I mean....they're so similar though?My aunt always asks what I wanted for Christmas. The one time I really did tell her which was a MAC Ruby Woo lipstick I got a blue poncho instead.
I remember being so disappointed .
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My husband used to be a much bigger people pleaser than he is now so used to fake smile at terrible gifts from his parents even though they always said they kept the receipts for everything. His mum bought him a dreadful coat one year - I knew he'd never wear it. He asked what I thought of it in front of everyone Christmas morning - I am not a people pleaser. So I told him the truth. He nodded agreement. This was fairly early in our relationship - pretty sure its when MIL started hating me.
I used to smile and say oh thanks thats great even when I wanted to cry at the awful stuff ex's mum bought me. Then I read that if you are saying that the person might actually think you like it and continue to buy you crap. So after that I would open the crap and say thank you for the present, nothing more. She just stared at me waiting for me to rave about it or say something else.
Its quite liberating, Im not rude I just no longer pretend that something crap is the best thing ever.
My sister has taken to making her own soaps and every year she gives them to me and I throw them straight in the bin when I get home.
She lives in the Uk and posts this crap over, sister in law actually likes the soaps so last year I handed them over and said they make me itch so I dont want them.
I am polite enought to wait until we have finished the zoom call before I ditch her gifts
Its quite liberating, Im not rude I just no longer pretend that something crap is the best thing ever.
My sister has taken to making her own soaps and every year she gives them to me and I throw them straight in the bin when I get home.
She lives in the Uk and posts this crap over, sister in law actually likes the soaps so last year I handed them over and said they make me itch so I dont want them.
I am polite enought to wait until we have finished the zoom call before I ditch her gifts
Lol my brother is like this depending how he feels about you on birthday/Christmas he will turn up with a card with money in it or nothing at allI have allergies and know this feeling well, someone always ends up buying chocolates and toiletries that I can't use. At least with my siblings (all mid 20s to 30s now) we just get each other vouchers as 1) we know it's easier and we can get what we want and 2)it suits my brothers to buy gift cards because they are disorganised and hate the whole wrapping process. Each of us ends up happy then we get to choose. We'll probably eventually knock swapping vouchers on the head soon too and spend the money on ourselves.
I feel terrible this year but my well paid 30 odd year old brother with 4 kids asked me “are we doing gifts this year?” Considering if I say yea then I buy him something double the budget on asos and he gets me a Nivea set half the budget from
Tesco I said no. I’m a year older with no kids and have never had an auntie card from
His kids but usually spend hundreds on them so this year I’ve spent nothing on any of his family. They have a card. And I don’t even feel bad. Plus I am SE WFH and have had them every holiday this year and already spent hundreds on them with not a single thanks
. So over being treat like a mug.
Your stories are great! I've genuinely got this weird thing where I hate receiving gifts and opening them in front of people. I try to avoid it where possible. I think it's because I might hate it (usually the case) & have to be really fake in my response. Or genuinely like it but my response sound really fake! 
I've genuinely got this weird thing where I hate receiving gifts and opening them in front of people. I try to avoid it where possible. I think it's because I might hate it (usually the case) & have to be really fake in my response. Or genuinely like it but my response sound really fake! Opening gifts in front of people definitely falls under that "Things that shouldn't be embarrassing but are for some reason"Your stories are great!
Especially the ones with glitter. Good luck trying to clear that up for the next year!
I open them and put them straight in the bin, not in a nasty way I just don’t want them all over my windowsills
You should tell people not to bother sending them to you and then they save money (on card and postage) and you don’t get things that you have to dispose of.
I am not bothered either way, seem pretty pointless to me but one arrived from my cousin yesterday. Their kid designed it at school (he won the competition) and it is so weird I seriously contemplated getting rid straight away. I still might, it is an eyesore. I know he is only about 5 but still.
I know I would but most of them are from older family members who I feel would be offended!
That's quite cute actually. I used to send cards to a handful of friends, but don't bother myself anymore. Myself and Mr Fox send a handful of cards now to older friends and family.
Oh it was quite sweet I just thought it was hilarious, because she was ranting for ages about how she can't be bothered with spending money on cards, spending time writing them etc. and then that
Oh I like receiving christmas cards Ive got a card holder that hangs on the door so I put them all on there and it saves space.
I am not British and think it's a really lovely tradition, but I'm astonished it survived the digital era.
Nobody is sending cards anymore or even actual letters.
Once my grandma bought my mum this hideous mini clock ornament thing that looks like something you’d store ashes in.. we call it the funeral urn
None of my family have asked me for ideas this year which worries me… My SIL is the worst for buying tat
None of my family have asked me for ideas this year which worries me… My SIL is the worst for buying tat
People send A LOT less now than they used to in my experience. I remember my mums whole living room used to be covered in them when I was a child, all across surfaces and tables, stuck down the back of the door. They were everywhere.
Exactly, my parents had them on all surfaces then also handing from strings and they’d curl up if near radiators and fall of the string
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