Thank you! It is so good to feel understood, it really helps me to validate my feelings.I think it definitely can work, but personally I felt the problem was that I wasn’t the priority, the ex was. That was never going to change, hence why it felt like it was somehow illicit.
I really don’t think it’s fair to not be able to make plans in advance (like the next BH for you.) It’s so important to know when you’re going to see eachother and able to spend time, especially if you have to arrange childcare.
I know I’m not giving advice as such, but I’m sat with you through this! I remember it well.
Did you discuss this with the men you were dating in those situations, or did you simply leave?