Yes people use it but she abuses it. Respite is for people that need a break because of the constant caring. She doesn't constantly care for him. He's barely ever with her. Everytime she goes on holidays he is put into respite sometimes weeks at a time. She goes on holidays several times a year. I wasn't shaming how she 'raises' him because she doesn't, Paul and respite does.I'm sorry but I personally don't think you can judge someone on how they are rearing their disabled son. That is going too far. People should not be shamed for using respite care. It is there for a reason and the way the system is run it can't he abused