Omg
OmgI have had ‘tiny dancer’ in my head since yesterday because of your username
Serious question for the OP.
Say you were single and on a first date, would you ask for their salary upfront? Because 99% of men would run a mile if you did.
Or how long would you be committed to dating until you found out his salary? Say it was a year down the line and you were in love, what would you do?
I don’t actually, while yes my husband is the highest earner, I do work from home as it’s flexible work , as we have a childYou can tell that you live off someone else’s money as your grammar is atrocious!
For what it’s worth, the next village to us is Millionaire’s Row. There’s serious, serious money there. The kind of money that you probably still aspire to. I’m talking very very high end cars and multiples of them, not the Chelsea Tractor you drive that are ten a penny. There’s housing a little bit further out that’s also into the millions. Until recently there was a current England Rugby international living round here.
There’s a fair amount of money here but there’s also a lot of tradespeople. And I know from my line of work that tradespeople can make one heck of a lot of money (although some more than others) No doubt you would look down on them but blimey, I tell you what, sometimes I think I’m in the wrong job here.
It’s not just all about being ambitious with ‘careers and businesses’ desperate people will pay more for an emergency plumber, electrician or roofer than they will for some emergency business support or marketing.
And so what if none of your old friends earn more than 30k? At least they have the self respect of earning their own money and not living off someone else.
Totally agree you can live in a nice area and then be right next to a shit hole down the road especially in London … where I live Slough is actually quite close , and probably the biggest shit hole area in Bucks (Milton Keynes too not but that’s a lot further )Wow.
So keeping up with the Jones for you? Bucks isn't any fancier than pockets of elsewhere fwiw. Where I live one side of the street is Housing Association properties and the other is £1m+ houses. Same in London. I grew up in a 'ghetto' as many called it, but down the back roads, you had sought after £m+ houses owned by the rich. Location means fuck all.
A lot of people, working people, are receiving benefit top ups to survive the cost of living. Its really not an alien concept that they 'may even be on benefits'.
"May even be on benefits/council housing"in fact I don’t think hardly anyone I went to school with earns more than 30k some I think may even be on benefits / council housing.
Doing something you love its great but ultimately I still think you need to think of finances and for you future , are you happy to work until your practically dead (no one will be able live off the state pension that’s even if there will be one in future or unless your going to inherit enough ) , also you need atleast a million budget to live somewhere half decent that’s close enough to London ( for a 4 bed family home in a nice area) , depends what you want in life but nice house, nice car , holidays and private school fees ( all fairly normal and fair goals people aspire to have ) all add up financially and just being in a job that makes you happy , with no real long term earning potential won’t get you that !"May even be on benefits/council housing"
I've a question for the OP; if the person you were in a relationship with was just a "poor" peasant earning below minimum wage and they, I dunno, won the lottery or came into a large amount of inheritence, would that change how much you loved them? And likewise, if they earned a large salary and then lost their job, would you stay with them?
For me, as for lots of posters on this thread, it's about ambition, drive and enjoying your job. I earn not very much but love my job. My OH earns a big salary and is very driven and also loves his job - winwin - but if he developed a passion for something that earned him a lower wage and wanted a career change I would support that 100%. As I think most people with half a brain and heart would.
Would rather be skint and happy than have money and be uptight and looking down on peopleDoing something you love it great but ultimately I still think you need to think of finances and for you future , are you happy to work until your practically dead (no one will be able live off the state pension that’s even if there will be one in future or unless your going to inherit enough ) , also you need atleast a million budget to live somewhere half decent that’s close enough to London ( for a 4 bed family home in a nice area) , depends what you want in life but nice house, nice car , holidays and private school fees ( all fairly normal and fair goals people aspire to have ) all add up financially and just being in a job that makes you happy , with no real long term earning potential won’t get you that !
Its not a normal ambition to send your children to a private school.Doing something you love its great but ultimately I still think you need to think of finances and for you future , are you happy to work until your practically dead (no one will be able live off the state pension that’s even if there will be one in future or unless your going to inherit enough ) , also you need atleast a million budget to live somewhere half decent that’s close enough to London ( for a 4 bed family home in a nice area) , depends what you want in life but nice house, nice car , holidays and private school fees ( all fairly normal and fair goals people aspire to have ) all add up financially and just being in a job that makes you happy , with no real long term earning potential won’t get you that !
