Chinmates

[HughJanus]

Unfortunately this is my first Christmas since my husband and I broke up. We are selling our house and I am back living with my mum so I’m going to Mexico for 10 days with my bestie for a well deserved break. Needed to escape as Christmas will be hard, my first without him in 8 years.
(Omg when Jizz asked for Mexico recommendations i shuddered)
I’ll be keeping in check with my fellow Tattlers from the beach sipping a cocktail. Nornally though it’s roast (nutroast for me) all the trimmings and a full day of drinking.

 

[thetrooth]

My boyfriend’s father died on the same day I broke my leg so he’s had to fly back to his home country and probably won’t be back for Christmas. I’ll be confined to my flat for a good few weeks once I’m home so my family are all coming over and cooking Christmas dinner there which should be lovely as I was terrified I’d be alone on Christmas Day

 

[Betina]

Chinmates assemble!

A safe space for us to have a tattle off topic

 

[Kas01980]

Love you lot. What are you guys doing for Christmas? I love Xmas but it can be such a lonely time of year. And what you all doing for food? X

So glad to see you in here as well!!

So Xmas will be spent at my parents, I can't stand 11 days (I don't have to work over Xmas) of being completely alone, 4 or 5 is usually my max! I usually come back to my flat on the 30th of Dec. Roast Chicken for Xmas day lunch (we've never had Turkey), and then I'm responsible for getting loads of M&S party food snacky bits that we have on Boxing Day.All the other days my Mum cooks my fave things that I've always loved

 

[Lmkgirl]

My 15 year old niece was at her bus top in the city tonight (7ish) told her bf to go on home bus was pulling up...anyways when she was on her own a guy in his 40's came up to her asking her was she OK, did she need a date for the night. Then tried to place his coat on her shoulders then tried to hug her while attempting to feel her crotch area.
She just totally froze when this happened. She got away from him and her bf happened to ring to see if she got bus ok and she was screaming hysterically crying down the phone and ran back and met her.
That poor 15 Yr old is at home now crying her eyes out and truly heartbroken....fucking cunt I hope he dies.

 

[yeahyouhun]

I always do Christmas with my small family, and this year is our first without my grandad which will be tough, but we’re going out for a meal this year to save my mum the stress. I’m looking forward to spending my first Christmas Eve with my boyfriend though. I normally stay at my parents but as there is no food to prep I’m staying at home!

Anyone else think this has felt like the longest week ever? I’ve had a cold and felt like shit for 7 days, I’m freezing and exhausted and just want this week to be over!!!

 

[xyzcba]

Bloody love an excuse to day drink! Handily my brother is always up for it, my husband less so so he heads to bed early so he doesn't see the carnage

We're hosting this year as our baby's first Christmas - frankly exhausted at the thought of having my Mum stay for 4 nights but hey ho!

We'll be doing turkey & beef because why not.

I shall be adding brandy cream to my morning coffee from about the 22nd.

And absolutely won't be having toad in the hole, pigs in blankets, vol u vents, corn dogs or any sort of creamy white sauce.

 

[Maniac2003]

Setting up this thread was chinsperational.......thank you

 

[thetrooth]

I hope everyone has a really really lovely Christmas. You all deserve it so much

my boyfriend is in his home country. Helping his family after his dad has died. But he still managed to find time to go on a dating app behind my back. I’m so fucking done with this life it’s unbelievable.

 

[Rach88]

Gone to the pub with my pal you know Christmas drinks well i dont drink and this oldish male comes over tells us we're gorgeous etc and tries to take selfies with us saying oh if i could get one id save it for wank bank i went you dont know us please can you go away this is uncomfortable got him removed thankfully but why this wasnt for main thread so glad this chat is available for rants haha why cant we just go to the pub or anywhere without being harassed

 

[Lmkgirl]

Aww that's sounds nice , sorry to hear about your grandad . I also have a tiny family, me, my mum and Dad. Brother may pop in for a visit

