thisCan you, because you've continued to respond to his contact e.g. by answering his calls, which is the opposite of ignoring him. You might not remember what you spoke about and so feel like it means less - but from his perspective, he continued to treat you terribly and you continued to answer when he calls.
Blocking is a form of assertiveness - that's you asserting your own boundaries. You don't need to speak to someone to confront them, you can confront them with your own self-respect when you deny them access to you e.g. by blocking them and never speaking to them ever again.
freeze, i don’t think you can ignore this man. you’ve shown that you’ve struggled with that before (you struggled with it when he called you yesterday) and you’ve said previously that he can lash out and be mean if he feels things aren’t going his way. it worries me that you’re leaving a line of contact open with a man who has been so dismissive of you, and how you dodge or talk around the direct issue (or reply to people who are saying what you’re hoping to hear). like we said last time, i think you’re hoping one day he’s going to change. he’s not. block him.
actually i’m just gonna say what i said to you last month:
“the way you describe his behaviour towards you, the way he speaks about other women and your anticipation of him kicking off if you stand up for yourself is deeply deeply worrying. i feel like you cannot see this because you obviously have such strong feelings about him. only you can truly want to block him. but i personally deeply feel that you should. i’m probably going to get called out for being judgemental again but i’ll take it on this one. block him.”
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