Smca53
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In my experience though people with kids tend to act like you just don’t understand life at all if you’ve not got your own and it’s very condescending.People comment regardless though honestly, you can never get it right. No kids, too many kids, keep trying for a boy, keep trying for a girl, nursery, no nursery, BF or bottle etc. If not this then everything else in your life. It’s your life and your choice, you who would have to be pregnant, give birth and care for the child, so no one else’s opinion matters (other than your partner obvs lol). Don’t worry yourself with what anyone else has to say because even if they agreed, you’d just do something else they scorned at, it’s human nature.
I think something the CBFC thread gets right is acknowledging that it’s actually a really unhelpful narrative from parents that you don’t know love until you’ve been a parent, you don’t know anything like it til you’ve been a parent, blah blah blah, as if your life is empty without it. IMO the ‘you don’t know anything like it’ gatekeeping of understanding basic human emotions such as love just makes people on the fence massively roll their eyes and get put further off. Although admittedly as an outsider its often easy to realise that a lot of the time it comes from a place of bitterness and/or trying to convince themselves that they’re actually happy with their decision
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But it’s still something people without children hear all the time, this idea that you’re not fulfilled without it, whereas having children is still seen as the ‘norm’. A lot of the things you mention about BF or non BF or whatever seems to be from mums tearing other mums apart to feel better about themselves (at least I assume? It seems toxic anyway), other people literally couldn’t give a shit about any of that.