I've felt like crap for 2 weeks now. Without going into TMI, my appendix burst in 2016 and I didn't go straight to the hospital. It developed into peritonitis as well and my bowel burst and the whole thing almost finished me off, and took six hours of surgery to patch me up. I have no end of problems with errrrmmm toilet business which leaves me in agony inside my entire abdomen for days on end. I had a particularly bad bout of it 2 weeks ago and then got some sort of gastric virus on top of it. Every evening I've got home from work and practically crawled into bed at 7pm feeling rough as shit....yesterday was the first good day with no issues

I hope you feel better soon

Awww Kas sorry to hear this..sending love from Ireland my auld buddy....and for anyone else struggling at the moment.
I believe the weather ye got in UK was a million times worse than what we got here but hoping ye are all safe x

I moved back in with my parents when I got ill 7 years ago. Basically been sick for 7 years and this is my first Christmas cancer free....a lot of pressure I'm feeling to be all happy and sparkly but I'm recovering from a huge surgery and I'm wrecked all the time but on the other side I'm so grateful to be where I am right now....Christmas is hard time of year also when you've been without a partner or someone to share things with you become self isolating in your mind.

I'm thrilled to read all your stories about spending time with family and new partners ...I hope ye all have an amazing time.

ETA...I will definitely be checking in here Christmas Day

As @Kas01980 knows I would be lost without Tattle and all ye lovely ppl...I do love ye all

 

[Brian Butterfield]

Aww that's sounds nice , sorry to hear about your grandad . I also have a tiny family, me, my mum and Dad. Brother may pop in for a visit

I've felt like crap for 2 weeks now. Without going into TMI, my appendix burst in 2016 and I didn't go straight to the hospital. It developed into peritonitis as well and my bowel burst and the whole thing almost finished me off, and took six hours of surgery to patch me up. I have no end of problems with errrrmmm toilet business which leaves me in agony inside my entire abdomen for days on end. I had a particularly bad bout of it 2 weeks ago and then got some sort of gastric virus on top of it. Every evening I've got home from work and practically crawled into bed at 7pm feeling rough as shit....yesterday was the first good day with no issues

I hope you feel better soon

Oh Kas, you have my sympathies, that sounds horrific! I have ulcerative colitis (an inflammatory bowel disease) and I'm constantly sick. It's so bloody draining. Its made harder by the fact that my husband is not remotely sympathetic so I get no support.

I hope your mum and dad wait on you hand and foot over Christmas!

 

[Brewtime87]

Hiya Chinmates, how are we all?
Sorry in advance for such a depressing post, but I'm having a really awful time lately and needed a safe private space to talk.
My partners father is at the end of his life after a shock cardiac arrest last month. He hadn't been unwell prior, so it came totally out of the blue. We really thought he was going to wake up after a few days, but here we are four weeks later having been told he suffered severe brain damage from the cardiac arrest and isn't going to recover or wake up. They are slowly removing the machines and are going to let his body come to a natural end.
We are only in our 30s so just never expected to go through anything like this at this point of our lives. My partners Dad is one of the kindest, most selfless people you could meet, the sort of guy who would do anything for anyone.
I am trying to be strong for my partner but I have cried every single day for the past few weeks and I feel like I'm absolutely no use.
I know in the coming days it's going to get a thousand times worse and I am absolutely dreading it, I don't know how to help navigate him and myself through grief, I am one of life's 'fixers', but this is something that I just can't fix and my heart is breaking about it all.
If anyone can offer any advice on how best to support my partner, I'd love to hear it because right now I'm feeling totally out of my depth

 

[Kas01980]

I always do Christmas with my small family, and this year is our first without my grandad which will be tough, but we’re going out for a meal this year to save my mum the stress. I’m looking forward to spending my first Christmas Eve with my boyfriend though. I normally stay at my parents but as there is no food to prep I’m staying at home!

Anyone else think this has felt like the longest week ever? I’ve had a cold and felt like shit for 7 days, I’m freezing and exhausted and just want this week to be over!!!

