Hi folks. Thought I'd join this thread, having a hard time! Recently separated from my husband as I found out a while back he had a secret life seeing prostitutes for years including during my 2 rounds of ivf, pregnancy and beyond, up till I caught him out. Eventually gave things another go for the sake of our child but obviously it was far too much to forgive. Been checked out mentally for a long time and a couple of weeks ago started online dating again.
Met a guy who just ticked my boxes on all levels, so much in common, v intelligent, took me out on a wonderful first date which was everything I could've hoped for. But I had a busy day one day and didn't message as much and he immediately accused me of getting weird and pulling away. Got me quite riled as there's nothing more triggering for me than a guy who makes assumptions about my thoughts and I said he was being too intense and I needed a bit of space. So that was the end of that he basically said, bye, nice knowing you and now won't speak to me.
Logically I know I'm best off without him and it wouldn't have worked if he was going to be so uncompromising but I'm
bleeping wrecked over it and so annoyed at myself, I can't stop thinking about him and that I've missed my chance at something really good.
So I'm back online with a vengeance and have got all the apps going. But no-one
bleeping measures up to him. I'm so sad and raging at myself for being like this after knowing a guy for 10 days, I'm too smart for this!
So many guys with profiles just saying they don't know what to write and just ask anything you want to know. Why would I be curious when you are giving nothing! Also these sites want you to pay for everything now its so
tit!
Sorry for the long first post but can't tell anyone I know or they'll hhink I've lost the plot.
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Need some words of strength. Not dated anyone since 2015. Started chatting to a lovely guy end of May. Tried really hard to meet but we live in different areas. Spoke daily. Then Thursday- ghosted. Just before I'm meant to go meet him this week.
He's sent a few really short tempered replies but I've refrained from bombarding him so just given up really. No idea what i did wrong. Just so fed up that after all these years I get excited then it's for nothing. Why bother?
Oh no! I absolutely feel your pain, it's horrible when you let yourself get butterflies and it all comes to nothing. I am not the person to give advice but if he can't communicate properly it was a road to nowhere . Still
tit though, sending hugs x