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Brewtime87

Brewtime87

Hiya Chinmates, how are we all?
Sorry in advance for such a depressing post, but I'm having a really awful time lately and needed a safe private space to talk.
My partners father is at the end of his life after a shock cardiac arrest last month. He hadn't been unwell prior, so it came totally out of the blue. We really thought he was going to wake up after a few days, but here we are four weeks later having been told he suffered severe brain damage from the cardiac arrest and isn't going to recover or wake up. They are slowly removing the machines and are going to let his body come to a natural end.
We are only in our 30s so just never expected to go through anything like this at this point of our lives. My partners Dad is one of the kindest, most selfless people you could meet, the sort of guy who would do anything for anyone.
I am trying to be strong for my partner but I have cried every single day for the past few weeks and I feel like I'm absolutely no use.
I know in the coming days it's going to get a thousand times worse and I am absolutely dreading it, I don't know how to help navigate him and myself through grief, I am one of life's 'fixers', but this is something that I just can't fix and my heart is breaking about it all.
If anyone can offer any advice on how best to support my partner, I'd love to hear it because right now I'm feeling totally out of my depth 😢
 
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Aemee00

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Brewtime87 said:
Hiya Chinmates, how are we all?
Sorry in advance for such a depressing post, but I'm having a really awful time lately and needed a safe private space to talk.
My partners father is at the end of his life after a shock cardiac arrest last month. He hadn't been unwell prior, so it came totally out of the blue. We really thought he was going to wake up after a few days, but here we are four weeks later having been told he suffered severe brain damage from the cardiac arrest and isn't going to recover or wake up. They are slowly removing the machines and are going to let his body come to a natural end.
We are only in our 30s so just never expected to go through anything like this at this point of our lives. My partners Dad is one of the kindest, most selfless people you could meet, the sort of guy who would do anything for anyone.
I am trying to be strong for my partner but I have cried every single day for the past few weeks and I feel like I'm absolutely no use.
I know in the coming days it's going to get a thousand times worse and I am absolutely dreading it, I don't know how to help navigate him and myself through grief, I am one of life's 'fixers', but this is something that I just can't fix and my heart is breaking about it all.
If anyone can offer any advice on how best to support my partner, I'd love to hear it because right now I'm feeling totally out of my depth 😢
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I'm so so sorry to hear that 😢 what a horrible thing you're all going through. I know there's nothing we can say to make it say easier, but if you need to talk this will always be a safe space ❤ really hope you're all okay these next few weeks ❤
 
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My partners father is at the end of his life after a shock cardiac arrest last month. He hadn't been unwell prior, so it came totally out of the blue. We really thought he was going to wake up after a few days, but here we are four weeks later having been told he suffered severe brain damage from the cardiac arrest and isn't going to recover or wake up. They are slowly removing the machines and are going to let his body come to a natural end.




























































































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I know in the coming days it's going to get a thousand times worse and I am absolutely dreading it, I don't know how to help navigate him and myself through grief, I am one of life's 'fixers', but this is something that I just can't fix and my heart is breaking about it all.















































































































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Brewtime87 said:
Hiya Chinmates, how are we all?
Sorry in advance for such a depressing post, but I'm having a really awful time lately and needed a safe private space to talk.
My partners father is at the end of his life after a shock cardiac arrest last month. He hadn't been unwell prior, so it came totally out of the blue. We really thought he was going to wake up after a few days, but here we are four weeks later having been told he suffered severe brain damage from the cardiac arrest and isn't going to recover or wake up. They are slowly removing the machines and are going to let his body come to a natural end.
We are only in our 30s so just never expected to go through anything like this at this point of our lives. My partners Dad is one of the kindest, most selfless people you could meet, the sort of guy who would do anything for anyone.
I am trying to be strong for my partner but I have cried every single day for the past few weeks and I feel like I'm absolutely no use.
I know in the coming days it's going to get a thousand times worse and I am absolutely dreading it, I don't know how to help navigate him and myself through grief, I am one of life's 'fixers', but this is something that I just can't fix and my heart is breaking about it all.
If anyone can offer any advice on how best to support my partner, I'd love to hear it because right now I'm feeling totally out of my depth 😢
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Ah pet that is shite! Not much really to do but be there to support each other. No easy solution. But talk about what's going on. It's perfectly normal to feel lost and out of your depth. Lot's of hugs and tears. Sending you so much love and hugs and rant here when you're overwhelmed xx
 
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Brewtime87

Brewtime87

Well Chinmates, heartbroken to say my wonderful, kind, selfless father in law passed last week. We were all by his side, it was so peaceful. We are now in funeral planning mode, I am beyond proud of how my partner is coping. We've had lots of tears but lots of smiles too as we remember his Dad.
Very worried that once the funeral is over it will get rougher, but we'll stick together and support each other. I've been fortunate enough to have never lost anyone I was close to before this happened. It really bloody sucks doesn't it?!

On a more positive note, I finally moved house and never have to see my crackhead neighbours again.
Although it now appears my new and very elderly male neighbour frequently enjoys watching porn at 8am, I only know this as he's kind enough to have the volume up loud enough for me to have no choice but to listen along to while I work from home. Could only happen to me 🤣
 
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Ah sorry to hear that about your FIL. I did laugh about the elderly porn watcher 🤣🤣. A better option than crackheads though.
Be kind to yourselves x
 
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Betina

Betina

Brewtime87 said:
Well Chinmates, heartbroken to say my wonderful, kind, selfless father in law passed last week. We were all by his side, it was so peaceful. We are now in funeral planning mode, I am beyond proud of how my partner is coping. We've had lots of tears but lots of smiles too as we remember his Dad.
Very worried that once the funeral is over it will get rougher, but we'll stick together and support each other. I've been fortunate enough to have never lost anyone I was close to before this happened. It really bloody sucks doesn't it?!

On a more positive note, I finally moved house and never have to see my crackhead neighbours again.
Although it now appears my new and very elderly male neighbour frequently enjoys watching porn at 8am, I only know this as he's kind enough to have the volume up loud enough for me to have no choice but to listen along to while I work from home. Could only happen to me 🤣
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@Brewtime87 I'm so sorry to hear this news. I hope you and your partner are ok, well as ok as you can be in the present circumstances ❤
 
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JuneJuneHannah

JuneJuneHannah

Check in Chinmates. Looks like a lovely weekend to enjoy your freedom without bars and walls. Imagine how much it would suck to be in jail right now? It would suck almost as much as Jizz does in the shower.
 
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Betina

Betina

Just wanted to wish all of the chinmates, whom celebrate, a very merry Christmas and a happy new year...let's not dwell too much on 17th January 🤢
 
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