I had children with someone like him, and it was fine when there was only 1 baby - because I could do the childcare myself and I didn’t really notice the issue . But as soon as the second came along I noticed how shit and self centred he was and the constant drinking, whilst trying to juggle 2 young children by myself. I think she’ll be in for a shock if she is pregnant again. 1 child is easy, 2 children is a whole different experience, especially 2 children very close in age