It's a tricky one but if things are as good as you say, it's surely ok to say Hi?
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Tonight seems appropriate
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Tonight seems appropriate
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I agree, perhaps message him this evening? No harm in that at all
Thanks both! I think it’s because I’m bored
I’m going to head into town and get some jobs done and I’ll message tonight.Even if I messaged now, I wouldn’t want a reply - I want him to spend time with his kids, not think about me! I’d even say that to him, so it’s a pointless exercise.
Just genuinely curious how people deal with these situations!
One of my exes had a daughter who he saw on a Wednesday and Friday. I would generally leave him to it but message in the evening once I knew she had gone to bed as that felt most appropriate. However it's maybe worth a discussion with him as to what you both expect while he's with his kids? My approach is to play things cool and leave my man be when he's out with friends or with family, but I've been accused of not caring by being silent when all im doing is giving space. I guess it's a balancing act but if the lines of communication are good and you're meeting expectations then it's all good xxThanks both! I think it’s because I’m bored
Even if I messaged now, I wouldn’t want a reply - I want him to spend time with his kids, not think about me! I’d even say that to him, so it’s a pointless exercise.
Just genuinely curious how people deal with these situations!
I think that’s a really healthy conversation to have. I suppose it’s different as I’m a single mum to my daughter, so I’m always in that headspace (although different as his children are much younger.)
Thank you, I’ll mention it when I see him next week. I have to remember he’s also got the ability to message me, so the fact he’s been quiet has set the bar.
I think I’d rather give him space and work from the outwards in, rather than insert myself and have to back off in the future.
Thanks again
ps. @Clementine and @Thank(space)you I hope you’ve got a nice day planned
Nah text him that's fineThe guy I met a few weeks ago and I message every day. He’s consistent but not constant which is what I like. We’ve got plans for next week and there’s no anxiety around any of it (which is a first!)
This weekend he’s with his child who he’s not seen for 6 weeks (split parenting and she’s been away.) I know he has arranged a jam packed weekend so I haven’t expected to chat, but I haven’t heard anything. I feel calm with it, but I want to say hi and I hope he’s having a great time without inserting myself into their weekend together.
Should I leave it? My gut says to but I also don’t want him to know I’m thinking of him.
If I were him I’d like a message this evening to see how the weekend went, but otherwise be left alone.
Why am I overthinking this so much?
Thank you again everyone, I spoke to a male friend about it yesterday and his advice was to say a wee mantra about it everytime I start to think about him: “he messed up, it’s his loss”. This friend is a trainee clinical psychologist so maybe there’s something in that 
I can’t lie though, I’m still in absolute shock and feel like the wind has been taken out of me. Had been on such a high since I’d known him to now be feeling such utter despondence. Feel so humiliated and naive by thinking he was different.
I can’t lie though, I’m still in absolute shock and feel like the wind has been taken out of me. Had been on such a high since I’d known him to now be feeling such utter despondence. Feel so humiliated and naive by thinking he was different.
Please try and take the guilt and shame away from this situation - those should be attached to him, not you.Thank you again everyone, I spoke to a male friend about it yesterday and his advice was to say a wee mantra about it everytime I start to think about him: “he messed up, it’s his loss”. This friend is a trainee clinical psychologist so maybe there’s something in that
I can’t lie though, I’m still in absolute shock and feel like the wind has been taken out of me. Had been on such a high since I’d known him to now be feeling such utter despondence. Feel so humiliated and naive by thinking he was different.
He’s an utter scum bag and obviously hates women for him to mess with someone like that. He’s obvsiouly a very damaged and sick person, and thank goodness he’s no longer in your life.
You have done NOTHING wrong, but became vulnerable and put trust into someone as they allowed it. He was a predator. End of.
This loser was 5”6 wasn’t he? Add that to your mantra..Thank you again everyone, I spoke to a male friend about it yesterday and his advice was to say a wee mantra about it everytime I start to think about him: “he messed up, it’s his loss”. This friend is a trainee clinical psychologist so maybe there’s something in that
I can’t lie though, I’m still in absolute shock and feel like the wind has been taken out of me. Had been on such a high since I’d known him to now be feeling such utter despondence. Feel so humiliated and naive by thinking he was different.
“He messed up, it’s his loss, he’s 5”6”
can’t get over the audacity of him
It's definitely on him to be feeling crappy not youThank you again everyone, I spoke to a male friend about it yesterday and his advice was to say a wee mantra about it everytime I start to think about him: “he messed up, it’s his loss”. This friend is a trainee clinical psychologist so maybe there’s something in that
I can’t lie though, I’m still in absolute shock and feel like the wind has been taken out of me. Had been on such a high since I’d known him to now be feeling such utter despondence. Feel so humiliated and naive by thinking he was different.
Ok I didn’t know this! He’s a Smurf. You’ve dodged a Smurf.
there is no audacity like the audacity of a short man.
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also, shall i make a new thread? (i’m worried about this one being locked
)any title suggestions? ngl, i’m still feeling I’M GOOD BEING PURE DRY mainly because it will make me laugh.
Pleeeease add in about the yhact!there is no audacity like the audacity of a short man.
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also, shall i make a new thread? (i’m worried about this one being locked
any title suggestions? ngl, i’m still feeling I’M GOOD BEING PURE DRY mainly because it will make me laugh.
I was hoping La Blonde would come along for new thread. Thanks 
i managed it!
new thread is here:
Dating after lockdown #32 IM GOOD BEING PURE DRY (on a big jeep yatch)
title was brought to us by @BoogleC and i’m sure we are all forever grateful for this absolute poetry: may we all hope and aim for cracking guy fun on a super fit big jeep yatch. HOME AND BIG HEART. sending love to @Clementine and @Thank(space)you - whose men are not invited to the yatch. in...
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