Aunty hat on again. What can we learn from this experience? Before, when he said he couldn’t feel the spark, he was trying to train you. He was trying to manipulate you into pleasing him. When he came over last night, and sat with his arms folded, it was because he was hoping you would try to please him. He was hoping you would initiate sex. Can you see that? He is trying to TRAIN you. So when you don’t bend easily, he goes back to being cold. Because he knows you need the validation, and will try to get in his good books again. This is now a pattern of behaviour. Patterns lead to insights. He will do this again and again with you, if you allow it. If you accept it. Don’t accept it. This behaviour is his BEST behaviour. It’s going to get worse. Because this man is abusive. He hasn’t even bothered to love bomb you, he has just decided to forge straight ahead with devaluing you. Girl, you are worth so much more than this. Also, is this a second date? Why have you let this dangerous man in your home so quickly? Work on being an empowered woman first. If you have low self esteem, you should not be dating as you will only attract men who will harm you. I know it’s hard and you want to be loved, but this is not it. Block him.