Wow this thread took a bit of a turn
My first car was a gold clio that was a complete money pit. I worked in Tesco part time & call centres. Literally scraping by! I lost my house as I couldn't afford rent and was sleeping on my dads sofa. I earned minimum wage, probably less. I still had drive, I wasn't lazy, but I was going through a really dark period in my life. This was late teens to early twenties.
Long story short, 34 now, I'm in a managerial position within the travel industry, my partner is in a senior role within telecommunications and we both earn a really good wage that means we can live comfortably. We have a nice house, drive a BMW IX3, no kids and love to travel - we recently flew business class to Thailand but later in the year we will go to Benidorm for a week, I love a mooch round Primark and I drink pints not krug! How unclassy of me. This isn't me boasting by the way! Far from it but I feel this thread has taken such a turn. We work hard and enjoy our jobs so win win but if my partner turned round and wanted to leave his job to do something different or a pay cut in something less stressful, I'd support him because I love him. I know he has the drive and ambition no matter what it is he does and your health is more important than anything.
I genuinely can't believe anyone would look down on someone for going to Magaluf, drive a focus or shop in primark!
I'm rambling now and probably not making any sense but I just think in this day and age nobody should look down on someone for where they are in life, for the car they drive, the holidays they go on or the shops they shop in. It doesn't mean they haven't got drive.
It’s not even about having to wear primark for a lot of us, I just choose to wear primark! I can afford to, I just actually don’t want to waste money on fancy clothes!Think we posted around the same time and with the same sentiment. I just don’t get it either. As for having anxiety over having to wear primark ffs
I've never met anyone with or without kids who's goal it was in life to send their kids to a private school.Doing something you love its great but ultimately I still think you need to think of finances and for you future , are you happy to work until your practically dead (no one will be able live off the state pension that’s even if there will be one in future or unless your going to inherit enough ) , also you need atleast a million budget to live somewhere half decent that’s close enough to London ( for a 4 bed family home in a nice area) , depends what you want in life but nice house, nice car , holidays and private school fees ( all fairly normal and fair goals people aspire to have ) all add up financially and just being in a job that makes you happy , with no real long term earning potential won’t get you that !
Me too! You can be wealthy and not snobby.It’s not even about having to wear primark for a lot of us, I just choose to wear primark! I can afford to, I just actually don’t want to waste money on fancy clothes!
I buy second hand from eBay so at least you’re buying brand newIt’s not even about having to wear primark for a lot of us, I just choose to wear primark! I can afford to, I just actually don’t want to waste money on fancy clothes!
Nothing wrong with second hand if it’s quality stuff, primark is fine for lounge wear etc just not something I’d personally want to be in all the time though and if going somewhere nice , I love designer bags though and some do actually go upI buy second hand from eBay so at least you’re buying brand new
I was lucky enough to go to a private secondary school. I passed an entrance exam and because of our low income, I got a bursary towards the fees. My dad earned minimum wage as a delivery driver and my mum was a SAHM. They scrimped and saved to ensure I could go to that school, and we didn't have a single holiday while I was there. I have two younger sisters, one failed the entrance exam and one didn't even want to try. They both went to local schools and still went onto university.depends what you want in life but nice house, nice car , holidays and private school fees ( all fairly normal and fair goals people aspire to have ) all add up financially and just being in a job that makes you happy , with no real long term earning potential won’t get you that !
Would die if they saw in my wardrobe, majority of it is from Shein! even worse than primark, more dangerous, just keep adding things to the basket then they give you all the discount codesThink we posted around the same time and with the same sentiment. I just don’t get it either. As for having anxiety over having to wear primark ffs
I have a black wool type dress I got from Primark before Christmas for about £8 and absolutely love it. Wear it to death, actually went back and got it in brown tooIt’s not even about having to wear primark for a lot of us, I just choose to wear primark! I can afford to, I just actually don’t want to waste money on fancy clothes!
You didn't answer my questions.Doing something you love its great but ultimately I still think you need to think of finances and for you future , are you happy to work until your practically dead (no one will be able live off the state pension that’s even if there will be one in future or unless your going to inherit enough ) , also you need atleast a million budget to live somewhere half decent that’s close enough to London ( for a 4 bed family home in a nice area) , depends what you want in life but nice house, nice car , holidays and private school fees ( all fairly normal and fair goals people aspire to have ) all add up financially and just being in a job that makes you happy , with no real long term earning potential won’t get you that !
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