and the total lack of self awareness and accountability.One thing men are consistent with is the AUDACITY![]()
and the total lack of self awareness and accountability.One thing men are consistent with is the AUDACITY![]()
Im so angry for you. Men are bleeping disgusting.Just been asked if they can spit in my mouth.
bleeping creatures
Are you ok xJust been asked if they can spit in my mouth.
bleeping creatures
I don't think they ever were? Even 10 years ago Tinder was for hookups more than anything else. A few got lucky, yes, my sibling is one of them, but the grand total of it all is commodification of relationships / sex / interpersonal stuff so they can make cash off our need to feel connected. First, break interpersonal relationships and communities, by making everyone too busy, by closing down "third places", forcing people to consume more and more to simply exist, thus marginalising those of us with less money (which, let's be honest, is pretty much all of us), making it harder and harder to simply meet anyone (how many people do you know who are desperate for friends but don't know how to meet people?), and then the coup de grâce, forcing us on apps where we pay for the privilege of "meeting" people. But only on the terms of the algorithm. I'm so bleeping sick of it.The apps need to go back to promoting healthy relationships rather than all ending up being for hook ups
I don't think they ever were? Even 10 years ago Tinder was for hookups more than anything else. A few got lucky, yes, my sibling is one of them, but the grand total of it all is commodification of relationships / sex / interpersonal stuff so they can make cash off our need to feel connected. First, break interpersonal relationships and communities, by making everyone too busy, by closing down "third places", forcing people to consume more and more to simply exist, thus marginalising those of us with less money (which, let's be honest, is pretty much all of us), making it harder and harder to simply meet anyone (how many people do you know who are desperate for friends but don't know how to meet people?), and then the coup de grâce, forcing us on apps where we pay for the privilege of "meeting" people. But only on the terms of the algorithm. I'm so bleeping sick of it.
I feel this, given up really on the apps and embracing the peace of my own company minus the pain of rejection…but I would love other single women my age to go on adventures with! I’ve got plenty of friends but none are in the same place as meI don't think they ever were? Even 10 years ago Tinder was for hookups more than anything else. A few got lucky, yes, my sibling is one of them, but the grand total of it all is commodification of relationships / sex / interpersonal stuff so they can make cash off our need to feel connected. First, break interpersonal relationships and communities, by making everyone too busy, by closing down "third places", forcing people to consume more and more to simply exist, thus marginalising those of us with less money (which, let's be honest, is pretty much all of us), making it harder and harder to simply meet anyone (how many people do you know who are desperate for friends but don't know how to meet people?), and then the coup de grâce, forcing us on apps where we pay for the privilege of "meeting" people. But only on the terms of the algorithm. I'm so bleeping sick of it.
What's the age gap?And it goes both ways. I was talking to a guy in a bar the other evening, who was much younger (early 20s) and said he struggles as all the girls he matches with are only after sex.
That said, later on in the conversation, he did ask me out. I took his number as a friend (he was genuinely lovely) but I actually can’t stop thinking about him
He’s very posh, very educated, very rich, very handsome, very mature. Just very very young![]()
Old enough to be my son. And it wouldn’t have been a teenage pregnancyWhat's the age gap?
Do you mean your ex would be incredibly controlling around times and days?I can see why that would annoy you, like I’d be pleased that his children come first as a priority however it would really start to duck me enough that their mother doesn’t see that the children also need to be a priority and need that routine.
My would be incredibly controlling around times and days. It was so frustrating because I just wanted that in advance so that I can plan their days out socials etc. I think the older I get the more I really dislike people.
Yes, it gives the impression to be more of an affair than a girlfriend, given that the ex-partner still calls the shots in a way. They make the decisions and set up the framework and I fill in the gaps.I did yeah, every single week I got all sorts of excuses! Tattle is slow to update my edits today! Oh no I can see you don’t, it’s just the other side of things having that third person dictating if you like.
Mo advice but I have dated a couple of guys in a similar situation, and it really wore me down. I would make time but I felt it was controlled by his ex and like someone mentioned, almost affair like.I think that both men and women can see the apps as a kind of meat market, although men are much louder in their disrespect of boundaries and their blatant focus on their sexual interests.
But I have also met women who meet men that they are not genuinely interested in, not for sex, but for a free meal or to be invited to an event and they then compare the status and earning power of the men they have met.
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I have to say, dating and looking after small and young children is not easy and not always fun. Meetings are dictated by the child-care schedule and spontaneity goes out of the window.
I am slightly more flexible than he is though, he is very accommodating towards his ex and is very patient to hear back from her. He still doesn't know if he is free on the next bank holiday and I am kind of getting tired of it.
Only seeing each other every other weekend, and then being tired, not being able to plan holidays or meet up during the week on a whim sucks.
Somehow I miss the excitement of my youth, being able to do whatever you want and knowing that anything could happen.
Thank you!Mo advice but I have dated a couple of guys in a similar situation, and it really wore me down. I would make time but I felt it was controlled by his ex and like someone mentioned, almost affair like.
Because of that, I wouldn’t want to date someone with young children. It’s just too much of a juggle.
I think it definitely can work, but personally I felt the problem was that I wasn’t the priority, the ex was. That was never going to change, hence why it felt like it was somehow illicit.Thank you!
It was actually me who said that it almost felt like being the affair rather than the girlfriend. Quite strange, I dated someone with a small child (pre-school) before but he had more of a fixed schedule and a less demanding career.
I am also in the same boat with having to organize care and having a demanding career etc, but I am more flexible and overall have more time available. I could go out in the evenings during the week, not every day, but often enough.