way I could have a apartment long term is if I Meet someone to split the costs with. Guess if you don’t do it you’ll never know, my parents keep telling me it’s a waste of money so guess I just need to have a good think about everything, just feel with Covid my life is on hold, can’t exactly date living with my parents and then keep telling myself why would you start dating when you don’t like living in this area 🙈

Heyy, I agree with yankydoo, I live just outside of London but have set my distance to within 15 miles as the men in my area are not great and most seem to come up as living in London, so you’ll have a lot more choice. The only thing i feel about london guys is that they probably date a lot and i don’t know how genuine they are. But that’s just my opinion
Can imagine it’s fun at first but then after a few years it would become frustrating especially if you want to settle down. I live in the midlands and plenty of lads like to waste your time, guess there’s just less men available round here 😂
 

yankydoo

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I think phone calls usually give you an idea if you’ll click in person or not (even if it’s a platonic click you’ll still feel it). Nowt wrong with saying you just didn’t feel a connection in terms of personalities etc.
Thanks! I'll do that.
 

Woolmercardington

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I have a question what are good questions for the first few dates. Casual, getting to know you questions? Any questions off limit for you?
As an ice breaker, I used to like to ask about their OD experiences. Anything weird or funny, etc. As it's something you both share common ground on.

I'd avoid 'stock' questions, though. I remember getting on like a house on fire with a first date, the conversation was flowing naturally and he then interrupted with some standard, stock question - can't remember what it was, but remember I couldn't think of an answer off the top of my head. Said I'd have to think about it, but then it just kind of killed the conversation a bit, think he felt a bit daft, and it was harder to get back on track.
 
On bumble I have my distance set to around 20 miles radius. If I put the radius to the whole of the country, it says 50+ people have liked me. Long distance relationships are not unusual for me, but I doubt any of these men want to follow up anything. They’re just time wasters.
 

leapricot

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I think even if he is still interested he's definitely playing games which is disappointing and never a good sign !

"If he likes you, you'll know about it. If he doesn't, you'll be confused" is always good logic to apply
(great profile picture 😂)
And great quote that I should follow...

I should add, before he kissed me, whilst we were still walking he said I could meet him on Tuesday (yesterday) in the park with his friends.
But then on Monday he said he was going to his mum's for a few days in the end. Don't know if it's BS or not but I started being a bit wary there.
 

princess279

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Ha! Yes that’s called men wanting to have their cake and eat it too. It’s rubbish but they’re honestly like kids in a playground on dating apps so keep well away til you can be sure they’re super into you. My bf had a few other dates on the go when we met but then we both deleted the app together and I never had to worry about his situation going forward.


My ex said this (although they never divorced, they just always acted like nothing happened) and that he was messed up from it so would never cheat. Still happily shagged someone else after a year though 🙃
Ha ha, maybe I'll just go with the flow but this has definitely put my guard up and it's only been 2 dates. Men eh....
 

Woolmercardington

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What happened with this guy? The one who you watched a video of? 😂
Oh god, I just left it 🤪 I thought, what could I possibly say to him? So I just didn't continue the conversation. He hasn't picked it back up either.

Tbh, we'd spoken twice previously and he'd been the one, on both occasions, who let the conversation fizzle. He then contacted me a third time, which I ignored him. So, this was a Fourth time. Obviously we were both influenced by lockdown boredem.
 

Jac40

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I think the fact he’s been messaging you since June and you still haven’t met in person shows that he seems interested. I would at least want to meet up with him in person and discuss your concerns before writing him off.
Thank you, it’s just so hard when you get that gut feeling, just I find with me it’s usually right. 😬
 
I am sure I have been on at least two dates with married men. One told me he had a work mobile and then a personal one. I was given his work number first then he added me on WhatsApp on his personal number. He dumped me after two dates and I could tell he blocked me on both numbers. I later found him on Instagram and he had photos with his daughter who he failed to mention.

The second guy - we arranged the date on Hinge. It was such a nice date too and ended up being quite expensive. He paid for it! It was after the date we exchanged numbers. I sent him a WhatsApp (he had no photo or name) and he replied. I then sent him something else and he had blocked me.

I'm so cautious now although who truly knows.. anyone can hide anything.

I'm inclined to agree your guy is dodgy!
Was that days later or on the same day?! 😧
 

Woolmercardington

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🤯🤯 I matched with a guy this afternoon and told myself I’d wait a few hours before messaging me. Give him chance to unmatch me if he changes his mind like what has happened before.
I went on the app now, a good 5 hours after we matched thinking he might actually be interested and I was going to send him a message and he has either deleted the match or deleted his account!!!!


Time for me to delete the apps. 😒
Was that on Bumble?