Aww that's sounds nice , sorry to hear about your grandad . I also have a tiny family, me, my mum and Dad. Brother may pop in for a visit

I've felt like crap for 2 weeks now. Without going into TMI, my appendix burst in 2016 and I didn't go straight to the hospital. It developed into peritonitis as well and my bowel burst and the whole thing almost finished me off, and took six hours of surgery to patch me up. I have no end of problems with errrrmmm toilet business which leaves me in agony inside my entire abdomen for days on end. I had a particularly bad bout of it 2 weeks ago and then got some sort of gastric virus on top of it. Every evening I've got home from work and practically crawled into bed at 7pm feeling rough as shit....yesterday was the first good day with no issues

I hope you feel better soon

 

[Kas01980]

I'm feeling the love in here Chinmates! In some way his guilty verdict has brought us all close without even trying

 

[Rach88]

Bit of a joke ive been banned of Instagram for 48 hours for saying the word bastard in a comment someones obv reported it which is pathetic af but convicted sex offenders can stay on there whaat a joke

 

[Kas01980]

They absolutely fascinate me. I think I'd be a bit scared at first, I have an irrational fear of not knowing what's below.. so open sea, lakes, stuff like that. So initially I'd be absolutely crapping myself but once I'm in there for a while I'd love it. The fact they’ve been there for however long amazes me. Silly question but are there any fish or anything in the water?

Mountains really do it for me, I love getting up high and looking down at the view. It makes me feel so small and puts life into perspective for me. So whenever I'm feeling particularly down or anxious, I will drive somewhere with some big hills or mountains and go for a mega hike I was hoping to go last weekend, but I'm scared of driving somewhere remote when the roads are icy

There weren't any in the cenotes, being that most of the fish on the Carribean side of Mexico are tropical fish I think the cenotes are too cold for them, plus they made up of a mixture of saltwater and freshwater (not sure if that matters). The water is crystal clear so you can always see what's beneath you. The hardest thing is going through the tunnels and trying to avoid the staligmites with your helmet as you aren't supposed to touch them, personally the life jackets you have to wear are a hindrance as they push you up and you have to keep your head down. Here are some pics...including the group I was in. The guy at the front was the guide who I still chat to now. What that guy knows about cenotes, the ocean, and Mexico in general is fascinating. We also did diving with turtles as well which is something I've always wanted to do. Not sure if you've swum with dolphins but I recommend that as well, I've done it a few times now, Cuba and in Mexico, also an amazing, and somewhat emotional, experience. Also went to Chichen Itza..Mayan Temples...it's a long day from Playa Del Carmen, but worth it...4 hours each way on a coach

It honestly is amazing, I think everyone is apprehensive at first but I couldn't wait to get in there and I loved every minute. Loved all of it, can't really afford to go back yet but may treat myself to Dominican next year....it'll be a massive step for me, big solo voyage, but I've achieved so much than I though I could since I left my ex, there's no reason I can't. It'll be good for my confidence

I have never been up a mountain! Only the ones in Wales, but I'd love to go to a proper beautiful snowy ones in Switzerland.

Sorry for such an essay, if I had my way I'd spend the rest of my days travelling, there's so many places I want to see and I would love to feel that freedom

Edit: The turtles and cenotes pics aren't great quality as Icouldn't get them to download to my phone as we got given a USB stick with the pics on. Had to plug it into the tv and take pics of the TV! USB stick is long gone (thanks to my ex) so the TV pics are the only ones I've got of that day.

 

[Elle Woods]

 

[Kas01980]

I'm keeping the cane for now

 

[Brewtime87]

Well Chinmates, heartbroken to say my wonderful, kind, selfless father in law passed last week. We were all by his side, it was so peaceful. We are now in funeral planning mode, I am beyond proud of how my partner is coping. We've had lots of tears but lots of smiles too as we remember his Dad.
Very worried that once the funeral is over it will get rougher, but we'll stick together and support each other. I've been fortunate enough to have never lost anyone I was close to before this happened. It really bloody sucks doesn't it?!

On a more positive note, I finally moved house and never have to see my crackhead neighbours again.
Although it now appears my new and very elderly male neighbour frequently enjoys watching porn at 8am, I only know this as he's kind enough to have the volume up loud enough for me to have no choice but to listen along to while I work from home. Could only happen to me